What do you know about men that you wished you knew before....

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There is a little boy inside every man.

DH will never stand up to his parents to defend me or DCs. I think this is a male thing, women may be quicker to just tell their parents when something is wrong because they have a better ability to communicate.

Not really just men I suppose but even the nicest people can let you down and leave you without a backward glance so always protect yourself first - never put all your eggs in one basket.

That they are just people, like women. They have the same needs and you can enjoy them without choosing just one and being married.

That they are disappointing and not worth the bother.

Never listen to the words that men (or women) are saying regarding love, friendship, money, trust and respect, look at their actions.

Yeah @explodingkitten that's a good one. I've learnt that the past year.

That I shouldnt put their need to not be challenged ahead of my comfort.

They are childish and selfish.

That as a sex class they do not like women very much.

Bet this will go down like a lead balloon but agree with the simple minds thing. They don’t agonise over things like we do, whether it be when to call, text etc or more serious things.

Just because all your friends have one you don't need one... would have saved me settling down with the 1st one who asked..

That you only need them for sex.

They're surprisingly selfish at the core. A surface layer of selfishness, a layer of helpfulness under that, and then under that the utter self centred childishness because they genuinely don't really feel emotion, for themselves or for other people.

I have found over the years that many have felt that their voice and viewpoint is more important than mine.

That they spend too much time watching sport.

That they expect a lot of empathy when they are ill but don’t give much when you are.

That they don’t really like family life and will do anything to get out of events that they don’t fancy.

That they become very grumpy as they get older.

There are obviously lots of exceptions to the above but sadly my experience of men in general over 50 years of dating/marriage/dating has been disappointing

That they fundamentally see women as more replaceable than women see men.

How to protect myself better against them (boundaries).

That very few pull their weight at home & in family life.

Sadly, I have picked badly & don't have the best opinion of them in general.

I believe that women generally improve with age, but men definitely don't.
That they are extremely needy, need constant reassurance and input. It's boring and draining, especially when you'd rather expend that sort of energy on your children.
I'd like to have properly understood how much more physically strong they are. They're not like bigger, stronger women, they're a whole other level of strong.

That you can’t generalise about ‘men’. They are humans & there are shit humans and amazing humans - and everything in between.

My personal experience involves far more shitty women than men - I have friends who’ve had horrendous experiences with men, but it doesn’t mean women are.../men are because I know that the behaviour of those people was down to their personalities & failings as humans &
not the contents of their pants.

Fucking hope none of the bitter, nasty generalisations above were made by parents of boys or there really is no hope :(

That as a sex class they do not like women very much

Really?

Can you see the irony of posting that on this thread. It’s ‘them’ that doesn’t like ‘us’!?!?

Agreed, chips, as the wife, friend, daughter, sister, and mother of entirely delightful male people.

That they are not mind readers, despite so many women assuming otherwise.

If you want a man to do something, or to stop doing something, by far the best approach is to be completely straightforward and just ask him. Expecting him to pick up on subtle hints is a complete waste of time.

That on the whole they’re much less “sorted” than women are, and that many of them will use you for sex if they can possibly get away with it.

That they are very like women. They're just socialized differently.

That they have typically suffered due to their socialization, just as women have.

They aren't "simple" so much as usually completely cut off from their emotions and unable to notice or describe them.

Most have not been properly loved since early boyhood and suffer dreadfully for it. This is the true root of their monumental selfishness.

That I should never look to a man to love me at his own expense. All relationships should be conditional and well-negotiated.

Selfish and self absorbed to the core.

Mostly do things where they benefit from it.

Aggressive and good reason to be afraid of them