DH not attracted to me since I've gained weight

[ginandsonicboom]

DH and I have been together for 11 years; married for 4. Have 2 DC, 6 and 7.

We're having problems in our marriage. Today he told me he's stopped wanting sex with me partly because of my weight. I've put on loads of weight since having DC, so 5-6 stone in the last 8 years.

I feel like I can't get over this, I feel shit enough about myself as it is, but now feel disgusted with myself. Yet at the same time, I feel angry that he's being so shit, and feel I deserve more respect. I don't know if I can stay in this marriage.

Cassette thank you so much for sharing your story, how inspiring you are. I hope to follow in your footsteps.

Where if you had read the thread properly you would see that I have been debating leaving him for a while. This has been the final straw really, not in that he is unreasonable not to be attracted to me, but that this thread and support has helped me to see that being in this relationship has not been healthy for me.

I haven't anything useful to add but wishing you all the best, ginandsonicboom, it's not easy, not easy at all. But it's worth it if you decide that it's what you want for yourself and for nobody else.

I dieted for a boyfriend once, I was really quite slim but not slim enough for him, obviously. I was too scared of losing him to tell him where to get off. I was young and silly and never again will I be at the behest of another person, man or woman. Never. Again.