Would this message bother you? And how would you expect your Oh to reply?

[NotReadyForThisX2]

Dp slipped up so he says and told his colleagues we're expecting another baby, small age gap so it's been a shock for us both.

Anyway, he had a few messages via WhatsApp congratulations and what not. He handed me the phone to read one from a mutual friend and in the process I saw one from a female colleague saying congratulations but followed by: bet that's a good year of no sex for you then and the emoji smirking smiley face. I was a bit hmm, he's not particularly close to her or anything and I'm not worried about anything else going on but it's not really appropriate is it?
But his reply was: I know right 😫. Which I'm more annoyed about. He said he took it as her joking about me getting pregnant so soon and replied in a jokey, Yep there's no chance she'll let me near her again way.

I don't actually know what I'd expect him to reply if I'm honest but I just feel like what he put is a bit disrespectful. But I'm pregnant and my hormones are crazy so don't know if I'm overreacting.
If I was one of his mates I wouldn't mind as they know us and I'd know it was said jokingly.

She is absolutely after him. I'd be tempted to message her and say that if she sends your Partner any more photo's, you'll be reporting her to HR. I'd probably wait until another "accidental" picture arrives though. Just for the avoidance of doubt.

I won't actually message her. I'm just shocked at myself that it's bothering me so much. I think she might be there HR department @Huskylover1.

She is in their HR department? Oh the irony.

NotReady, it would bother many of us. Sending a message with a sexual reference was bad enough, and now she has escalated with a cleavage/short skirt photo. Mistakenly sent? Not a chance.

Your partner’s remark to her that you both “thought it was a bit weird” was priceless and likely popped her balloon.

I don't think they have one as such @MsDogLady. There's her and three others who do the office side of the company, wages, holidays, expenses etc. It's not like my company at all, our HR is separate.

Fucking hell shes blatent!

Fingers crossed she’s got the message! He’s so plainly uninterested. I hope she doesn’t embarrass herself further, I’m cringing for her.

She really is isn't she @HappyLife21. Dp actually thinks it could be a mistake though, he doesn't see what she's so obviously doing.
He's not interested at all though no @ConfCall. So I do really hope she's realised that.

The bloody cheek though commenting on photos of my baby and then trying it on with his dad.

TBH. It could be a mistake. I have one friend I WhatsApp a lot, most other people I text, because WhatsApp is usually open on my main friends contact I have on occasion sent messages meant for her, not realising it wasn’t open on her contact. Thankfully nothing too odd/embarrassing etc. ...but that was 100% luck 😳😖🤣

I have got a few messages from contacts that weren’t meant for me too. I got one the other day that I was 😳😳😳 from a guy I have business dealings with, I was wondering how the hell to deal with it when he sent a ‘mortified’ message...it was meant for his newish Gf...he just didn’t tell his phone that before typing it. Thank fuck it didn’t contain photos, it’s going to be difficult enough to erase the mental image 🤣

Obviously she could be trying it on, but equally it could be a mistake. Try not to get too annoyed/upset, your DH is a good bloke and loves YOU.

I'd feel like you notready** but as others have said it's probably best to just hold your head high and ignore her.

That's what Dp said @IncrediblySadToo. But with the other message and the wait before she sent the 'sorry wrong person' message, even though she was online.
I'm not buying it!

You might be right 🤷🏻‍♀️

But I can see myself posting it*, not getting a reply from —anyone— a specific friend, sending her a WhatsApp message, wondering a bit later why she hasn’t replied then realising what I’ve done 🤦🏻‍♀️ As I said, mine haven’t been too mortifying, but they could have been 😖

Sometimes we are right and sometimes we are winding ourselves up over someone else’s mistake.

Anyway, she’s no threat to you and DP, don’t give her any more head space.

Baby names are MUCH more fun to think about 😊

Oh and as for ‘being online’ my APP tells me I’m online for something like 8 hours a day...yep, the phone or Ipad might be, doesn’t mean I’m actually looking at it, I’d have square eyes🤣

Maybe I am being paranoid @IncrediblySadToo.

