Dating thread 150 - I get knocked down, but I get up again....

[DaffoDeffo]

Dating thread rules:

1. The first rule about the dating thread is you don't talk about it with people you're dating.
2. Develop a thick skin.
3. Do not invest emotionally too soon.
4. It's all BS until it actually happens.
5. Trust your gut instinct.
6. People vanishing, lying & being generally weird is not your fault.
7. You are the prize - they should be trying to impress you.
8. If it's not fun, stop.
9. Loo update is mandatory.

10. No dating the thread. 11. Do unto others as you would have them do to you.

And a reminder - you don't know them until you know them!

Link to Info on Dating Websites & Apps www.mumsnet.com/Talk/relationships/3514717-List-of-Dating-Site-Info-Dating-Thread?watched=1

I have been having a fascinating (Pervy) nosey through fab

So many questions! So many pictures I can’t understand what I’m looking at and rotating iPad 90 degrees and again to try to work out what the hell the pic is!

However: so many of the men say their hobby is “going to the gym” or “keeping fit” or a huge list of ways they exercise.

Firstly wtf! Who is this list of sports and exercise going to appeal to? Presumably the people looking to meet don’t fancy a 30 mile ultra marathon through the Home Counties

Secondly what kind of man spends that much time exercising?! Do they have jobs or friends?

Thirdly I could not be dealing with a man who loved his body that much, had so little body fat he didn’t look real, and just wanted to discuss but weight lifting

Additional observation: there are so many men packing nuclear weapons in their pants. Why has it taken me until almost 50 to find this out!!!

Oh I've always gone for sex pirates, until I met my sensible husband. Now I'm going for sex pirates again... til I'm ready for steady 😁

I'm going to use that term again, it perfectly sums up my type!

What’s fab ?

I'm partial to a sex pirate ...

leonasa ahhh ok defo come across a few of them and are my type too.

gothamgirl what’s fab?

penut read that as sex parties not sex pirates

Fab is the website fab swingers

Desperately trying to wade through thread to the end but just wanted to add my twopennaths worth on what I’ve read so far...
I also had to look up carpaccio lol
jesuis love the sound of your outfit and how well you’ve handled end of Mr Abs so far
love glad to hear you’re starting to think of Mr SA in that way - you deserve better!
Hello howling
Well done lily on ticking threesome off your bucket list 👍

Why does the phrase ‘hairy knob’ make me think of a dog’s willy? Literally like a hairy cock I don’t really care what people do with their pubes, I’m still heading that way to the downstairs cafe whatever the rug is like, but the idea of a totally hairy knob is just hilarious

Gothamgirl1970 the ones with the lists of sports appeal to me! I do 2 sports regularly so I'd like to meet someone who has similar interests.
My one Fab date that might go further was with a bloke who did a similar sport to me. Once we discovered that, we could've talked for hours. Having said that, he did love himself a bit too much so I couldn't imagine having relationship with him.
But FWB, definitely 😁

@WotcherHarry equally I think the idea of a totally bald pubic area on a man is hilarious! And really offputting...

Oh thank you 😊

Dare not look on it will see people I work with I’m sure

@myoldbrain good to know! Some of the list were so long

I hope he had a nuclear weapon as well

Yes just trimmed not shaved or bald down there that's just totally wrong!!

Sexy pirates...johnny depp springs to mind and he is totally doable

Yep @Jogrighton Depp is the original sexy pirate ☺️☺️

MrWoods messaged a couple of hours after our date ended to say he hoped it wasn't too painful, I replied no it wasn't and I'd be happy to do it again sometime. I do have another iron from last week, MrGardener, who went cold but messaged me today saying he was a chicken last week about asking me out - conversation was a bit generic but I probably wasn't in the right headspace for witty banter (day after I'd been dumped). He's promised to contact me again later in the week when his kids have gone back to their mum (2 young kids on a 50/50 contact arrangement).

Gym goers and sporty people always appeal to me - I'm there at 5.30am 5 days a week and love talking about all things health and fitness related. There's a fine line between obsessed and dedicated though...💪

Fingers crossed for you @shitwithsugaron, sounds like you're making real progress with MrShop.

I've just done me some more swiping and got my eye on another beardy 6ft + gym goer. That combo is like Kryptonite to me 🙈

shit great update re Mr Shop!

Hairy nethers? I don't like bald but trimmed is a must, otherwise I'm forever pulling hairs out after you know what.

Mr S has just left. We watched a film and he was the perfect gentleman, didn't try it on at all. However, I am weak and jumped his bones and we had very very good vanilla sex (Hooray for vanilla occasionally!)

So I spoke to feckin soon!! So Mr Local my iron from today may be no go. I'm awake at ungodly hour and googled him found his twitter and he tweets replies to sexy girls. There is nothing overly crude about the tweets and I get he is an older single guy who's probably not had a lot of female attention he does seem a genuinely nice guy but what do I do? I've typed a message ready to go saying I'd be pissed as fuck if he did this while we were together but get he's single and he sees it as fun but I find it offensive I've also said I'd expect this to stop if we saw each other again. Am I being stupid either over-reacting or not reacting enough lol. There's honestly nothing really offensive but it's the fact he does it at all thoughts please???

Focus - I wouldn't send the message. I agree that it's likely just an attention thing. I think it's something you'd bring up after a few dates if he's still doing it. Not now, because he could think a) it's a bit stalkerish and b) a bit controlling, plus it'd probably embarrass him to be caught out. I totally agree with you though, I wouldn't like it but you're not an item, yet. HTH.

So, MrWow and I talked, a lot. Despite our best intentions, we did end up in bed and it was fantastic. He's confessed that it was the happiest he's ever been when he was with me before. He's been on a couple of dates since me but hasn't had sex with anyone. Whereas I have had quite a lot of dates and sex and he found himself quite upset about it. I didn't tell him I've got 2 dates lined up this week! I've msg him to ask what happens next.

@TooOldForThis67 can't remember why it didn't work out with MrWow, you seem so well suited. What's stopping you now? You seem to be meant to be!

@Focus2019 don't send the message, it will make you look like a stalker. It's probably not what I'd like in a man either but I'd say see where the relationship goes first

focus i’d Not send a message but it would be a no for me. Sounds a bit sleazy, misogynistic and sad? Not very attractive for sure!!