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Handhold - Told H I want a divorce, the fallout and rise again - hopefully

943 replies

awesmum · 12/03/2019 19:00

Part 2

Well I never thought I would have to make a follow up page.

Thank you all lovely people for the handholds, if you've read the previous thread you know what I have been through, and I can't begin to explain how wonderful I found the support on here. So Thank you ... on I go!

OP posts:
Liz38 · 03/04/2019 18:26

Hope you get some sleep tonight! It's dragging out but hopefully is heading in the right direction. Will be keeping everything crossed for you tomorrow.

RandomMess · 03/04/2019 18:27

I love how his Barrister is truly reflecting his arsey self centred ness.

Usually they would guide and term everything in DDs interests, almost like barrister doesn't think his client should have contact...

longtimelurkerhelen · 03/04/2019 18:30

As we (MN) all know it's all about his wants and needs and nothing about his daughter's best interests.

Could your solicitor point this out? Would it even help?

Also if poss try and get your solicitor to mention his behavior at nursery pickup today.

He really is a piece of shit, he doesn't care about her at all.

AgathaF · 03/04/2019 19:17

He's really got a screw loose!

ErrmWTAF · 03/04/2019 20:16

Oh, awesmum, you've got this. Twatty McTwatface is just digging himself in further.

Make sure Court hears all about this tomorrow and, yes, I echo PP saying your barrister should highlight the difference between your side and his.

justilou1 · 03/04/2019 20:35

Faaaaaaaaaaaark! Why did the bloody courts allow that worm the chance to think he had the power to bargain like that? Arse!

MotherOfDragonite · 03/04/2019 20:39

Best of luck for tomorrow, OP. Don't give too much away in your quest to be reasonable -- I'm sure they can already see you are (and that he isn't).

Footle · 03/04/2019 21:25

Great nursery manager you have there.

AcrossthePond55 · 03/04/2019 22:25

Oh FFS!! Well, nothing not expected of him. I (sort of) feel sorry for his barrister. But she took him on as a client so she deserves what she gets.

Hopefully tomorrow something more permanent will be established? I mean, what's the point of an 'interim order' if it's only for 24 hours then back to court?

CanuckBC · 04/04/2019 04:54

Whenever I get a chance to catch up I am dismayed as to the updates. I am happy to hear that it sounds like the barrister and judge may have the take of him. It still doesn’t sound like anyone is putting him in his place🤯🤬. I loathe the justice system sometimes as their hands are tied so much sometimes as even though they see a person for the cunt they are they may not be able to do what they, the justice want.

His barrister May see him him for who he is but will be unable to directly show it. Hopefully she is cunning enough to do it indirectly without him taking a clue. As he is paying for her, she needs to actively represent him, wether she wants to or not at this point. I am not 100% up to your legal system, I wonder what would happen or even if she could revise her self from the case? That may totally screw you over though...

I wish you the best and hope they bring up the unsafe work place, how she comes back filthy with net medical needs uncared for! Eczema untreated hurts like a mother trucker! I have it and it can sting and itch and make life is miserable😑

I hope your new solicitor can re-hook you up with legal aid and will get you in line with what the last one missed. And!!! Help you make a formal complaint with everything the last one screwed up on!!’

Furble · 04/04/2019 05:33

I would see this as two consecutive opportunities for him to continue to dig himself into a hole in front of the judge rather than one. It sounds as though he was truly on form yesterday and this will have been noted. Sending so much strength and good vibes to you this morning for the right outcome for your DD. Flowers

Mix56 · 04/04/2019 06:50

He was also trying to intimidate you in the car park, (wasn't there a non-mol or similar ?) that could that be mentioned & slip in he did the same to DD at her work.... not about DD specifically, , but definitely about his abuse & intended fear

MonaChopsis · 04/04/2019 06:50

Thinking of you awesmum, hope it goes your (and more importantly your DD's way in court today. Unmumsnetty hugs xx

Ruru8thestars · 04/04/2019 07:02

Good luck!

Mrsmummy90 · 04/04/2019 07:14

Good luck today! We're all rooting for you! Xxxx

MotherOfDragonite · 04/04/2019 07:34

Good luck today! You'll be amazing.

dontpointatme · 04/04/2019 08:40

Good luck today. I hope common sense actually comes into play for once, and they see him for the nasty self-centred bully that he is!!

WitchDancer · 04/04/2019 08:45

I hope all gets settled today. I'm also hoping your boss is understanding - if you worked for me I wouldn't have a problem with giving you time off for this.

RandomMess · 04/04/2019 09:19

Thinking of you Thanks

justilou1 · 04/04/2019 09:27

This is one of the few times I Hope your wee dolly is returned as filthy and sad as she has been in the past. This grub of a man needs his arse served to him on a platter asafp!!!

Melstarrynight · 04/04/2019 09:37

Finally delurking to wish you the best of luck today awsemum 🤞

CarlGrimesMissingEye · 04/04/2019 09:45

Delinking too to say that I hope everything goes well for you today.

Mrsmummy90 · 04/04/2019 09:46

All the luck in the world to you today!! I'll keep everything crossed xx

MissingInActionYouSay · 04/04/2019 10:25

Another wishing you all the luck in the world

Raspberrytruffle · 04/04/2019 11:12

Best of luck op