Worried that he is pushing the boundaries of our kink

[BethPorter]

DH and I have a thing that we do. I would say it's unconventional, although probably very tame by today's standards. I dont think the details are important for the purpose of this post.

The point is that we both enjoy what we do. However recently he has wanted to push the boundaries. That can work for me, although it has made me think that he wants this to go somewhere that I don't and that makes me feel uncomfortable.

I don't want this to become an issue between us, and don't want to stop what we are doing. What I want is for him to enjoy it in the same way that I do. In short to think like me (I don't mean that to sound like I am controlling).

Has anyone with similar experiences, any advice as to how to keep this as something that we are both comfortable with and continue to enjoy?

If I happened to come across someone walking about with their fanny out I’d phone the police as I would presume you had mental health issues or your partner was making you do this. Put it away ffs, I don’t want to see your minge (and I imagine most wouldn’t want to either).

It really fucking annoys me when people can affect others by pointless, selfish actions .

Beige leggings... ffs woman.. you have a sick fucking imagination

Beige leggings

I think you’d be arrested for beige leggings by fashion police

Is it wrong that I'm sitting here wondering, what SHOES does she wear when she's doing this - heels, trainers, hiking boots?

As consenting adults you can do what you want as far as I'm concerned but be aware where the laws lie and where you could be prosecuted because whilst you aren't harming anyone, people can be easily offended and it could affect your jobs if you had a conviction. In the U.K. there really is no such thing as the middle of nowhere - dog walkers, trail runners, etc are out at night. There's certain lay-bys here that contain cars at night and it's an open knowledge what they are up to, my reasoning is avoid the area if it's not your scene but people complain and the police raid.

Be careful! Ps dh likes the idea of no clothes, but having been to clothing optional areas I can report they are strictly sex free and not exciting at all (think old men baggy skin everywhere, yuck!)

oh dear, if he's not willing to be as 'adventurous' then I'd wrap up my fufu and find something more private. I'm no prude and DH and I have experimented A LOT (mostly pre-children ) but if I came across some woman half naked being followed by a guy I'd be calling the police! Keep your kinks to yourself I say sheesh...

Huge lol, anyone else chuckling at the it's nothing really weird, but I go out in the dark bare arsed thing 🤣🤣🤣

It's not actually illegal to be naked in public unless the complainant can prove you're doing it to cause distress. That's how the naked rambler gets away with it.

I’m still chuckling at how clearly desperate OP was for everyone to ask what the kink was...but no one gave a shit.

“Oh I’ve realised it doesn’t make sense unless I tell you”

It was just fine without everyone knowing!

Yes OP, what do you wear ?
I’m picturing a brown M&S polo neck and knee high sensible boots, but I’m still worrying about the cold.

Someone could take a pic and post it on the local Facebook page and people will recognise you

God can you imagine, your bare arse plastered all over social media. Or coming across a group of teens, with your arse out.

What's the thrill op,? Not that I believe this is real? But what's rhe throll of getting your arse out?

What do you think people will do, other than laugh or call the police?

We lived in a little hamlet, there was a car parking pull in at a beauty
spot, dogging went on in the cars, now that did annoy me, people walked their dogs up there and really did not need to see that. If I saw someone walking sans clothes up there I would have assumed they were nudists and left them to it. I once had sex on the side of a mountain, it was bloody cold and uncomfortable.

Oh also we had some coven type thing going on in the woods, people dancing buck naked around a fire. Scared the hell out of the gamekeepers son one night.

Eh...talk to him about it?

Proper belly laugh at "beige leggings".

But how sexy can this be? I mean, mid March and presumably at night? I'd be wearing a North Face, hoodie, bobble hat, scarf and gloves! Can't you at least wear a nice knee length coat?

You must look ridiculous. A total twat, you might say

Really sorry OP, but I haven't laughed so much in ages.

I watched a program on exhibitionism once, it's very odd. The people concerned wished to expose themselves to others who wouldn't be expecting it, but something in their heads seemed to think those others would be some how over come with lust at the mere sight of their boobs or bare arse, when actually looking at rhe state of them, such a thing was highly unlikely.

But more than that, even if they were suprieme examples of human perfection, people would simply either be concerned or amused. Unless you're ove course going to some dogging spot and mooning there.

In reality it's no different a woman who wishes to expose her self than a man who flashes, even with the support of a partner getting off on it.

Public reaction though is usually one of amusement in reaction to it I think because of the discrepancy between the reality of it, versus what's clearly going on in the would be flashers head.

Nowt like wandering around a deserted car park with your goosepimpled backside hanging out to get the erotic juices flowing .

I'm reading this with my 'agog' face and snorting!

Oh my. I don't want to bump into a semi nude person late at night thanks. Why don't you do something that doesn't risk an unconsrnting person having to see you naked?

You go out in the cold at night with your flange out?

Apart from the fact it's freezing, someone may see you. I agree with a PP, if I saw that I would worry that you were being coerced into doing it.

I hope you wear warm shoes at least.

I think posting a thread about her kink is OP's kink.. if that makes sense.

No other reason for OP deciding to give us the details.

And if by some chance it is true, please put it away. Keep your sex life to yourself.

Steve ( penis breath ) that’s you . Do you only get access to the computer at 730am on Saturday?

I’m slightly puzzled. What exactly turns YOU on in your scenario? Is it the exhibitionism? Unlikely if you do it at night or in secluded areas. Is it the risk? In that case - risk of what? Being seen?, getting caught? If you can isolate why you are doing this then it might make it easier to come up with something equally satisfying to replace it.