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Help me have strength. Hes just smashed up my kitchen

150 replies

Teacoffeechoc · 14/03/2019 11:05

So partner has always had a bad temper and arguments have got out of hand before.
This morning I went for a coffee with a friend and he has smashed up the kitchen because he doesn't like my friend. He threw the microwave at me but I managed to dodge it. He has smashed glasses of the floor and walls. Hes broken my washing machine and oven.

I asked him to leave and he has. But know he will come back as he has left his charger here.
He has taken all money and food from his kids as he is trying to get to me.

Give me strength to finally get rid of him please.

OP posts:
curlykaren · 14/03/2019 11:07

Call the police.

PippilottaLongstocking · 14/03/2019 11:07

Call the police on him. If the microwave had hit you it could have killed you. Next time you might not be so lucky

Lightsabre · 14/03/2019 11:07

Please call the police straight away then Women's Aid for support.

SeeYouLaterUserData · 14/03/2019 11:08

Police. Now. Photographs and locksmith out to so he can't get back in.
All other thoughts can wait. Only priority is immediate safety.
Sorry you're going through this Flowers

CaseofEllen · 14/03/2019 11:08

Call the police. You can do this! You and your kids will be better off without him Thanks

StrongTea · 14/03/2019 11:09

Leave the charger in a bag on the step. If you can, get the locks changed. He sounds totally out of control. Is it your house?

TheShiteRunner · 14/03/2019 11:10

Call the police NOW before you talk yourself out of it.
Children will mimic the relationships they see when they grow up. So unless you want your DC in relationships like this, you have to get rid.

NotSuchASmugMarriedNow1 · 14/03/2019 11:10

He's left his kids with no food? He took all the food?

TheQueef · 14/03/2019 11:10

Do it. Police.

pink412 · 14/03/2019 11:12

Police now!!

pinkboa · 14/03/2019 11:13

Police.

Pack his stuff and put them outside.

Change your locks!

Easterbunnyiscomingsoon · 14/03/2019 11:13

Calling the police really is the best option op.
You can do this.

Before it's you not a kitchen appliance...

10IAR · 14/03/2019 11:16

OP if that microwave had hit you, you could have been or seriously injured.

He is an immediate risk to you and to your children.

Please lock all the doors and windows and call the police, ask them to treat it as urgent if you fear he'll back.

Tell them everything. Flowers

10IAR · 14/03/2019 11:16

*been killed or seriously injured

katseyes7 · 14/03/2019 11:18

You need to phone the police. Tell them exactly what's happened, and that you're in fear for your life. He could have killed you.
My ex husband used to do this, used to smash the house up, and he threw a stool at me while l was on crutches and in plaster recovering from a broken ankle. l never phoned the police because l worked for them.

Bananalanacake · 14/03/2019 11:19

weil done for realising you need to leave. are they also your kids. you said his kids, so hope it's easier for you to leave if they are not yours.

Jamct23 · 14/03/2019 11:20

Oh gosh OP I hope your again. That sounds so extreme. Bite the bullet and get rid. I would definitely call the police. If argument have got out of hand like this before it doesn’t sound like he’s about to stop now. It’s ridiculous that he has taken food and money but the main concern is yours and your children’s safety. Hope everything works out ok xx

WhenZogateSuperworm · 14/03/2019 11:21

Call the police.
Then call a locksmith and have the locks changed this morning.

FizzyGreenWater · 14/03/2019 11:28

POLICE.

icarriedaturnip · 14/03/2019 11:29

You need to call the police. You aren’t safe, he could’ve killed you. Well Done for realising something isn’t right, calling the police will help to protect you and your children. I’m sorry this is happening to you OPFlowers

JustBloodyCold · 14/03/2019 11:31

Police, now. Right now. This man is breaking the law and you don't want to be the house without protection when he gets back. You poor thing. My exH threw coffee cups and broke kitchen utensils and I thought that was bad enough

CigarsofthePharoahs · 14/03/2019 11:33

Call the police. Please.

Thesearmsofmine · 14/03/2019 11:34

Please call the police and make sure everything is locked while you wait for them, don’t open the door to him. Do you have a neighbour you could go to?

This made my blood run cold, he could have killed you this morning. Flowers

Purplecatshopaholic · 14/03/2019 11:34

Oh OP, I am sorry. You know what you need to do - this is not a safe environment for your kids. Bag up anything of his and put it outside and change the locks IMMEDIATELY.

IVEgottheDECAF · 14/03/2019 11:35

What everyone else says op, phone the police please