Actually my DH had similar thing, long while ago so im a bit hazy on it, but one work colleague made my antenna twitch. Lots of 'husband moved into spare room, I miss sex, im so low, need a friend' stuff. I told him to watch out, he said she just needed a friend nothing more. It took a while but we saw a pattern in her behaviour, when he was off she always had a crisis that involved lots of texts. She also 'mistakenly' sent a dirty text, about being wet and horny that was supposed to go to her DH.
Took a while but he finally saw the pattern. I think your DH will too now she's been so blatant and you've pointed it out, her next flirtation attempt will just enlighten him.

I think she was definitely fishing. She had the back up plan sorted if he didn't respond, "oh sorry that was a mistake!" Funny how it took her an hour to text that. I would know straight away if I texted the wrong person.

It's sad though, shows how cold and manipulative some women can be. The type to get a thrill out of being with a married man.

That's what I thought @ukgift2016 it was the delay in the 'oh, sorry that wasn't for you' message. She knows me though I've met her and she's been lovely and then the comments on photos of the three of us. I just don't get women like that at all though, if she's after a shag there's plenty of single men surely and if she wants a relationship then surely she doesn't want someone who's willing to cheat anyway.

Oh for goodness sake you naive people!!! Of course it wasn't a mistake she blatantly knew what she was doing!!

Fuck sake are people that innocent??

Anyway @NotReadyForThisX2 I could kiss your dh and his "Me and notready thought it was weird!!" What a man!! I'd love to have seen her face!

However, this will go one of 2 ways, it will make her chase more or make her give up.

You and dh need to delete and block her from social media, you don't need people like her knowing what you're doing. She's no friend of either of you.

That sad lonely woman is no threat to you but she needs to know her place! Block and delete, don't let anything feed into her weird fantasy!

I doubt it was a mistake. She left too long between the messages and I think she sent that when she didn't get a response.

I've known that trick of sending pics before used by men and women. In one case after the dic pic had got him in the door, she asked who it was intended for and he admitted it was meant for her and he uses that as a way in...as it works for him.

You'll never know for sure, but ignoring her message was good.

That's how I feel @TheGodmother and @SandyY2K. I think a mistake you'd notice and quickly send a sorry. It's not like she messages him often so he's not likely to be top of recent chats or anything either.

He's out with work tonight for someone's leaving do and she's out. I trust him and he's not even staying out long because he's got a early stat tomorrow but I still feel a bit uncomfortable about it. I hate that though, we've never had that type of relationship.

He must know too and be trying to reassure me, he went out straight from work and he's sent a few more texts than he usually would, just letting me know where he is, asking if Ds is asleep yet, silly stuff that he wouldn't usually and I certainly wouldn't expect him to.

I do want to text to ask if the outfit in the photo is what she's wearing tonight. I won't because, I don't really want Dp looking too closely and he's absolutely useless so probably wouldn't know anyway

He's a keeper! Honesty he sounds great!

And yeah def don't ask him what she's wearing. I know you wouldn't.

Sad lonely cow, how desperate is she to chase a married man with a pregnant wife. She's got big issues but she's not your problem. Although got to admit her looking at pics of my newborn would give me the creeps. I'd have to delete her off social media!

Don't worry OP.... your DP has it covered.

It's quite sad to see how desperate some women can be really.

She's coming across as someone with low confidence, seeking an ego boost and quite insecure.

He can be pretty great, but we aren't married @TheGodmother. Maybe that's why she's thinks he's up for grabs 😂. We are getting married next year though.

He's already on his way home and he's going to bring pizza.

Nah she's doesn't care wether's a ring or not, it's the chase, but do not ever think of her again! And don't mention her when dp comes home!

Sounds like you have a great 'un, fantastic to see on Mnet for a change ;)

She's got the classic moves of a 'dog whistle'.

The "oh this wasn't meant for you" bit is classic but rather embarrassing for her now as it hasn't worked.

She'd have to be quite desperate persistent to try anything else, she obviously read the reply to her first message as more than it was and has tried her luck with the photo.