Sex - very different with new person? *TMI*

[Readytorewind]

This is going to be quite gross in terms of tmi, I apologise in advance but I'm totally thrown!

Just got back from a brilliant weekend away with a new guy. REALLY like him but it's only been a few weeks so just getting to know you stage.

The only thing I'm about is the sex. We had sex 6 times from Sat night - this morning. He lasts absolutely ages. As in over half an hour, everytime. I'm not used to this. My exes have always cum quickly. 5 mins tops. We did a lot of foreplay and I came (and squirted ) a lot. When I've wiped this morning there was a tinge of blood and I think it's basically friction? It didn't hurt at all during sex and I was really turned on. I have quite low self esteem so I'm wondering if it's taking him that long to cum because he's not attracted to me? But his behaviour and what he says doesn't match up with this theory as he's always kissing me, touching me, saying how great I am etc.

He's a fair bit younger (he's 31, I'm 39). Is lasting so long in the realm of normal? I'm very satisfied so feel a bit silly but it's just a nagging thought I've been getting?

Hoppityfrog...I find your disbelieve really strange to be honest.

People have different sex drives. We did all the things you did just between jumping in and out of bed with each other.

It hardly has to be exclusive and it's neither right or wrong. It's what works best for the people involved.

@sagradafamiliar

Sounds like he's shagging you raw. Calm it down a bit, you're not Jay off the inbetweeners.

LOL, a few posters on here sound like JAY. With their 'shagging bragging.' As I said, it doesn't make you special, (shagging a lot!) Some people just need to realise that. It's kind of tacky and desperate to brag about shagging a lot.

Anyway I really am off now, as i seem to be upsetting a few people (raw nerves hit a bit I think...)

Poor Hoppity, fooling no one. I'm sorry this thread has made you so angry. I wonder if it's jealousy or if you genuinely just can't imagine someone enjoying sex that much.

I am clearly hitting a few raw nerves here, so I shall exit the thread.

Are you?

I read it more that people were trying to help you with your inability to grasp that you don't set the precedent for what's an acceptable amount of sex for anyone other than yourself

@Grandmasterflush, sounds like it. Fun the first few times, but rapidly gets dull.

Well when I got with my ex aged 23 and 25 we shagged 3 times a night at the start (seeing each other 2 - 3 times a week) and over a weekend would easily have managed double figures, spent all our time in bed shagging at first. I thought that was normal.

Well, HoppityFrog3 sounds like an absolute joy to be with!

So some people enjoy more sex - it has nothing to do with bragging.

I wish the OP every joy and happiness in her new relationship :)

Surely if you have PIV sex 20 times per week you would have trouble walking !!

Hoppity you’re not ‘hitting raw nerves’, you are coming across as rather narrow-minded, unworldly and naive by being unable to grasp the concept that not everyone shares your attitudes to sex.

Some people need to get a bit themselves 😂

Have fun op!...

For those that don't believe it, my ex didn't even go soft in between the first times. I wouldn't have believed it either, but there you go. He definitely came as well. He thought it was just what "healthy" young men were like.

There was a memorable Sunday afternoon, literally hours, featuring a dining room chair that meant my toes didn’t quite touch the floor.

Halcyon days.

When DH and I started going out we would spend whole weekends staying in barely getting dressed and only stopping to sleep eat and shower.

Gosh that's making me nostalgic (married in 2002). Spending whole weekends naked...

Although on our anniversary a few years ago we'd booked an expensive restaurant and got all dressed up. Then DH found my outfit rather 'fetching' and we ended up getting a takeaway and eating it naked in front of an open fire. Happy Days...

As others have said OP, enjoy!!

Me and my dh are like this now, the kids have grown up and some days we can spend all day in bed.
The sex is half the amount of those early days, but still isn't over any quicker.
Those who have a problem with people having more sex than them, need to get out more.

How is it bragging to say you like to have sex a lot? Are people who aren't that into sex "less than" those who are? The only way you'd think folk are bragging is if you believe that...

OP, he might just be really keen. Give it time, give him a few months to get used to you and you to him. And then decide whether you are fully compatible sexually.

Think of it this way, many women take ages to cum. We never accuse them of being porn hounds. We just accept that they might need more time, arent comfortable yet, etc. Give him time, grace and attention, just as you'd like from a partner if orgasm was taking a while.

I personally like quicker PIV sex than that because my cervix gets sore from too much bonking. You can do other stuff if you prefer, if you're sore etc. Be frank, kind and direct.

Personally, in terms of frequency, we definitely shag 2-3 times a day when we are away. (3 year relationship.) And when we first were together, there were several occasions of 6-8 times in a day. I absolutely loved it, nothing wrong with it. We are both perverts and I wouldn't have it any other way.

It sounds like you've finally found a man that's good in bed! My Dh lasts around 45 minutes (a quickie is about 20) and I love it! The longer the better.
Relax and enjoy!!

Another one here, agreeing that sex will last much longer with the right bloke because he’ll hold himself off for a while in the interests of pleasing you. But that can be hard to get used to when you are used to a Johnny Cum Lately (so to speak.....)
And lots of sex within a loving (or potentially loving) relationship is JOYFUL! So you go, girl......

I’ve been with my DH 13 years and I can count on one hand the number of times he has finished before me. He has amazing self control and doesn’t finish until I have (usually immediately after, or, on occasion, at the same time). He has been like this from the beginning. I haven’t perfected my self control yet!

And yes, we did have sex more than 6 times in 48 hours in those early days. We used to do it before bed and again in the morning. More than once, too.

Oh I miss those days. Stop worrying and enjoy it!

I promise I posted this thread because I was worried he might not fancy me, not for nefarious reasons.

I'm reassured by people on here that he's lasting a while now as it's more common in some men and he's generous and kind in his personality so is obviously going to he in bed.

As for the frequency (which I gave for context, that's all ) it's normal for us to have sex quite a few times in the 1-2 days we get to see each other. As I said the connection is quite strong and was immediate. And honestly, we do lots of stuff outside of sex and have common interests, the weekend just gone was packed full of walks, beaches, photography and music. I need to chill out and relax. Thanks all

Enjoy!
I sure do miss those early days bonking like rabbits!
Making out like teenagers

Good for you OP, he sounds like an excellent lover! I'd be desperately disappointed to be with a man who came in 5 minutes and would consider us to be sexually incompatible. Quickies aside, 20 to 30 minutes is normal to me!

I also like sex so twice a day or more is also good!

Have fun!

6 times a day would be overkill for me. But each to their own. Enjoy!!!

It's early days with a new partner. It'll settle down in time, both in frequency and length of time per play. No one can keep that up (!) forever.

Hey,

Not sure if this helps but my X was the same, he took ages to finish and also would have the occasional spotting. I struggled with it, but if its working for you then fab stuff :-)