Sex - very different with new person? *TMI*

[Readytorewind]

This is going to be quite gross in terms of tmi, I apologise in advance but I'm totally thrown!

Just got back from a brilliant weekend away with a new guy. REALLY like him but it's only been a few weeks so just getting to know you stage.

The only thing I'm about is the sex. We had sex 6 times from Sat night - this morning. He lasts absolutely ages. As in over half an hour, everytime. I'm not used to this. My exes have always cum quickly. 5 mins tops. We did a lot of foreplay and I came (and squirted ) a lot. When I've wiped this morning there was a tinge of blood and I think it's basically friction? It didn't hurt at all during sex and I was really turned on. I have quite low self esteem so I'm wondering if it's taking him that long to cum because he's not attracted to me? But his behaviour and what he says doesn't match up with this theory as he's always kissing me, touching me, saying how great I am etc.

He's a fair bit younger (he's 31, I'm 39). Is lasting so long in the realm of normal? I'm very satisfied so feel a bit silly but it's just a nagging thought I've been getting?

Oh it sounds amazing, you're totally overthinking

You're exes weren't great in bed it sounds like

The tinge of bleeding is just because you're going for it a bit more

Lucky you! I always prefer it to quick sex. It won't be anything to do with you (negatively I mean) Enjoy

I am overthinking aren't I? Very prone to that. I'll get used to it hopefully! It's just not in my realm of experience

Sometimes the guy lasts a long time not because they don’t like you but because they really like you and are trying hard to give you the best time possible! If you want to “test” it out, wait until ten minutes before you’re due to leave and then suggest a quickie - make a game of how fast you can be. That’ll show you if he’s slowing down deliberately!

He might have delayed ejaculation though ... in which case, that would pile on the pressure, Michaelbaubles!

Yeah, but she’d find out for sure...

Poor guy!!

Sometimes I think the more comfortable and relaxed you are with a person the quicker it can happen

Wooooooo-eeeee

Stop panicking and enjoy yourself!

Happy days 😉

I don't think he does 'quickies', everytime we have sex he seems to go for the full lot haha.

I thought maybe it's an age thing?

This thread has really made me miss the starting new relationship stage....trying to figure each other out etc etc. I miss it! Enjoy op, doesn't sound like there's anything wrong to me x

I wouldn't honestly say half an hour is absolutely ages..
My DP is 28 and I would say 15-20 mins is average..

You lucky thing.

It's not an age thing. It's you've got yourself a decent lover.
If it's not delayed ejaculation its fabulous self-control, and they can also do quickes, although don't expect a 5-minute job!!

Sounds awesome, he's a keeper

I wouldn't say half an hour us ages either. But I've only had one partner in the last 25 years. Looks like I've struck gold. And so have you. Enjoy it .

Buy a good quality lube (‘Yes’ is great, ph balanced for women and glycerine free so no BV worries) and stop worrying

Sounds pretty good OP. I think its not abnormal in the early stages of a new relationship and shows he's into you. It might slow down a bit as time goes on so make the most of it.

Yeah I wouldn't call half hour a long time!

6 times in 2 days I couldn't be arsed with though.

Sounds like it's too much for you too. You may have to tell him.

I wonder why he wants to do it THAT often?

That would be too much for me.

Okay, good. I was questioning it but throughout he keeps saying that feels so good etc and he keeps his erection.

My ex was a weed addicted, mid 40's paranoid nightmare who couldn't stay hard. I'm over worried and analytical about sex. I'll try to relax and enjoy it then!

@HoppityFrog3 because they are getting to know each other. Because it's new and exciting! Because they clearly have a good connection.

The connection and attraction is very strong on my part. I don't know how we managed it that often either tbh because we had a 6am start to watch the sunrise and walked 30,000 steps but it was a great weekend. We can only see each other once a week for 48 hours max though so we make up for lost time!

some men who masturbate a lot find it hard to come during sex. It doesn't feel the same for them. Same thing can happen if they use porn to masturbate- they aren't getting the visual stimulation with a woman (in the same way.)

Only possible reason is he' s using Viagra and not saying :)

Is this one of them stealth boasts I've heard about? [jealous]

jingling that thought did cross my mind tbh.