Dating thread 150 - I get knocked down, but I get up again....

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Dating thread rules:

1. The first rule about the dating thread is you don't talk about it with people you're dating.
2. Develop a thick skin.
3. Do not invest emotionally too soon.
4. It's all BS until it actually happens.
5. Trust your gut instinct.
6. People vanishing, lying & being generally weird is not your fault.
7. You are the prize - they should be trying to impress you.
8. If it's not fun, stop.
9. Loo update is mandatory.

10. No dating the thread. 11. Do unto others as you would have them do to you.

And a reminder - you don't know them until you know them!

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Just out of curiosity, what are all your deal breakers?

Mr Rugby sounds flippin' amazing.

@ItsAMiracle2015 no teeth! Have had a couple of those

Er bald chest. Clean shaven if it's permanent.

Really overweight. Don't mind a belly if it's balanced out with broad shoulders.

Skinny and slight.

I've got a thing about hands. Don't like over soft or feminine hands!

MrRugby does sound rather lovely.

My dealbreakers were all physical 😳

Other stuff is not getting my jokes. Right wing. Not very bright.

I love the comment about hands! Made me laugh 😂. I'm going to be staring at the hands of men I date now 😂. I do tend to like guys who do manual work so can't think I've ever been with anyone with soft hands...

@Peanuthedz yes broadness definitely plays into it for me too.

Dealbreakers - height, not having dark/brown hair, being a muscle bound gym poser (any kind of bare chest on a profile unless on the beach is an immediate no). Veganism is a stretch for me too (particularly if they feel the need to mention it first thing, got no issue with vegans but it could be a bit of a lifestyle clash). Same with non-drinkers ☺️

Also not wanting kids, as I do, ultimately.

@Peanuthedz no teeth??? 😂

I tend to go for penniless artists! My current squeeze has a really left field job. Which actually does affect his hands in a very weird way.

Bad teeth 😱. I don't mind if they're crooked as long as they're all there and well looked after. I think Ricky Gervais has lovely teeth. Manky fingernails - nope I don't want those anywhere near my nether regions than you very much.

Men that really diss their exes - none of us are perfect and usually both parties contribute to the breakdown of a relationship. Any man that doesn't recognise where he went wrong last time and doesn't use it as a lesson to improve is next relationship is a bit of a turn off for me.

My husband had affairs, so to the outside world I am the 'innocent' party. In reality, I hated having sex with him so I'm not surprised he went elsewhere. Now I make sex a priority in a relationship because I know how important is - the difference is I actually fancy the men I sleep with now. I had no attraction for my husband.

@leonasa yep. I have had two irons with no front teeth. No second date. I've dated several with terrible teeth but I was able to ignore it. Up to a point!

I also seem to attract pissheads. I used to be boozy but I don't drink much now. 5-6 pints in s first date? Another dealbreaker!

My deal breakers are: bad teeth, overweight, underweight, right wing, lack of intelligence, racism, obsession with exes, short, no car (I did all the driving with my ex and it made me quite resentful at times), lack of conversation, very bad dress sense (dirty fleece, awful jeans, for example) and heavy drinkers.

I missed a few deal breakers - smokers, very small feet, leering, constant smutty innuendos, eating with mouth open, taking more than 12 hours to reply to texts/WhatsApp messages. Gosh its no wonder I am single!

Oh yes @JeSuisPrest, slagging off their exes is a definite red flag.

Now I'm thinking of a ton of dealbreakers! ☺️

Once you start thinking of them the list grows .

@LilyRose88 oh yeah all of those too. I'm surprised there's anyone left! Dirty fleeces. Nice. Any fleece probably. Unless we were meeting to go on a country hike but that's fairly unlikely on a first date in London!

@Lovemusic33 hope you're ok...

I wonder what the male equivalents are? Care to inform us gentlemen?

That needed a comma!!

I’m ok, still haven’t sent the message, I’m going to wait for him to send a sexual message and then at least I have a reason for my outburst. I have been thinking a lot today and looking at Mr SA photo and thinking ‘actually he’s not that good looking and he should be pleased that he’s dating me as I’m out of his league” 🤣. I need to stop thinking that I’m not good enough, I am good enough and I deserve to be treated with respect and I deserve someone who tells me that they miss me and care about me rather than saying “can’t wait to fuck you”. So if he doesn’t respond well to my message then it’s his loss not mine. I might end up back on POF later. And if I do my hates are....

Obese men (I have tried them out but I don’t find them atractive).
No beard (I love beards)
Short men
Men wearing football shirts
Smokers
People who drink a lot (i rarely drink)
Stress heads.

I like men that look a bit rough around the edges, a bit hippy or arty.

Hi, may I join? been lurking on and off and thoroughly enjoy reading about everyones antics :)
I Probably wont be a massive contributor though but will let you know how im getting on and no doubt ask for advice!
I’m a 50 year old male, couple of kids amicable divorce. Not currently dating but will start after easter.

So Re height I’m 6ft 2 and prefer taller - my ex is 5ft 10. 5ft 2 might be too short though...
I think on the whole height is seldom a deal breaker for men.

Oh God, 40 minutes to my date with MrWoods and I'm feeling really nervous 🙈

Will do an obligatory loo update. Pub is about a 15 minute walk from my house, I was debating walking so I could have a glass of wine or 2, but I fear I may start blubbing on him about MrAbs and telling him what a wanker MrPlumber turned out to be. I'll drive and have a diet Coke 🙄

I told him I'll be wearing jeans and a jumper, but I've upped the ante and put on a denim skirt (quite short but I've got good legs - they detract from my wobbly belly) with woolly tights, ankle boots and a really tight fitting top that MrAbs loved (34F boobs). I've put a woolly jumper over the top - if I'm feeling a spark I'll comment on how warm it is in the pub and whip my jumper off. That'll seal the deal hopefully 👍😂

Love all the updates.
I'm kiking a guy who is 15 years younger, not sure how he slipped through the net. But anyhoo, aparantly he's met loads of royalty, can hold his own convo wise with anyone, always eats out in Michelin star restaurants..... I spy a bullshitter. He's very entertaining though. I asked him how he likes his steak - medium 'because he likes carpaccio'

@Lovemusic33 I'm glad you're thinking like that!! That's the best way as when you do say what you need to you'll be feeling strong about it 😊. You definitely deserve more!

@JeSuisPrest good luck!! I'm always a bundle of nerves before a first date (I'm assuming it's a first date - I've a shitty memory 🙈).

@Howlingatthesun welcome! And thanks for the man input re height! I've had a couple guys say I'm too short which is fair as I am really short 😂 and I'm definitely not wearing heels all the time!