Handhold - Told H I want a divorce, the fallout and rise again - hopefully

[awesmum]

Part 2

Well I never thought I would have to make a follow up page.

Thank you all lovely people for the handholds, if you've read the previous thread you know what I have been through, and I can't begin to explain how wonderful I found the support on here. So Thank you ... on I go!

IF she off he can’t take her to court?

I’d have the police on stand by here sorry but I would. He’s a devious fukker and could potentially hide her.

Hopefully she’ll be returned and good luck

Best of luck today.

The judge is not going to be best pleased with the toerag. This is definitely going to work in your favour.

De-lurking to wish you luck - you have been brave and resolute to tackle this monstrous bully. I hope you get the outcome you are seeking

Fingers crossed for you today. We're all with you.

Court is making their decision. I can't tell you one way or the other how it will end up. In truth I am feeling pretty screwed. I don't know if it's a defence mechanism that I will feel happy if I get 5 minutes with her or what. It's 3 magistrates so they all have to be in agreement.

I am exhausted and feeling pretty low. May just be adrenaline.

❤️

And everything crossed for you from a lurker.

I hope you get the outcome you want awesmum

They must see what an utter CUNT he is.

He has to be a provable utter Cunt to DD to stop him seeing her.

Just a Cunt in general then they may go 50 /50 with access. 🤷🏼‍♀️

He is completely deranged. Hope they see him for what he is

Did you manage to let them know he broke the court order yesterday and today?

Oh God. This is so bloody wrong. I have everything crossed for your dd

Still sitting with fingers & toes crossed for you.

It may be that you don't get exactly what you want. But remember that chances are if you don't let him see that you are upset and proceed calmly he'll more than likely stop using her as a weapon. I think he spends all the time with her he does because he knows it upsets you. It may take a bit of time, but I truly believe he will. He's so self-absorbed that at some point he'll start enjoying his 'single life' and not having to be responsible for a small child.

I guess I'm thinking he's like a spoilt child with a toy. As long as that child knows another child wants that particular toy, he won't share it. But once that spoilt child sees that the other childr isn't that fussed, that toy loses its 'value' and the spoilt child is much more likely to let go of it.

Keeping everything crossed that the courts rule in your favour!
He's a despicable cunt and doesn't deserve one second with your dd!

I reckon @AcrossthePond55 is right. No way does he really want the work that goes into looking after a child.

Really really hope you are pleased with the result op. Sending strength xx

Delurking to wish you huge good luck with the result, have read the whole way through with you and am rooting for you and your daughter

No matter what the outcome @awesmum lots of people here will support you through the next steps.

Hope you're ok, awesmum

Sorry so late in replying. Thank you all for the good wishes- you were all in there with me at the result.

It took them 2 hours to decide and let us know. As you know he wanted 50/50 or full custody based on my older children, they said that he had made 'very serious allegations' which were ultimately untrue and unreasonable. That taking her away from me and her family would be unduly distressing and unreasonable. That the 50/50 split would be harmful and unfair on her. His suggestion that she is with me when she's not at school and I am not at work is unfair and he should have her was poo poo'd. They expressed she is entitled to a relationship with her siblings. They said that his allegation that I am financially motivated is unfounded as he's paid nothing to me for her even when he was in the house, in fact I paid for the roof over his head.

They went with essentially eow and every Wednesday. I have residency, I have agreed to him having 2 weeks holiday every year. All special days are split as I had originally said.

She now won't miss out on school, or her dance classes. She gets to see family and friends. She get stability and normality. That she can can have a sense of home.

So ultimately DD gets what is best for her, I couldn't ask for a better outcome death penalty is illegal.

@awesum that is amazing. Far better than I hoped you'd get.

Wow. That's a great outcome OP. Well done.

I was less worried when I found out you were before 3 magistrates. The ones I have known had lived in the real world and had a wonderful life experience.