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What do you know about men that you wished you knew before....

149 replies

toffeeapple123 · 09/02/2019 12:18

......???

OP posts:
RomanticFatigue · 10/02/2019 00:51

In my experience, they will always be on the prowl for someone else. No matter how much they say they love you. Their eyes will always be on the door.

Ribbonsonabox · 10/02/2019 01:02

Quite a few of them really hate women and it's not always easy to spot initially!

Never trust a man who calls any woman 'crazy/hysterical'

limpbizkit · 10/02/2019 01:04

That sex to them is just a physical thing and it doesn't matter who you are as long as you have a fanny

limpbizkit · 10/02/2019 01:05

If I had my time again I'd definitely see the appeal of lesbianism

Arealhumanbeing · 10/02/2019 08:03

That I should never look to a man to love me at his own expense. All relationships should be conditional and well-negotiated.

Very well put.

Some of the comments on here are really upsetting. I have had awful experiences with men (rape and harassment) but not in relationships.

I don’t have children or live in relationships though. Is this where the disappointment sets in?

Fairylea · 10/02/2019 08:06

Some of these comments are awful. If there was a thread like this about women people would be outraged.

Men are just people. Some men are bad, some men are good. Not all men think the same.

I’ve been treated badly by men in relationships but I don’t think it’s becsuse they are men, it’s because they were arseholes!

I have a son and I don’t want people to tar him with some men hating brush just because he was born with a penis.

HumptyNumptyNooNoo · 10/02/2019 08:35

I agree Fairylea !
Let's hope the next generation will be all the things women want ... and that, by then, women haven't changed their minds !!

I think the world is a great place with men, women, and those inbeteeen . If we could stop people fighting that would be fantastic !

Amazonfromkent · 10/02/2019 08:36

I have a son too. But I still (by now) realise, at middle age, that men are fundamentally a different species altogether. They are so unlike us it's unreal. I tend to think that the overwhelming majority of THEM is hateful, evil and inhuman.

OdeToDiazepam · 10/02/2019 08:47

Can't trust them.. ever

windowWAG · 10/02/2019 09:05

I think men on the whole are wonderful.

They have a whole league of understanding many women will never have. There are some bad eggs but in life I've probably met a lot more terrible women than men.

We should be celebrating our fantastic guys on here more often.

WhoKnewBeefStew · 10/02/2019 09:23

If a man wants to be with you he will always find the time.

If a man wants to talk to you he will always find the time.

If he can’t fine the time, then it’s not that important to him.

Take their words with a pinch of salt and believe their actions

Dimsumlosesum · 10/02/2019 09:25

That they're quite simple really. As long as they are fed and get to have sex/lots of attention they seem happy. Not much depth to a lot of them that way. Not all men, obvs. Just a lot.

labazsisgoingmad · 10/02/2019 09:26

that their is a lot of men who just want to use and abuse you

Parthenope · 10/02/2019 09:28

So, even your son is ‘fundamentally a different species’, Amazon? What about ‘hateful, evil and inhuman’? Hmm

Boom76 · 10/02/2019 09:28

Wow and they say men hate women? Going by this thread, seems to be that women hate men just the same

Boom76 · 10/02/2019 09:29

Disgusting thread

2019willbegreat · 10/02/2019 09:39

Agree with the comments 're differences mainly due to socialization of both sexes. Some people (both sexes) are just plain nasty but the minute you are put into a blue or pink babygro you are taught and learn to behave in entirely different ways. Although I would also argue that is because western society is inherently patriarchal.

Mix56 · 10/02/2019 09:39

Will do what benefits them , always

Amazonfromkent · 10/02/2019 10:26

@Parthenope. Yes, he is a fundamentally different to me. And before you proceed to further conclusions, I love him more than anything.

user1479305498 · 10/02/2019 11:42

I think more than most women more men have the ability to do very hurtful things to women they actually do love and in my opinion again with ‘most’ men, they are very focussed on their own issues and needs

AFistfulofDolores1 · 10/02/2019 11:45

That all of them have unresolved mummy issues of one kind or another that they have to work through if a relationship has any chance of being healthy and balanced.

(Caveat: we women all have unresolved daddy issues too.)

MissMaisel · 10/02/2019 11:49

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littlemisscynical · 10/02/2019 12:04

What a horrible, sexist thread!!

Ribbonsonabox · 10/02/2019 12:43

It is sexist yes... but considering the statistics on women experiencing abusive behaviour from men.. I do not think that's surprising. You could be forgiven for thinking some men are a totally different species sometimes.
Of course that's not how it should be, we are all human beings... but unfortunately this is still how society shapes gender to an extent.

DrMorbius · 10/02/2019 13:03

To 99% of men, by far the most important relationship that they had in their formative years was with a woman.

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