Dating thread 150 - I get knocked down, but I get up again....

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Dating thread rules:

1. The first rule about the dating thread is you don't talk about it with people you're dating.
2. Develop a thick skin.
3. Do not invest emotionally too soon.
4. It's all BS until it actually happens.
5. Trust your gut instinct.
6. People vanishing, lying & being generally weird is not your fault.
7. You are the prize - they should be trying to impress you.
8. If it's not fun, stop.
9. Loo update is mandatory.

10. No dating the thread. 11. Do unto others as you would have them do to you.

And a reminder - you don't know them until you know them!

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I know who he is!! I think 😉

If it is who I think it is, he's very handsome. Maybe not conventionally but I can see why someone would like that kind of guy.

I've not been on for a while been busy at work decided to go back on apps so got a few irons on the go. I was meant to meet my threesome last night but they cancelled. @LilyRose88 can't wait to hear how it goes!!

Seems like there's a mixed bag just now for you all ups and downs. I do t really have much of interest to say. Got a date tomorrow but I won't be surprised if he cancels he's not seeming very interested but we will see.

auba I think he's a player for a certain welsh team!

Auba14 if that feels right then go for it and enjoy it. Happy for you.

30somethingandsingle go for it! I would. And I would have no idea who he was as I know nothing about football.

ride him like Seabiscuit has to be the comment of the thread.

falaff if he's not for you then you need to tell him. Just be straight with him. That you like him but you can't see it being a long term thing. It's hard but better to do it now than later.

I have another date this evening. My 5th this week! Hopefully this one might be better than the last ones.
I'll call him Mr Biker. We've been messaging about 2 weeks and he's funny and easy to bounce jokey comments off. Gives as good as he gets.
Physically I'm not sure he's my type but I'd rather have someone who can make me laugh, than someone gorgeous who has no idea how to hold a conversation.

No it's not that team! Haha, he will just have to remain anonymous for now.

I've also been messaging another guy- we'll call him Mr cat - because every picture his cat is staring at the camera too which made me laugh considering the earlier conversations about cats! Have arranged to meet him next week for a drink.

Personality and conversation is so important - and I love a dry sense of humour too - would rather all that than some Adonis who was dull as ditch water! You're on fire MyOld - 5th date of the week!

My Mr Curry date tomorrow - have been to the cinema today with friends

Well I haven’t heard from MR SA, I’m hoping he realises I’m pissed off as I haven’t responded to his last message this morning, he has been online as he has changed his WhatsApp photo (to a not very nice photo of himself). I have messaged a friend to see if they want to go for a drink later, trying to make sure I am unavailable if he messages me asking to come over. Reading his messages back from the past few days just makes me more annoyed.

I’m no longer on POF but I am on tinder and have been flicking through occasionally, my POF profile is just hidden. If I wanted a fuck buddy then I could easily have Mr young who keeps messaging me and he’s only a few miles away unlike Mr SA who is an hour away when he’s not working away.

Mr S has messaged this afternoon it read:

Although we met on a no strings sex site it is more than the sex for me with you and want to show you that I want you for more than just the awesome naughty fun we have x x

I really don't know what I want. I split from my husband nearly a year ago now and I'm comfortable with myself being single, I don't need a man in my life, maybe I should give proper dating a chance?

Oo 30 sooo exciting!not sure what to advise as only you know how you feel.

Yeah blimey MyOld that is impressive! Which has been the best so far?

I think you should send that message Love

Auba lovely update, and no I don't think it's too much, if it feels right. Amazing that you feel that way, so happy for you!

30 how exciting, go for it! I know nothing about football so I'm not guessing anyone really, aside from one footballer I matched with on Bumble - team from south London by any chance??

I'm in a very good mood today both because of Mr Italian (and also I've just booked a holiday!) 🙂🙂🙂

Think my irons have dramatically whittled down to two - Mr Italian and Mr Sailor, who I'm still messaging and would like to try and meet soon. Mr Love hasn't messaged back in two days even though I've seen him online on OKC loads, so probably going to sack that one off.

