Starting over after 25 years - Part Trois

[Lily007]

Time to start a new thread.

I’m hoping all you ‘regulars’ will continue the journey with me 😊

Lily kh is such an Idiot,! You are such a lovely classy lady and I wish you all the best! I am just waiting for you to post that the total loser has come back on his knees begging for you to have him back as the grass is definitely not greener and he has realised what a big fu@king mistake he has made!!!

I totally agree with the comment by inlectorecumbit. I think he knows he has burned his bridges and now his former mates and your son don't want anything to do with him, he feels he has no choice but to stick with OW or he will be totally on his own. What a prat. To get engaged while still married shows he has absolutely no class and smacks of desperation.

Hold your head high Lily, you outclass him by a country mile.

Who the hell is going to attend THAT wedding? He has no one now 😂😂

I wonder if OW is getting antsy and he's proposed to keep her sweet.

(I think I recall you saying she's had her hair cut like yours and has been known to stalk your FB. I think she is very insecure, odd that!)

@Lily007 I was wondering about you today. Hope you're feeling not so bad and the shock has worn off.

Morning.

Thanks for the posts everyone. I'm doing really well at the moment

I'm not particularly fussed about KH and OW getting engaged, in fact I think it's laughable.

I have a friend, who's mother has a stall at the same market as OW, and the other day my friend was chatting to another one of the market traders "M". It seems OW has told other stall holders that KH and I were separated well before she met him, my friend explained to "M" that this was not the case and that they had in fact been having an affair for months before we actually split up. "M" then told my friend that a lot of the market traders laugh at KH and OW, calling them the oldest swingers in town. "M" apparently said of KH "he dresses like he's 30 years old", he's almost 57!

We're very close to agreeing a financial settlement, thankfully, which will enable me to apply for the Decree Absolute. Once this is done and I sell the house, I'll be able to get myself a little house of my own and move on. The thought of not having to see or communicate with KH ever again is one I relish.

The divorce will have seriously damaged KH financially and at the rate he's spending, I can't see him ever getting back to the standard of living we enjoyed prior to him leaving.

57 years old, no house, no savings, less than 50% of his pension and a partner who works 16 hours per week on her mother's market stall. I hope it was all worth it

Thanks for updating us Lily.
It's good to see you moving on and I've no doubt that KH will realise what he's lost one day. By that I mean not only financial, but you of course and your lovely son.
Let's keep everything crossed for a quick house sell and settlement and great new home for you.
🤞

Glad things are moving up a gear Lily. Thanks for updating. You can soon finally move on with your life. 🌺

Glad to hear you are doing well Lily.

57 years old, no house, no savings, less than 50% of his pension and a partner who works 16 hours per week on her mother's market stall. I hope it was all worth it. I think we can safely assume it won't have been .

These men are disgraceful, my ex married his fiancee following on from having an affair with her.

The wedding took place five months after we divorced. He didn't have the guts to invite his two adults kids to the wedding.

No wonder my ex doesn't see his kids who have decided to go no contact

Glad to hear from you again Lily. After KH admitting to your family member that ‘he’s made his bed, and now he has to lie in it’ I think it’s safe to say he will have more than his fair share of regrets. I also think his stag do will be a sad state of affairs, as he’s lost most of his mates too

Fingers crossed you get everything sorted financially.

Hope you are keeping well lily

Hi @notsodimwit.

I’m not too bad at the moment thank you other than being really frustrated with KH’s solicitor. Over the past 3 weeks I’ve sent 3 letters trying to finalise the finances and, in turn, apply for the Decree Absolute but she hasn’t responded.

KH has cancelled the DD for the pet insurance for our 13 year old dog, It’s an express term of the interim maintenance order that he pays this, when I was notified 3 weeks ago that he’d cancelled the DD I texted him in case it was on oversight, he replied “I’ve stopped it until the finances are sorted”. As I’ve said I’ve written to his solicitor asking that he reinstates the DD but haven’t had a response. I’m going to ring the Solicitor’s Regulation Athority tomorrow to ask what I can do about a solicitor not cooperating.

What a bloody horrible thing to do about the dog! Why take it out on him! God how frustrating Lily!! Our house has now sold, all going through, no chain either. I cannot wait to have some peace, I have lots of viewings this week to purchase my own home. Tough road ahead though. Keep going Lily, you are doing brilliantly 🌺🌺

@Redland12 I’m so happy to hear you’re house has sold. Good luck with the house hunting.

I can’t wait to sell our house and get something of my own. I feel every horrible thing he does is about control and/or to get a reaction so once I have my own house there’s no need for any further contact ever.

*your not you’re 🙄

Thanks Lily, I’ve been out this morning viewing and off again shortly to view some more. DH panicking as he thought it would never happen and I wouldn’t do it! WRONG. Even asked if he could move in with me while he sorts something out for himself 😱😱I honestly couldn’t make it up! He thinks we will still be friends once we are separated 😂absolutely no chance, what he’s put me through will never leave me. Things will be so different for you once you have your own place. How did you get on with the Regulation Authority?

Hi @Redland12. How bloody hardfaced is he, expecting you to put him up 😡.

I’ve sent an email to the Senior Partner at KH’s solicitor’s firm. I’ve told him I’m not prepared to allow the matter to become further protracted and unless I receive a response within the next 48 hours I’ll make a complaint to the SRA.

Have you seen anything you like? I imagine it’s both daunting and exciting 😊

I know! He says he’s trying to win me back! Not a chance, now reality has kicked in he’s frightened, it was him pushing for a sell and now it’s happened he’s panicking, I said I thought you’d be jumping for joy, he said no, I thought it’s what I wanted but I was wrong.He has to pay me a spousal maintenance too. He’s a alcoholic and I cannot tell you what I’ve put up with. Someone told me to read about narcissism and I was absolutely shocked! It’s like they were talking about him! Good for you, you tell them! I keep thinking about your dog, horrible thing to do. Yes, I’ve seen a couple I like but I have a lot of choice with my budget (it’s not hundred of thousands) and it’s a buyers market at the moment. So score! I am doing the viewings on my own , my choice but didn’t think for a minute I would be doing this😞 can you believe he did ask to come too!! Dick! I must admit yes, it’s exciting. 2 more viewings later, cannot wait to have some peace 🌺

Hello Lily, sorry to see KH is still delaying things. Just thank your stars that once it's done and dusted that you really will never ever have to deal with his sorry ass again.
You've got your lovely son and I doubt he'll bother with KH.
(Regular but I've name changed)

@Redland12 good for you and good luck with the house hunt.

@TDogsInHats. Thanks for that.

I got a response from his solicitor the day after with an update but still no sign of the consent order which was sent to him for approval almost 2 weeks ago. It was our 24th wedding anniversary yesterday 😢

I really don’t know why he’s delaying matters now. I’d have thought he would want it all done so he and his skank can get on with their wedding plans 🙄

Maybe it's so he can't get on with the wedding plans that he's delaying it. Don't be surprised if you find out he is telling her you're delaying it.

I think itwasntme101 has hit the nail on the head!

Thanks Lily, it was our 32nd wedding anniversary Thursday!! It’s like a bad dream, like it’s happening to someone else. We have to keep going 🌺