Worried that he is pushing the boundaries of our kink

[BethPorter]

DH and I have a thing that we do. I would say it's unconventional, although probably very tame by today's standards. I dont think the details are important for the purpose of this post.

The point is that we both enjoy what we do. However recently he has wanted to push the boundaries. That can work for me, although it has made me think that he wants this to go somewhere that I don't and that makes me feel uncomfortable.

I don't want this to become an issue between us, and don't want to stop what we are doing. What I want is for him to enjoy it in the same way that I do. In short to think like me (I don't mean that to sound like I am controlling).

Has anyone with similar experiences, any advice as to how to keep this as something that we are both comfortable with and continue to enjoy?

A nude B&B?

Wow, I have lived a sheltered life.

There's one near Bham Haworthia - Alex Polizzi had to go and sort out their setup on her hotel programme!!!

Can't think of much worse than having me breakfast with blokes around with their tackle out, put you right off your sausages.

I hope the chairs are wipe clean.

In all honesty, I don't think your kink is all that weird. Maybe tailor it around your local dogging sites or pop along to some swinger clubs and find your audience there?

A nude B&B?

Yes, there was a nudist B&B featured on B&B competition show - 'Four in a Bed' and the 'Hotel inspector' iirc it had cleanliness issues 🤢

Oops sorry Doinitforthekids I cross posted with you.

OP gone quiet...

I assume she's too busy airing her nether regions

I think he needs to listen to you and if you're prepared to push your kink then you would do so at a pace you're convenient with....otherwise you find another kink you're both comfortable with exploring.

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Apologies to anyone having sausages for dinner.

I'm just sat in car now on way back from shopping reading this and it's pissing it down and windy as hell and I wondering who the hell wants to wander round with their faff out in this weather ?!

Therefore his kink not hers. Her reaction was in response to his not the kink itself

Not therefore. That's how you are reading it. I am reading that she wanted sex outside, he wasnt as happy. So she moved it on. She is the one that wants and felt happy with the outdoor experience. Now he has found a way to enjoy it, but it's getting a bit samey.

Yes she does need to speak to him. But i dont think she is only doing this to make him happy.

Why doesn’t he trot about with his undercarriage dangling free - why are you assuming all the risk?

It's pretty common to have exhibitionist tendencies but it's best to confine that to nude places, maybe dogging spots the police leave alone, etc.

If you end up indecently exposing yourself to a minor you will be in a FUCKLOAD of trouble and rightly so.

Another possibility is to make porn and upload it to the internet.. taking as much care to conceal your identity as you like.

Why doesn’t he trot about with his undercarriage dangling free - why are you assuming all the risk?

Because it was the OPs idea.

Maybe him strutting around with his dick flapping doesnt do it for her.

It wouldn't for me

Why would you need a safe word for this?

I'm calling bullshit on the whole thing 😂

Laughing so much at this.

Best bit for me is the op saying in her opening post that the details aren't important and NOT ONE person presses her on this

So of course she then had to spill the beans.

Sounds pretty harmless to me. Illegal if you're caught of course. Also sounds a tad made up but meh - it's Saturday evening eh?

Why would you need a safe word for this

Surely 'fuck this shit, I am off back to the car' would do

Bullshit, who the fuck goes around naked from the waist down and finds it a turn on?! Must be the funniest thing to see, your bare arse in this grim weather . Omg I’ve read it all now, people are Fucked up!!

And the OP has disappeared...

I agree MegaBat someone’s bored this evening

Don't know where you live but I wouldn't be out in poor weather all nudie!

This is my kink but stbxh didn't want to at all so we never did. Wait I take it back. We did flash each other around on a remote windy beach one day. :)

Remote camping was great for this. My 1st DH RIP would have one of those small inflatable rafts and on a small private lake I would paddle around with nothing but a hat on. :)
There was a very small percentage of being seen but in reality no one did.

So yes, there are places you can have fun and not shock others.

Hi OP

I could see the thrill in this and you stated that up until now you’ve gone out in the night and to very quiet places. Therefore I guess you’ve actively sought not to be seen. Lately though your DH wants to take bigger risks and you aren’t comfortable...I can see why! If you did get caught, you’d be in a bit of trouble wouldn’t you.
I think you are well within your rights to say ‘I am not trying to nor wanting to get caught, so no I’m not going that far’.
Or perhaps get a Longer Mac as someone said and go nudey under it?
Either way, your husband is wrong to want to put you in a position where you are breaking the law.

Whatever floats your boat and I don’t agree with the fuss people are making, it’s a semi naked body, that’s all. It’s not like you’re getting rodgered by a donkey. 🙄

I can understand the thrill the first few times, but I’d be bored shitless with it now.

I’m not at all surprised he’s pushing for a change.

Though given it’s illegal and we live surrounded by CCTV, I’d be suggesting if he wants to push boundaries, he gets his kit off. 🤷🏻‍♀️

If you go down in the woods today
You're sure of a big surprise
If you go down in the woods today
You'd better go in disguise!

whistles

I couldn't do this.

I'd be too scared that people would see me and think I was wearing...

...beige leggings.