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37 weeks and my boyfriend just said

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brexitisamare · 24/03/2019 00:46

He will "smash my face in".

He's playing a game online downstairs, fine. But he was screaming at it and it woke me up so I text him asking him to please keep it down.

He text me back telling me to "fuck off".

So I turned the WiFi off (it's in our bedroom). Quite childish of me now I look back but I was absolutely furious at being woken up and told to fuck off when I hadn't actually done anything wrong.

He came banging up the stairs, punched the bedroom door and said "if you ever do that again I will smash this whole house up and I'll smash your face in".

And he turned it back on, slammed the door, said something about wishing we weren't having our baby and now he's back downstairs playing whatever he's playing and I'm sat in bed shaking.

I realise my behaviour here was a bit childish but surely nothing warrants that? I don't think he will come back up or do anything providing I don't touch the internet (I'm not going to move now at all).

He's quite a calm person and I guess I've seen him angry before but nothing like this and he's never threatened me before. I cannot believe that's just happened. I don't even know why I'm posting I just don't know what to do now I'm sat here shaking and trying to calm myself down as I am heavily pregnant with this horrible mans child.

I can't leave because I don't have anywhere to go at this hour and to be honest the thought of having to go downstairs right now petrifies me.

I guess I just need a handhold here 😞

OP posts:
ThisThatAndTother · 25/03/2019 12:10

Come on hen, get yourself away.

toddle · 25/03/2019 12:26

Really hope your being taken care of and feeling a bit better.

I had pre eclampsia too and I had obviously been suffering symptoms a while without realising so try not to beat yourself up about it if that's the case here x

minmooch · 25/03/2019 13:12

Wishing you well Op.

BigApple11 · 25/03/2019 13:12

How are you op?

HouseOfToys · 25/03/2019 13:18

Thinking of you OP. Hope you're ok. X

Butterflyone1 · 25/03/2019 13:28

You can't possibly stay with a man that makes threats to you, especially as you're pregnant.

I was in an emotional abusive relationship with someone who always threated to cause damage to my home and kill my dog. It was hell that time and I wouldn't wish it on anyone.

You need to explain to him that he is about to be a Father and if he can not deal with that, then leave. You can't be scared every time he loses a damn game - it's pathetic for everyone involved.

I know it won't be easy but you must have a calm conversation with him and explain in no uncertain term if he ever makes a threat like that again, he's gone from your life.

ScarletBitch · 25/03/2019 13:30

What a disgusting man he is threatening to smash his heavily pregnant partners face in.

Please leave him ASAP and protect yourself and baby from him.

ScarletBitch · 25/03/2019 13:48

Does he work OP? Kick him out, take his name off the tenancy, claim Housing Benefit or UC, and when baby is here apply for Child Maintenance.

loobylou10 · 25/03/2019 13:58

Wishing people would read the thread before replying. OP - hope you're ok Thanks

ooItsAoBeautifulDayNow · 25/03/2019 14:08

Really hope you're ok - if you get chance to update us then we can support you with any practical questions or next steps - and some unmumsnetty hugs. You can do this, you're already putting you baby first and that's amazing - we're all rooting for you x

ScarletBitch · 25/03/2019 14:09

@loobylou10 was that aimed at me?

loobylou10 · 25/03/2019 14:42

Yes scarlet - the OP is now in hospital.

Tentomidnight · 25/03/2019 14:44

Hope you’re being looked after and that you and your baby are well. Thinking of you x

Catlover97 · 25/03/2019 15:01

Also watching this thread and crossing everything that you and your little one are ok Flowers

angieloumc · 25/03/2019 15:58

Hope you are well OP and that you've managed to tell someone in real life what is happening with that waste of space. Thinking of you.

chilledteacher · 25/03/2019 16:11

Thinking of you OP, hope you and your little girl are ok and getting the hope you need and that you've found the strength to tell someone in RL about the useless, abusive waste of oxygen space that you live with. Thanks

chilledteacher · 25/03/2019 16:11

Help you need

Princesspeachy0 · 25/03/2019 16:15

Hope u and baby are ok OP Flowers

AmIBU123 · 25/03/2019 16:17

I hope youre okay OP and are being looked after FlowersCakeBrew

Worried2019 · 25/03/2019 16:21

Hope you're ok OP. When you're well enough and have some free time, please do update us. We're all worried! ThanksThanksThanks

YouBumder · 25/03/2019 16:30

Hope all is well x

HeartZone · 25/03/2019 17:00

Sending my best wishes for you and your baby

NarcissistMum · 25/03/2019 17:37

I hope all is well with you OP X

nakedscientist · 25/03/2019 17:41

brexit I do hope you are ok.

Crossing everything.

ChimpyChops · 25/03/2019 17:45

Thinking of you OP and hoping all is well X