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Sex - very different with new person? *TMI*

102 replies

Readytorewind · 25/02/2019 20:45

This is going to be quite gross in terms of tmi, I apologise in advance but I'm totally thrown!

Just got back from a brilliant weekend away with a new guy. REALLY like him but it's only been a few weeks so just getting to know you stage.

The only thing I'm Confused about is the sex. We had sex 6 times from Sat night - this morning. He lasts absolutely ages. As in over half an hour, everytime. I'm not used to this. My exes have always cum quickly. 5 mins tops. We did a lot of foreplay and I came (and squirted Blush) a lot. When I've wiped this morning there was a tinge of blood and I think it's basically friction? It didn't hurt at all during sex and I was really turned on. I have quite low self esteem so I'm wondering if it's taking him that long to cum because he's not attracted to me? But his behaviour and what he says doesn't match up with this theory as he's always kissing me, touching me, saying how great I am etc.

He's a fair bit younger (he's 31, I'm 39). Is lasting so long in the realm of normal? I'm very satisfied so feel a bit silly but it's just a nagging thought I've been getting?

OP posts:
HoppityFrog3 · 25/02/2019 22:34

None of you had sex 6 times a weekend when you first started out together?

Nope.

Newsflash!!!

NOT EVERYONE IS THE SAME.

Me and my (now) DH shagged 6 times in the first MONTH, not the first weekend! We spent the first week chatting, laughing, walking, playing music, popping to the pub, and we shagged twice in that week. We never shagged 3 times a day.

Horses for courses eh? We just found other things to do, other than shag. What are like eh? Wink

It's not some kind of special achievement shagging 6 times in a weekend. I swear some people think they're more special or attractive or 'wild and wonderful' if they fuck like bunnies. They're really not........

HoppityFrog3 · 25/02/2019 22:35

None of you had sex 6 times a weekend when you first started out together?

Nope.

Newsflash!!!

NOT EVERYONE IS THE SAME.

Me and my (now) DH shagged 6 times in the first MONTH, not the first weekend! We spent the first week chatting, laughing, walking, playing music, popping to the pub, and we shagged twice in that week. We never shagged 3 times a day.

Horses for courses eh? We just found other things to do, other than shag. What are we like eh? wink

It's not some kind of special achievement shagging 6 times in a weekend. I swear some people think they're more special or attractive or 'wild and wonderful' if they fuck like bunnies. They're really not........

Quintella · 25/02/2019 22:35

Newsflash!!!

NOT EVERYONE IS THE SAME.

Well, yeah.

So why are you so puzzled as to why the OP is different to you?

OrigamiZoo · 25/02/2019 22:35

If I was away for a weekend with a guy I had a great connection with I'd easily expect sex 6 times in the weekend - on arrival, maybe once or twice, after dinner, next morning, again before dinner, or maybe just stay in bed all day and order room service.....Grin

Half an hour is fine, enjoy, be safe and be careful you don't get cystis as maybe he's being a bit vigorous!

wishywashy6 · 25/02/2019 22:37

I know some people celebrate it and say 'woo hoo, you go girl!' But in reality, who the hell wants to shag 14 times a week?

🙋🏼‍♀️

HoppityFrog3 · 25/02/2019 22:37

I am not puzzled. I am giving my opinions.

HoppityFrog3 · 25/02/2019 22:38

People claiming they want to shag 14-20 times a week.......

I don't believe you.

RomanyQueen1 · 25/02/2019 22:39

It's brilliant when they are still like this in their 50"s OP. You will be the envy of many Grin
The slight blood, sometimes it's just a change in partner, I was like this, strangely enough because of the leisurely time.
Obviously keep your eye open for anymore but you'll soon settle down.

HoppityFrog3 · 25/02/2019 22:39

Methinks the laydees doth protest too much. Grin

The more people brag about lots of shagging, the less likely it is they do it.

#justsaying

Quintella · 25/02/2019 22:39

Are you dense?

TSSDNCOP · 25/02/2019 22:40

Ah man, I miss those lost weekends. You utterly lucky bastard.

SpringForEver · 25/02/2019 22:40

I was going to say, perhaps the blood might turn into cystitis. If he is slow and gentle probably not but if he bangs away at it, then be careful. Happened to me once and it went to my kidneys.

wishywashy6 · 25/02/2019 22:44

*People claiming they want to shag 14-20 times a week.......

I don't believe you.*

Well that's your prerogative but I'm failing to see why you're struggling to accept that other people have different sex drives to you.

I see my BF 4 or 5 nights a week. On average we'll have sex 3 or 4 times each time.
Do the math

I don't have a target of 14-20 times per week to hit btw Hmm sometimes it's more sometimes it's less but I have a high sex drive and while yes we laugh, we talk, we date, we go on random road trips etc we also have sex. A lot 😬

HoppityFrog3 · 25/02/2019 22:46

@Quintella

are you dense?

Are you?

theredjellybean · 25/02/2019 22:46

When I first met my now dp, he'd stay hard for ages, sometimes an hour.
I thought maybe I was not "doing it right".. He clearly was attracted to me but didn't cum quickly.
Eventually I asked him... It was because it all felt so amazing and the best sex he had ever had he wanted to last. He obviously had great control.. And liked to ensure I had amazing time too. We often would slow it down and speed up several times to prolong things.
Just relax, enjoy it, he sounds a thoughtful generous lover
Oh and many yrs later my dp can still last... And we can have sex six times in a weekend.. And we are in our fifties

MrsMcGarry · 25/02/2019 22:47

Oh enjoy .

I had very similar with new relationship post 20 year marriage. I was seriously worried he didn’t like me enough. Turned out he’s just a really nice man who enjoys sex with me, rather than just utilising me to de-spunk, and it’s not an age thing as mine is 52.

And massive boast - we once managed 6 times in one day - that was in early days when we hadn’t told kids yet so were seeing each other only once a week when my kids were at their dad’s. Nearly 2 years on and we don’t shag like that anymore, but it’s still wonderful

HoppityFrog3 · 25/02/2019 22:47

People are entitled to say they shag 100 times a month.

Just as I am entitled to say I don't believe it.

StitchingMoss · 25/02/2019 22:47

Hoppity you sound a bit jealous tbh! Grin Protesting everyone is different but then finding other people’s attitude to sex so foreign you accuse them of lying Confused.

Some people are really really into sex - no bad thing. Some aren’t - their choice.

HoppityFrog3 · 25/02/2019 22:48

I am clearly hitting a few raw nerves here, so I shall exit the thread.

RickOShay · 25/02/2019 22:49

Hoppity, I think you are the one protesting too much Grin

sagradafamiliar · 25/02/2019 22:49

Sounds like he's shagging you raw. Calm it down a bit, you're not Jay off the inbetweeners.

Quintella · 25/02/2019 22:49

Hoppity you feel the need to post an all caps 'NOT EVERYONE IS THE SAME' yet can't conceive of the fact that not everyone is the same as you. So I think asking if you're dense is a fair question.

Grandmasterflush · 25/02/2019 22:50

Death grip

HoppityFrog3 · 25/02/2019 22:50

@sagradafamiliar

Sounds like he's shagging you raw. Calm it down a bit, you're not Jay off the inbetweeners.

LOL, a few poster son here sound like JAY. Grin

Quintella · 25/02/2019 22:51

Strange how furious some people get over other people's sex lives...