DH says if I go home he will marry someone else

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This sounds like it’s made up, I wish it was! Have namechanged too btw.

My head is all over the place so please bear with me!
I am currently a few weeks pregnant and want to have the baby in the UK. We (me and 5 year old daughter) moved to a country outside of the UK in June and have not settled in well at all. DH has been here on and off for 3 years and we have made do with visits etc. DH doesn’t agree to me leaving and having the baby in the UK, he said if we leave he will marry someone else as he doesn’t want to go back to the UK. I have booked flights to go home soon and he said I’m making the biggest mistake of my life, I don’t care about our children if I take them back to the UK etc.

I don’t know what I’m posting for I just don’t have anyone in real life to talk to as I’m so embarrassed that he he would say he’ll marry someone else (I’ve no doubts he will do this and is not just making empty threats) this country allows polygamy. I will basically be going home to my parents house with nothing and don’t know what I’m going to do

Hi op, so he is talking to you about it again. Did he mention the visas?
Does he seek pretty reasonable?

I am looking forward to getting your update as you take off tbh. Are you packing?

Seek - seem

Gosh, just read this all, I’m just hoping so much you have a safe journey home, you must be counting the hours.

Sounds like you are in Qatar or similar.

He can stop you leaving whenever he feels like it. Even once you have passed immigration, but before the plane actually departs.

If you are leaving in a week then you need to play the loyal wife.

You are having the baby in the Uk and coming back immediately once baby has passport, so age 6 weeks.

Be very upset he mentions another wife and repeatedly beg him not to do so while you are away ensuring the best care for your unborn baby.

I'm assuming he is British Muslim and you are not. It would be unusual for Christian, white British to seriously consider a second wife.

If I were you, I'd take the next flight out tomorrow morning and put your DH's phone on silent to get you through immigration.

I'll keep my fingers crossed you get out safely xxx

So tough for you OP. Hope you can leave smoothly.

I am looking forward to getting your update as you take off tbh. Are you packing?

Aww. It’s just like an episode of Eastenders isn’t it? Can’t wait for the next instalment. 🙄

good luck OP

Swingofthings has posted some strange observations, sounds like he is the OPs DH? I fear this will not end well.

The UAE is not signed to the Hague convention, I believe

And that’s what’s relevant.

I think the poster is getting at the child location/schooling etc part of the convention (not being able to move a child from their habitual place if residence and schooling).

It doesn't matter @iownleatherbooks

Once she is out of the UAE, the Hague Convention can not be used to force her back there

The Hague convention isn't about the spouse, it's anout the children. If that country follows it they will have to send the kids back if the dad requests it.

THE UAE IS NOT SIGNED TO THE HAGUE CONVENTION

I hope all goes well for you this weekOP. I would talk to him as if this is a last trip to see family before baby is born.

I hope all goes well for you this week. I would talk to him as if this is a last trip to see family before baby is born, nothing else.

Good luck. ❤️

Swingofthings has posted some strange observations, sounds like he is the OPs DH
Just to reassure OP, I'm definitely not her husband or anyone he knows. I find the whole thing very odd and deceitful but like most posts on mn, there is probably a lot more to it than what's been shared here.

Whatever the situation, dont want my posts to worry you if they ever did.

alexa I don’t watch eastenders. Like everyone else I will be relieved when op is safely home. In the context of this thread I find your post unkind and unnecessary.

Op good luck. Please let us know if you as safe. We are all behind you.

You are safe.

Springwalk. I just find the tone of your posts to be rather over-invested tbh. I’m sure we all want to see OP safely back in the UK but you wanting to know if she’s packing yet and talking about crowd-funding for her and wishing you could go over and bring her back seems somewhat excessive. And no, I don’t watch Eastenders either but I hear it’s full of high drama.

We don't entirely know where or how safe or not the OP is or how controlling her dh is. OP wisely does not provide all the full facts and probably does not know the full story herself.

Posters who have lived in the Middle East with experience of situations like this may take the OP's situation more seriously that others who have only heard of it or who have no experience of this. There is room for all views on this thread.

I am sure that OP, who seems to have her head screwed on, is taking all this in and picking the bits which are relevant to her, even if some posters are far off the mark. At least it gives her food for thought. Forewarned is forearmed.

I don't think anyone should dictate to another poster the tone of her posts.

alexa* I genuinely really don’t care what you think. I am not sure who you think you are to pass any judgement. Offer support to the op by all means but you are not judge and jury of other people’s posts.

Thank you blueshoes I do have extensive experience of the ME, and my blood ran cold when I read this thread. It is extremely oppressive depending on where she is. I have been frightened on more than one occasion. I hope op safely makes it out.

alexa.....I think Springwalk is worried about the OP as I think everyone is reading this thread. It is not "over-invested" to care about someone's welfare and her comments have only come from a kind place - your's I'm not so sure about!

springwalk I too am wishing for safe passage for OP, her dd and her unborn child. Fingers crossed for her.