My boyfriend in the first year of our relationship was sending and receiving naked pics from girls on Snapchat and then lying that it was a software error.
I later found out he was on these dating websites and escort websites and was even offering himself to be a male escort for money,
In the second year I found out he has been cheating on me with escorts over and over and he must have connected with one emotionally because he let one in his work place (as he was a career) and she later reported him for it, he got sacked because of that!
I still stayed with him and he is severely dyslexic so I helped him find a job as a bus driver. He then had to move to Chelmsford
I also later found out on his DBS that he got in trouble with the police for trying to chat up an underaged girl who was in her school uniform.
Soon his discharge from work due to letting a prostitute in will probably appear on the dbs
Later last year I caught messages on his phone trying to book a different prostitutes and even when I showed him the proof he STILL denied it and said someone had hacked his phone, I later found out he had been using another phone to do this! And it showed on I message.
We agreed I could keep the phone for a bit of reassurance that he isnt using it for these stuff
Not long after, the phone was missing,
He listened to me on the phone looking for the phone and crying and kept denying he took it, it took him two days to finally admit he took it, cruelty at its best.
After three years of being together I recently found out that he has been going on plenty of fish.
Aside all of these things he cannot tell the truth to save his life, he is constantly lying even when he doesn’t need to.
The first time he cheated I got so hurt and upset and wanted to hurt him so I went and cheated on him twice. And I sent him the audio recording so it could cut him deep. I know that was wrong but I am so bitter and resent him. I am the most loyal person ever but he hurt me sooo soo much he’s just done too many stuff and so I feel like I have changed into this careless person.
Recently I went to sleep at another guys house and wanked him off after me and my bf had an argument.
My bf found out and forgave me.
I still feel that he has done way more than me and both times I have cheated it has been out of pain and betrayal
But when he has cheated it has just been for no reason at all because I do have sex with him, so that means it’s just something he wants to do.
Cheating is wrong anyway I understand that.
We are still together but things are now falling apart
I have got a really good job in Bristol and my boyfriend agreed to move with me and put in a transfer with his bus company
But we argued last week so I left for a few days and when I came back all of a sudden he said he wanted space and he doesn’t want to go to Bristol anymore anymore
We talked a bit and he said he will only go once I get confirmation for my start date( it’s with hmrc and they recruit almost a year in advance ), the problem is that is that they not give start dates a month in advance and it is likely his transfer will take longer than that ( he knows this ). I feel like this is a way to get me to go and he will never come.
But the plan was to move there and start a new life
The past few days he has said he will go then when we argue all of a sudden he says he doesn’t want to, he first said it’s cause he’s settled in and it took him a lot of hard work to learn to be a bus driver due to his learning disability. ( even though he’s got a transfer with the same company). Then he said it’s risky cause we are not stable, but I’m taking the same risk tho. Just excuses excuses.
First he said he hasn’t cancelled his transfer, then later he said he had. I have anxiety and this lying just puts me on edge, he knows this.
I have made him understand that if he doesn’t come with me in July this relationship is over because I have invested so much time in him supported him in uni because he didn’t even know he was severely dyslexic and was ignoring the signs, he couldn’t finish uni but that first year I did most of his assignments along side my own for uni.
Every job he has ever gotten I have helped him prepare for the interview and taken tests for him, he knows how hard I have worked throughout uni and I finally got a job above 31 k related to what I Studied in uni so now it’s his turn to support me.
I am not doing no long distance I feel I deserve bette than that from him after everything I have done for him.
I feel so hurt and i know that this relationship has gotten so bad but I don’t want to give up.