37 weeks and my boyfriend just said

[brexitisamare]

He will "smash my face in".

He's playing a game online downstairs, fine. But he was screaming at it and it woke me up so I text him asking him to please keep it down.

He text me back telling me to "fuck off".

So I turned the WiFi off (it's in our bedroom). Quite childish of me now I look back but I was absolutely furious at being woken up and told to fuck off when I hadn't actually done anything wrong.

He came banging up the stairs, punched the bedroom door and said "if you ever do that again I will smash this whole house up and I'll smash your face in".

And he turned it back on, slammed the door, said something about wishing we weren't having our baby and now he's back downstairs playing whatever he's playing and I'm sat in bed shaking.

I realise my behaviour here was a bit childish but surely nothing warrants that? I don't think he will come back up or do anything providing I don't touch the internet (I'm not going to move now at all).

He's quite a calm person and I guess I've seen him angry before but nothing like this and he's never threatened me before. I cannot believe that's just happened. I don't even know why I'm posting I just don't know what to do now I'm sat here shaking and trying to calm myself down as I am heavily pregnant with this horrible mans child.

I can't leave because I don't have anywhere to go at this hour and to be honest the thought of having to go downstairs right now petrifies me.

I guess I just need a handhold here 😞

Sending best wishes to you OP, hope you are safe and tomorrow you can start planning a way forward.

As PP, if you're within a couple of hours of Aberdeen I can come and get you.

Sending you strength of support, OP. Stay strong

I reckon Mumsnetters could get you all the way to your parents' house, you could have a chain of people along the route driving an hour or two each

I'm sure you have friends and family who would also help you out if you would just tell them.

The chest pain plus the vomit, I would go get checked out. There is every chance you described what you thought the pain felt like after deciding yourself it was a pulled muscle. Rather than giving them a full picture.

You have so much going on I think you need someone to see you just to confirm you are ok.

Just been sat on the bathroom floor for 20 minutes puking. I called the hospital and they weren't really too interested as there's no waters or contractions. Again they said to just call back if I get any worse.

I am absolutely drained now, got one eye open writing this post. Thanks for all of your help again x

Good luck op for tomorrow and please update when you arrive safe

I haven't read all the thread but just wanted to say that having a new baby put a monumental stress on our relationship. If he's getting this angry before the baby arrives it honestly chills me. He sounds like the opposite of what you need.

Please please work out an escape plan- maybe call the police...? As previous poster said it might be the wake up call he needs.
You sound really strong and wise you can definitely do this!

It's probably the stress you're under. If you feel any worse, get help, but I hope you can try to get some sleep. Take care, op.

Sorry you've been so sick. Do you have a friend or someone who could come and be with you? It's important that you stay hydrated, regular sips of water.

OP I'm really concerned about you. I think you should call your own midwife and put her fully in the picture - the conflict with himself and all of your symptoms. If this is the onset of labour you could end up in a really awful position. This is what she's for x

Yes, please call a midwife. Really.

brexitisamare did you tell them about your chest pain?

If I was you I'd ring 111 back and tell them about the 20 minutes puking.

I'm worried you may have pre eclampsia.

Please can you tell us a bit more abotu your chest pain?

Puking and pain in the upper right abdomen are both signs of pre-eclampsia.

Hopefully it's not that, but you do need to get it checked out.

Oh no poor you 😢 just seen your latest post. Please try to get some rest. Hope you are ok. Is there anyone else you can call to be with you? Please just call them if so, you are in need!

Brexit- I think you should be in hospital. But if you don’t go now-please, if you develop a headache or any visual disturbance then ring 999. Seriously. Your symptoms are potentially serious.

Thank you all so much, I called triage again to double check as I have also got quite bad breathlessness and they are actually a bit more concerned now. She said as the pains are on the right rather than in the middle she doesn't think it's preeclampsia but to call back in 3 hours if I'm still in pain and then they'll call me in.
I had no idea chest pain was a symptom, and I'm high risk for preeclampsia as it runs in the family (so I should have been more clued up to be honest).

Thank you all so much. Fingers crossed it's a false alarm 😩

Also adding swelling eg ankles, hands or face , to the list of symptoms to take very seriously.

Brexit please can you call 111 to be sure?

This website, for example, says pre-eclampsia pain is on the right hand side specifically, and that breathlessness is a symptom.

"Severe preeclampsia: headaches, blurred vision, inability to tolerate bright light, fatigue, nausea/vomiting, urinating small amounts, pain in the upper right abdomen, shortness of breath, and tendency to bruise easily. Contact your doctor immediately if you experience blurred vision, severe headaches, abdominal pain, and/or urinating very infrequently."

Oh OP! Please don’t hesitate to get to hospital if you get any worse at all. Put your wee baby first! Don’t worry about over reacting or wasting anyone’s time. They’ll be glad you came and got checked out.

Here are the pieces of information that together mean I don't think I'm being to be worried about you:

1. you are high risk for pre-clampsia
2. you have all of the following, which are symptoms of pre-eclampsia

• being sick
• breathlessness
• pain in the right hand side

1. The person you spoke to seems to be fobbing you off, based on the face they don't know pain on the right is typical in pre-eclpampsia. and that you're high risk and not treating you as such

Hopefully it's not, but if it is, as I'm sure you know, you would need to be seen asap.

Unfortunately women in particular do get fobbed off when we're ill or in pain.

Please try 111.

Look after yourself OP.

That sounds quite worrying. Would he help you if you were seriously ill? I’m concerned you wouldn’t be able to call the hospital or get there yourself in an emergency.