Dating thread 150 - I get knocked down, but I get up again....

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1. The first rule about the dating thread is you don't talk about it with people you're dating.
2. Develop a thick skin.
3. Do not invest emotionally too soon.
4. It's all BS until it actually happens.
5. Trust your gut instinct.
6. People vanishing, lying & being generally weird is not your fault.
7. You are the prize - they should be trying to impress you.
8. If it's not fun, stop.
9. Loo update is mandatory.

10. No dating the thread. 11. Do unto others as you would have them do to you.

And a reminder - you don't know them until you know them!

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Thank you @Eesha and @TooOldForThis67 my 2am self was freaking out lol - you're right if we progress and he's still doing it then it's a problem the messages are harmless. At least by not saying I'll be able to see if he's still doing it. I was just so gutted as everything was great.

focus don't send that message! He will probably run a mile from you. It's so difficult but I try to never look at anyone's social media. Also have none myself so live in a deluded bubble. In the early days I did and remember thinking wtf finding a guy I was into following Megan McKenna on IG!!

Don't send that message Focus - see if he continues if you start seeing each other.

I like it if men look after themselves/their bodies, but I can't bear overly muscled men, and I wouldn't want to be in a relationship with someone who was obsessive about exercising or always at the gym. I'm not a member of a gym, as it's not really worth it as I only like classes (hate all the machines and I have free weights at home). I'd need a class to start at 4.30 in the morning in order for me to get to work on time and there aren't any anywhere near me that do that 😂 I workout at home everyday for about 15 minutes. Then at least I have time to eat dinner and date 😂😂😂

I've agreed to rearrange with Mr Curry - next Sunday.

I've acquired an overly keen bean on Fab who won't stop bloody messaging. I feel like telling him I'm not his girlfriend and that he should ease off!

In reply to my msg to MrWow - he said he'd definitely like to do that sex again. So, do I now ask him if I should canx my dates that I didn't tell him about last nightor does that sound like emotional blackmail?

Yay Shit that's good news. Have you collected your stuff from Mr Shop's shop yet?

TooOld I agree with shit ask him, don't hint or threaten, just ask. I think some men are of the opinion that we don't have other options ...

Wow this thread moves fast!!

lillyrose Go you! Glad it was all safe consensual fun! not that I'm jealous or anything!

Wow, you lot have a lot of deal breakers! I don't have too many: -
You aren't for me if you are: -

Obese, but I don't mind cuddly. My new FWB is cuddly.

I do like curves, so no Kiera Knigthly types, although for some reason she gives me fuzzy knickers (if a guy can have fuzzy knickers)
I'd quite like a woman to be taller than 5' 2", but it's not set in stone.
Bad breath (yuck!)
Not a bunny boiler...

I'm 6' 2", solvent, always offer to pay, but happy to split the bill, my teeth aren't perfect (didn't properly look after them as a child! , drive, have my own space, am happy to travel for a date, fairly hairy (including nether regions!), but generally clean shaven (although do do stubble!)

Update on my weekend.

Date with Mrs longblondehair, who I'm thinking of renaming Mrs oversharerer... Probably nerves, but my god the woman can talk! . I found out all about her, her ex, her kids, her sister, her mum.... etc etc.

However, very strong attraction, so we ended the date with (several) snogs, and have agreed to meet again!

Mrs non-communicative cancelled saying she has a migrane, so Sunday was a loss.

Oh flip flops, the guy I had my eye on last night has asked to meet me at lunch time today for a coffee as he's work locally, I don't even have any lippy with me - eek!

Meeting at 1pm - I'll call this one MrEngineer. Another tall, beardy, fitty - I may be done for...🙈

@Man4allseasons I'd give Mrs longblondehair the benefit of the doubt, I'm a blabbermouth when I'm nervous as well. I hate any gap in conversation on a date and talk about any old crap 😳

Indeed difficult to keep up!
Re gym, not something ive ever had a view on really. I dont go but cycle to work everyday, then swim once or twice a week and occasional rowing machine.

jesuis, if a woman turned up on a date with no make up I’d absolutely love the self confidence !

@Jesuispret nip into boots and sample some or superdrug do done quid lipsticks and good luck...
@man4allseasons us chatterboxes keep it interesting and can I just say I worried my husband if I wasn't talking hahahahaahaha

@JeSuisPrest quick nip into Boots? I'm sure you don't need it though!

@Man4allseasons I agree, it may well be nerves - I can tend to blabber on too on a first date, I imagine she might settle down on a second!

Yes, nerves for us both.
I'm meeting her next Monday (can't do any sooner ), so we'll see how it goes. I'm hoping we can pick up where we left off!

Meeting my FWB for "breakfast" tomorrow!

@shitwithsugaron I'm ok today the baby is vomiting so it's a rank distraction lol

I have started having dreams and they are weird beyond belief. I didn't dream for the first 8 weeks just a black space of closing eyes and getting up for the girls. Now I'm getting creeped out.

Now want another tattoo. But have been advised to get one to symbolise moving on.... And then I realised I do not want to move on and if I did they are on my back and no man is getting behind there hahahaha

I have started laughing again. But I am biding my time I think because the burial is in 10 weeks.

Cheers for asking.... better name for my shop.... is be older or younger.

My husband is my only experience but he had beautiful red hair and a hairy chest.... hair removed from down there lol no nose would get itchy he was 6ft3 to my 5ft6.5 but I wear 6 inch heels so either way it was perfect. He had tattoos on his back....beautiful lips and a massive piss taking personality one of those people who just got away with it....

Happy dates for a cold Monday

Bloody auto correct Mr shop...

Wow. I can't keep up. My dealbreakers:

Overweight
Big or zero drinker
No banter/chat
Too keen
Musicians/artists (my downfall) who are totally divorced from financial reality. Learned this lesson over and over again haha

Well Mr SA has not mentioned sex so I haven’t had a chance to pull him up on only wanting one thing. He’s coming over tomorrow, hopefully I will get a chance to talk to him. He did send a message this morning saying “hopefully one day I can bring you a coffee in bed” implying that he would like to be able to stay over.

@warriorprincessandwidowed your husband sounds kind of perfect. I'm not surprised you've decided that he's going to be the only one for you.

Re tattoos and moving on. You move on when you split up. You don't move on when you're bereaved you just slowly adjust. I would get something that made me think of him.

Failing that, just get a packet of crisps done? 🤣 I love a tatt, I have quite a number and I'm getting more...

Man4 - talking about ex's is a big no no. Watch she doesn't keep on about him.
Warrior - the love you have for your husband shines thro your messages, so lovely. A tattoo that represents him maybe? Have you got any idea's?
Love - Maybe he's being like he is because he can't stay over? Is there a reason he can't?
Shit - I'd go for MrNinja over MrKik anyway! Grab him while you can, lol.

So, I've sent a msg to MrWow telling him that I have 2 dates lined up but that I'd like to see him again properly and would canx the dates if he wanted. Asked if he see's us as FWB or proper, no barriers up this time. He's read it but not replied. Think he'll be annoyed I've asked so soon but I don't want to mess anyone about. I can't help being popular .

MrWow replied already! He said that he never intended to come over and rekindle things but that it did bring back good memories. He said we need to have a serious talk. He didn't come across annoyed at least!
I msg back saying I'm just being honest with him and agree we need to chat.

And he looks very Italian with his olive skin, big brown eyes and thick dark hair. I could stare at his face all day and when he leaves clothes here I go to bed and sniff them which he thinks is really weird but I love his smell!!