DD saw a recent bill from her dad’s solicitor

[Toolonguntilthenextholiday]

At her dad’s place, with a headline ‘Separation from Toolonguntilthenextholiday’ - I don’t understand - we are separated, never married and there is nothing that would require a solicitor.

It kind of worries me - should I ask?

He sounds like a total knob Toolonguntilthenextholiday you have my sympathies!

Does he have to be in your home to look after your dd? I wouldn't want him anywhere near mine.

As pp have said, I wouldn't ask as that would involve your dd.

You may never be contacted by a solicitor if he gets told he’s being an idiot. Or the solicitor might just do as he asks to make a few quid.

If he’s as you said, it won’t make any difference if you ask him anyway

He sounds like an entitled prick

Hopefully the court (if it leads to that) will laugh him out of it

I can't imagine why you ever let this prince go

Btw I provide all the food and everything else when he is looking after DD. He never tops up supplies and I usually return to an empty fridge which is not great after a long haul flight. Not even any milk left for coffee in the morning. I think he tries to consume as much as he can while he is here to spend as much as possible

Is he staying in your house when you’re away? Why is your DD not going to his house?

Does he ever look after your daughter outside of your home or is it only when he stays there? If it is then I’m not sure what he thinks he can claim for, you should charge him for B&B

Seek advice from the old solicitor as they'll do all they can to piss him off if he's not paid them 😉

User he just opens his mail and then leaves it on a table, I think he just left it there for no reason.

It’s just the invoice, no visible content other than the reason for the invoice ‘separation’. We are separated.

Lemon correct - he is a convenient and free babysitter. DD is ok with him and treats him like the ‘crazy uncle’ and there is nothing really that she could unintentionally pass on to him and it would not bother me if she did. But I can’t really ask him, because this may backfire on her. I don’t want him to talk to DD about it. He is weird enough as it is.

I wouldn’t mention it as you will have to explain how you know.

^^ This.

I'd also be very uncomfortable about having someone so untrustworthy staying in my own home. Do you keep all your personal papers locked away?

Why does he stay in your house when you are away?

Have you checked out his accounts to see how profitable (or otherwise) his company is? His company really may not be profitable at all despite paying dividends (which are obviously low in view of the £20 the CMS think he should pay).

DD is 14 and she wants to stay in her own home where she has her books she needs for school and everything else. It’s too much hassle to pack all that stuff for three days at a time. She is happier at home.

User he is taking enough dividends to pay for an expensive car and extravagant lifestyle. But his company is probably in the red figures.

I really wouldn't want him unsupervised under my roof snooping through paperwork etc. It does sound as though he's fishing for 'maintenance '

All my personal papers are on my laptop or locked away. There is nothing much to see anyway that he doesn’t know about.

He is a great irritation in my life.

I hope all your paperwork is under lock and key then.

Plenty of people pay for my time so I can tell them there is nothing they can do, that they are being an arse, and that they don't have a leg to stand on.

I'd worry about it when they actually do something.

Windygate he is always fishing to get money wherever he goes. Taking me to court for maintenance would not surprise me.

Well, she'll soon enough be of an age where babysitters aren't needed then he can be out of your life.

Could the separation letter be related to his business?

Is it possible that you may be down somewhere as having some kind of an interest in it?
Just that this is something I have known people to do, in order to avoid tax be tax efficient.
Especially someone who has form for going to great lengths to avoid paying their dues.
Did he own they business when you were together?

It would be pretty dodgy though if he had done this without you knowing.

That would be so funny if he took it to court for maintenance for so little time!

I understand it may be convenient but I think it's a mistake to let him have access to your home. At 14 I know my DC would generally only need WiFi and basics. This mixin him with your home may be helping to perpetuate his sense of entitlement.

You could give the new solicitor the heads up that he never paid the last one.

Does seem that he's after maintanice from you.

NC5148 she can’t stay at his home, there is no space for her.

Yes I literally have to kick him out every time and he loves trying to engage me in personal conversation, but I usually tell him that I don’t have time to talk to him.

Well, no one can tell you what he has been up to but it won't get far if he can't actually pay his legal bills. And it doesn't sound like he has any claim. Maintenance for looking after his own daughter in your house about 25% of the month whilst he pays you nothing for the 75%. Laughable!

Sounds like he is shit with money and will do anything to get some. Maybe he is desperate. And because he is thick he hasn't realised accumulating legal fees is going to make things worse. Better off selling his soiled underwear on Craigslist.

Your DD sounds nice. I would try not to worry about it too much for now. Good chance nothing will ever come of whatever this is. Worry about whatever petulant issue it is when you get something from the solicitor. If ever.
How much was the invoice for? Might give you an idea how much time he has invested in whatever this is.