I sort of had another iron, Mr Argentine, who bailed on two dates then disappeared then reappeared. But I've had a bit of a political disagreement with him now over WhatsApp - it's not the first actually - and I don't know if it's stupid but I just think we probably won't get on! I am quite open to different points of view but I feel like he has been quite judgmental and also I really don't respect particular opinions he has expressed. Is that reason enough to ditch him? Also he sent me a photo of himself in which he looks quite short, and then I realized his height was not in his profile (bad sign ;). I'm slightly ghosting him now which is bad, I should probably say something, though I have a feeling he might be quite shitty, and given his earlier disappearing act I don't feel I really owe him that much...

Sorry that was quite the essay there ☺️

Going out with my friend tonight, hopefully after a drink I will have the courage to send a message. My bluntness will depend on how drunk I am.

leonasa nothing wrong with a slow fade.

Who has dates tonight. I'm home watching Dirty John on Netflix ... Mr Curry has gone quiet 😣

I love this thread more than words can say.

Good luck to everyone tonight

I have had a bath (very unusual for me as I usually prefer a shower) and am getting myself ready slowly for meeting my Fab couple tonight. I'm rather nervous but they are decent people and will not force anything on me, so I know it will be okay.

Good luck to everyone who has dates tonight. I have a new iron who appeared this afternoon, Mr Tennis. He seems really nice and we have enough in common, so I am hopeful. We will chat tomorrow and I will suggest that we meet up for coffee as we don't live too far from each other. There is also Mr Eco Warrior who seems like a nice guy, and he has given me his number. I will text him and tell him that I am out with friends tonight, and hopefully we can chat tomorrow and fix up a date.

Love I agree with everyone else, send the text and be very clear about what you want and don't want. He sounds like a sex pest who has little concern for your feelings. I was quite cross with him when I read your posts.

This thread moves faster than seabiscuit, lol.

Focus - you don't sound too bothered by the cancellation? Will you try again?
Sidge - you lucky girl!
falaff - how come the hour long snog in the rain but not any fizzy knickers? Or is it just too soon?
Jesuis - goodluck tomz!
30something - Wow! Bet he has a fab house!
Auba - it all sounds perfect and as it should be if you're both comfortable with the pace. Enjoy it.

Well, MrRY and I had plans tonight but he's had his son today and didn't know if he was having him overnight. He has now said he has. I'm pissed off. He could have told me earlier!! 1st red flag. I don't want someone that can't organise himself, if indeed that is the truth. He's messaging sorry and am I ok etc but he can stew.

30something - big hands & a beard? Perfect combo, when are you meeting up next?
leonasa yes, that's reason enough to ditch him, he sounds a bit shit.

MrElba (yes, named after Idris) was very sorry for not responding quickly enough, but likes my confidence. So coffee might still be on the cards for next weekend.

Trying to catch up!

myoldbrain good luck tonight!

@JeSuisPrest aww I'm so sorry to hear about you and MrAbs - I enjoyed hearing your updates! Hadn't you just arranged to go away together with your kids or am I thinking of someone else??!
I love your attitude of getting straight back on it though and not dwelling on the ins and outs of it! Good luck with Mr Plumber !

Lovemusic another agreeing you deserve more-yes to the text

leonasa sadly none of my dates so far have been great
Fab 1 - just wanted a FB not a FWB. Shame he was good looking and easy to chat to
Fab 2 - hopefully we'll meet for some fun soon. But he talked a lot of crap. Funny but crap.
Fab 3 - got scared at the thought of meeting a woman who wanted to have sex with him
Mr No Eye Contact - hard work and got funny when I didn't answer a message in my sleep

That leaves Mr Biker tonight. Will update later!

LilyRose88 good luck. Let us know how it goes.

Love just send the text. Tell him how he is making you feel. Don't give him room to make excuses.