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37 weeks and my boyfriend just said

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brexitisamare · 24/03/2019 00:46

He will "smash my face in".

He's playing a game online downstairs, fine. But he was screaming at it and it woke me up so I text him asking him to please keep it down.

He text me back telling me to "fuck off".

So I turned the WiFi off (it's in our bedroom). Quite childish of me now I look back but I was absolutely furious at being woken up and told to fuck off when I hadn't actually done anything wrong.

He came banging up the stairs, punched the bedroom door and said "if you ever do that again I will smash this whole house up and I'll smash your face in".

And he turned it back on, slammed the door, said something about wishing we weren't having our baby and now he's back downstairs playing whatever he's playing and I'm sat in bed shaking.

I realise my behaviour here was a bit childish but surely nothing warrants that? I don't think he will come back up or do anything providing I don't touch the internet (I'm not going to move now at all).

He's quite a calm person and I guess I've seen him angry before but nothing like this and he's never threatened me before. I cannot believe that's just happened. I don't even know why I'm posting I just don't know what to do now I'm sat here shaking and trying to calm myself down as I am heavily pregnant with this horrible mans child.

I can't leave because I don't have anywhere to go at this hour and to be honest the thought of having to go downstairs right now petrifies me.

I guess I just need a handhold here 😞

OP posts:
Auntpetunia2015 · 25/03/2019 17:52

Been thinking about you all day. Hope all is ok and you’ve been able to tell the staff what you’ve been through they will make sure you and baby are safe before leaving xx

boraboroff · 25/03/2019 17:53

Thinking of you so much OP. I hope you can feel how much we all care and are rooting for you. I was married for many years to an abusive man and the physical abuse started during pregnancy. It's so horribly common. You are a very strong and resilient woman for making the decision to leave now. You are already a brilliant mum as you are putting the safety of your little girl first. Well done. You have my utmost respect. Just rest and let the medics look after you. You are in the best place. Thanks

Pantsomime · 25/03/2019 17:57

OP sending you all good wishes and strength

Fannybaws52 · 25/03/2019 18:00

We are all cheering for you, OP! Flowers

Hope you and baby are well and the wank you left at home leaves before you get back.

Weejo39 · 25/03/2019 18:00

brexit had all the signs of pre-eclampsia or even HELLP syndrome on top of a useless waste of space who threatened her and sat drinking laughing and shouting whilst gaming for two days solid people. For some of those commenting its clear you didn't read the thread.Angry It's not advice about her 'DP' she needs right now. Her life and that of her baby girl might be in danger here.

Hope you're doing ok OP and are in good hands at the hospital surrounded by family. Flowers

honeylane · 25/03/2019 18:11

Hope you are OK OP ThanksThanks

user1498572889 · 25/03/2019 18:12

I hope everything is ok with you and the baby. Please update when you can 💕💐

Hippywannabe · 25/03/2019 18:35

Been thinking of you too. Don't worry about any doubters. These things move fast when finally confronted.you know things haven't been right for a while and now, faced with this huge life event, your self protection and mothering instinct have kicked in allowing you to focus on it and deal with it.
Please tell him nothing and get yourself away from him. You and your baby deserve the very best.
People on here will help you with practical advice, there may even be someone local who can help with support in person, even if it is just a coffee and chat x

Propertywoes · 25/03/2019 18:40

Another one thinking of you op. Hope you're ok. Flowers

forumdonkey · 25/03/2019 18:41

You've also been in my thoughts. 💐

Pinkybutterfly · 25/03/2019 18:53

Op hope everything is fine, please let as know how you are getting on please xxxx lots of hugs and kisses

YemenRoadYemen · 25/03/2019 18:58

I hope everything is OK brexit.

I can't believe your partner would see you walk out of the house and get into a taxi and not react somehow. I do hope you're OK. Thanks

Soubriquet · 25/03/2019 18:58

Hi OP, I do hope everything is ok.

Please don’t worry about us, just focus on yourself, but if you do get a few minutes spare, a quick update would be much appreciated x

SleepyFlump · 25/03/2019 19:17

Thinking of you and wishing you well BiscuitThanks

SleepyFlump · 25/03/2019 19:20

The biscuit was a mistake! But maybe if I were to be visiting you, I'd bring something yummy to eat as well as a big bunch of flowers!

LabradorMama · 25/03/2019 20:01

Thinking of you OP, hope all is well x

EnchantingRaven · 25/03/2019 20:03

Oh OP, just read the full thread - what a strong lady you are! Flowers

I hope you okay and the hospital have finally given you the right advice / care you need. I’m also 37 weeks pregnant and could not imagine the stress of all on this top of being pregnant. Please do be kind yourself and take care of you and your LO!

Thinking of you Flowers

AhhhHereItGoes · 25/03/2019 20:21

Been thinking of you.

I hope you're safe and either at home with your family, in hospital having a plan to deliver that lovely baby inside you or you've been induced and you're already having snuggles.

Reply only when it's safe for you to do so. Either way, rest up.

MidnightMystery · 25/03/2019 20:26

Thinking of you OP. Thanks

doodleygirl · 25/03/2019 20:39

Just read your whole thread. Hope you are ok and being looked after Flowers

iwillkeepthishouseclean · 25/03/2019 20:39

Hope you're well and please don't go back x

Muddytoes1 · 25/03/2019 20:59

Hope you’re ok Flowers

Merename · 25/03/2019 21:13

Another voice to say how strong you have been and hoping that you and little one are well just now Flowers

OrgasmicScalp · 25/03/2019 21:25

I've been checking back all day hoping you are ok. Sending strength and love to you and your little one xx

PrivateMum222 · 25/03/2019 21:29

I've been checking back all day @brexitisamare, please let us know how you are ...