Would this message bother you? And how would you expect your Oh to reply?

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Dp slipped up so he says and told his colleagues we're expecting another baby, small age gap so it's been a shock for us both.

Anyway, he had a few messages via WhatsApp congratulations and what not. He handed me the phone to read one from a mutual friend and in the process I saw one from a female colleague saying congratulations but followed by: bet that's a good year of no sex for you then and the emoji smirking smiley face. I was a bit hmm, he's not particularly close to her or anything and I'm not worried about anything else going on but it's not really appropriate is it?
But his reply was: I know right 😫. Which I'm more annoyed about. He said he took it as her joking about me getting pregnant so soon and replied in a jokey, Yep there's no chance she'll let me near her again way.

I don't actually know what I'd expect him to reply if I'm honest but I just feel like what he put is a bit disrespectful. But I'm pregnant and my hormones are crazy so don't know if I'm overreacting.
If I was one of his mates I wouldn't mind as they know us and I'd know it was said jokingly.

It's joke. Banter (I hate that word, but it's what it is). You're overreacting.

^^ that.

It's just twatty office banter. Fairly standard.

Office banter.

I think that's just a conversation ender.

Otherwise he had the options of not replying and seeming rude or saying something that might sound suggestive.

It is a bit inappropriate, yes. I personally would not message that to a male colleague (or even a male friend I knew well.)

But there will be plenty of people who would look at that as a bit of a risque, but ultimately harmless, joke - especially when viewed through the perspective he's given you.

So inappropriate to some (including me) and not necessarily inappropriate to others. In which case the important thing is how you feel about it. If it's not ok with you, it's not ok with you. And if it's not ok with you, you can say so.

I would hate it if DH said that.

Regardless of how it was meant he’s diffused it in a jokey way

It's just jokey banter don't worry

Congratulations

Thanks! He said it was just a joke and I'm not worried about anything else between them.
I told him I didn't like his reply @ChippyPickledEggs. Maybe slightly less rationally than that. He apologised but said he didn't want to not reply and what would I rather he put.
Which I couldn't answer.

For me, I'd wonder what their relationship was like in order for her to feel familiar enough to send such a message to him.

That message, joke or not shows a certain level of comfort.

He apologised but said he didn't want to not reply and what would I rather he put.

Ignoring the message would have been more effective if he disapproved of her comment IMO.

That's what I would have done and I think it would have made her realise, she probably crossed a line.

It does sound like 'banter' (hate that word too)
BUT I don't get why she thinks you'll not be having sex for a year just because you're pregnant? So he could have pointed out how wrong she was to assume that.

Makes me think they have already had conversations about his sex life during your pregnancy. A coworker doesn't just start texting about sex without a foundation having already been created.

Yes, what OldWoman said. Odd comment to come out of a clear blue sky.

Personally I find it inappropriate. I’d not say this to a male colleague in any circumstances. Very odd.

I appreciate most people say it’s just office banter

Some people just do make comments like hers - I don’t think it implies at all that they’ve been having conversations about his sex life.

I’d see it as a joke.

It’s cool. The pained emoji implies that he likes having sex with you and he’s closed it down.

It’s not as ideal as, Oh just fuck off, Sharon but it’s not the end of the world. If he’d say, Thank god! Or, Maybe you could step up to the task, then I’d be worried.

It's not the greatest comment. He may have been trying to end the conversation and been a bit clumsy. I would ask him not to talk about me in that way, even as a joke, in future and leave it at that.

Depending on the workplace culture it could be just how they all talk to each other.

It's not something I would ever say, or even think tbh, but if that's the way the workplace operates it's probably nothing to worry about.

I wouldn't like to read that OP, and would never write that to a work colleague, but people can be weird and inappropriate with their jokes at work/with colleagues. It does sound like it was a jokey comment/exchange.

I don't reference sex at work, but i notice SO many people do. Either cringey innuendo or people full on delving into discussing sex lives and we've only just met. I find it bizarre. I'm no prude either.

That's what I thought @SandyY2K. It's too personal, but he's not close to her they don't even really see each other at work. He says she's just like that, it's mostly men that work there so maybe she's just developed that 'lads banter' style to fit in.
He says he's definitely never spoke about our sex life and things remained good when I was pregnant last time so he had nothing to complain about anyway.

He says he read it as after the baby is born in a, so I don't get pregnant again way. But I read it as throughout pregnancy and straight after the baby is born.

I wouldn’t be very impressed. What’s his sex life got to do with her?