Worried that he is pushing the boundaries of our kink

[BethPorter]

DH and I have a thing that we do. I would say it's unconventional, although probably very tame by today's standards. I dont think the details are important for the purpose of this post.

The point is that we both enjoy what we do. However recently he has wanted to push the boundaries. That can work for me, although it has made me think that he wants this to go somewhere that I don't and that makes me feel uncomfortable.

I don't want this to become an issue between us, and don't want to stop what we are doing. What I want is for him to enjoy it in the same way that I do. In short to think like me (I don't mean that to sound like I am controlling).

Has anyone with similar experiences, any advice as to how to keep this as something that we are both comfortable with and continue to enjoy?

I hope you wear warm shoes at least

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@killswitch I imagine if one is only naked from the waist down and accompanied by a fully dressed man it’s fairly obvious why they’re naked. Sexual kicks probably fall in to the catergory of illegal reasons to be naked in public!

OP, I understand that the thrill of being caught is really the whole point. But it’s just... not very nice? For all means enjoy being watched/looked at, but by people who want to watch you, not unsuspecting members of the public! I’d also agree with other posters that you are at risk of losing your job if you get caught doing this, even if you’re not in a job that requires a DBS.

A person commits an offence of exposure if they intentionally expose their genitals with the intention of someone seeing them and them being alarmed or distressed.

Any person who carries out an act of obscene nature in the public can also be charged with ‘outraging public decency’. You can outrage public decency if you behave in a lewd, obscene or disgusting nature.

As long as OP is not doing anything other than being naked, whether it be completely naked or just from the waist down, technically she's not commiting an offence. It would also effectively go in her favour the fact that she does it at night and in secluded areas because she'd be able to argue she didn't intend for anyone to see her and be caused alarm or distress, hence why she's not doing it mid afternoon on her local high street (although the law would allow her to walk down the High Street in the buff if she fancied it).

I'm probably going to get deleted for this but what the hell (I'm usually very well behaved on MN ).

I reckon 'BethPorter' is either a 20 stone, bearded, hairy arsed bloke getting his kicks from the thread, or a 16 year old boy ditto.

To use a phrase I've seen on here before.... it's an interesting first post.

trouble with pushing boundaries is with each new boundary the time will come when its not enough and youll need to push a new boundary iyswim what you are doing is illegal and more you push boundaries more chance you have of getting into serious trouble

Killswitch that interesting. What would the scope be on a woman going topless on a public beach? Her intentions I imagine are to "tan" without lines from a bikini top and whilst some aren't bothered by it, some might find it distressing or alarming maybe?

There are plenty of members only clubs around if exhibitionism is floating your boat. It's not ok to involve others in your kink. Consent is a thing.

I suggest you pull up those panties girl 🍑

This thread has given me a right laugh this evening. It gives me a real sense of satisfaction that I am very content to be warm and snug at home with gentle amusements such as crochet and Countryfile. No arse covered with goosebumps for me and no balls turning blue in the cold night air for hubby.

Sadly I think the op is not coming back. I doubt this is real, but if it is, id just love to know what the thrill was in walking round empty car parks in the dark with your bare bum out.

The thrill that someone might see your goose bump covered arse? 🤣

On a serious note though, as said, this is no different to a bloke wanting to walk about outside exposing himself, and if you're Male or female and wish to expose yourself for sexual thrills, then do it where you risk meeting people that might want to have a look. Not where someone who doesn't wish to see, or conceivably they could kids with them and they also be subjected to your flashing.

The risk is not just an adult who doesn't wish to be subjected to it seeing, the risk is also kids could also be with their parents and turn up in the car park. And that just takes it to sick.

The OP will be back with another tale at 730am some other Saturday morning.
I am surprised this thread was not pulled .

CiderBrains people may well be caused alarm or distress by a woman going topless on the beach but unfortunately that's not enough, it would have to be proven that the woman intended to cause them alarm or distress as opposed to taking her top off because she didn't want tan lines.

I think going topless on a beach in a country this is permissable, is a very different scenario to walking round car parks in the dark with your bare arse on display for sexual kicks.

CiderBrains is it because breasts are not genitals?

Thinking about it, would walking naked from the waist down really expose female genitals? They are somewhat hidden in the vertical position. That law seems more geared towards male exhibitionists.

No but breasts are still part of the "don't expose them where it could cause alarm and or distress," and from what I've read a woman can be arrested for exposing them under certain circumstances.

@BethPorter (hope that's not your real name) so you streak? It's illegal.

Twats like you make BDSM look bad/increase the stigma.

BDSM will always look bad and have a stigma to some though and nothing would change their minds. If you're offended then you're offended.

I think if you head out purposefully, not on a topless/nude beach, with the purpose of thrilling yourself 'with the risk (however remote) or being seen' then it's intentional, isn't it, and the risk of someone seeing you is inherent in that and therefore, you must surely be willing to outrage someone, potentially, and thus you would be guilty.