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Original poster

OH attacked me but I can't leave tonight (pic)

414 replies

youjustdontunderstand · 24/01/2019 21:57

Threw DS high chair at me then hit me with a remote. I have a job interview tomorrow I've already rearranged it so that's not an option and I need this job.

I have packed up all our things and hid them I can't have him know we are leaving.

Really worried about this cut being visible tomorrow! Sad

OP posts:
RomanyRoots · 24/01/2019 23:15

A cop has told you that you aren't safe, and to call 999.
Please do as advised.
If he wakes up or has a hint of your plan he could kill you.
Call them now, you'll be safe then.
You are not safe now.

Menta1elf · 24/01/2019 23:15

Please, please call the police now, they will have officers with you in minutes, he will be arrested, removed, and he won't be coming back, I can absolutely assure you of that.

He has hit you tonight, he might do more over the course of the next few hours. He is a dangerous individual and he must be stopped. You need help and you need it fast - I am fearful for your life

Original poster
youjustdontunderstand · 24/01/2019 23:16

He's hid the keys 😭😭😭

Will the police take me all the way to my mums she's miles away? X

OP posts:
cindersrella · 24/01/2019 23:16

They will definatley take him away then you can make arrangements

PurpleDaisies · 24/01/2019 23:17

They will either do that or take him away so you can find the keys.

historygeek12 · 24/01/2019 23:17

Of course they will , just call them now they will help you , just call them you are not in a safe place please call them

Orlandointhewilderness · 24/01/2019 23:17

Oh lovely, please please call them. They will make sure you are safe and that is all that matters right now.

Colabottle10 · 24/01/2019 23:17

Please call the police.

summersoonplease · 24/01/2019 23:18

Please get out tonight don't wait !! Get away from the bastard, send the pics to a friend/your mum tell them to call the police , please x

Mummyoftwo91 · 24/01/2019 23:18

Please call the police, at least you will all be safe Thanks

Rafabella · 24/01/2019 23:18

Yes they will. He's hidden the keys after he has apologised? You are not safe. Call the police now.

cindersrella · 24/01/2019 23:18

Stop looking and rummaging around. His senses will probably be hightened as he will be expecting you to do something. If you can get to a safe place call the police. If not can you text someone you trust to call he police so hey can come to you as it's not safe enough for you to do so x

Minnie747 · 24/01/2019 23:19

Please call the police. It is worth all the upheaval tonight, waking and moving your children etc.

Gemmajump · 24/01/2019 23:20

Please call the police. I beg you.

SuchAToDo · 24/01/2019 23:20

Op do as the other posters have said and call the police tonight (or text your photo to someone and ask them to get the police to come )... if he has attacked you already, what is to stop him attacking you again when he comes upstairs?..you aren't safe with him

And you say he would never hurt your daughter...I bet there was a time you said the same thing about yourself (that he would never hurt you)

Op please report him to the police tonight...you can still attend your job interview tomorrow, and you will have the space to pack up tonight without him there...don't wait,

GobAllMighty · 24/01/2019 23:20

OP where is he now??? Is he in a different room to you. Please you have to ring the police.

dangerrabbit · 24/01/2019 23:20

Sending love and hugs your way. Please report to the police as you and your family are in danger from him.

I wanted to let you know about this app bright sky which is for victims of domestic violence it also allows you to locate your nearest shelter: broadly.vice.com/en_us/article/vb4gj8/hestia-bright-sky-domestic-violence-app

Menta1elf · 24/01/2019 23:21

999 now, they will be there in minutes, you are gambling with your life if you do not. I cannot stress this enough, please honey, I have been here, this is serious shit....

DustyMcDustbuster · 24/01/2019 23:21

Having been where you are now, I know how unsafe you are (& your DC). Police drove me to my brother’s, which wasn’t massively far, but they helped me get DS’ clothes & toys to take too. Please, darling, get out SAFELY!!!!!

Sarahplane · 24/01/2019 23:21

stop looking for them, either call the police now or text someone so they can call for you. You need to get the police involved tonight. They will remove him so you can get your stuff and leave or they'll take you to your mum's.

notapizzaeater · 24/01/2019 23:21

Have you someone who can come round whilst you phone the police ?

ABitExcessive · 24/01/2019 23:21

Definitely call the police. Been there OP, and the one day I snapped and 'caused a fuss' and phoned the police in front of my little DD (after her dad was getting ramped up to kill me) was the best thing I've ever done for her as a parent, and myself. We're so happy now. You will be too ThanksThanks

SuchAToDo · 24/01/2019 23:21

Op I'm sure the police would take you to tour mums or they would get your car keys back from him...but please call them, don't wait

meow1989 · 24/01/2019 23:22

Please call the police, you and your children need to be safe, one night of getting out of bed to go somewhere won't hurt them.

Him hiding the keys is concerning (obviously him throwing a high chair at you is concerning) he's controlling you.

Froglette16 · 24/01/2019 23:22

Please listen to everyone! We’re worried for you. Get out. Go to a neighbour, anything so you and the kids are safe. Big hugs to you. Be strong. You can do this!!!!!