OH attacked me but I can't leave tonight (pic)

[youjustdontunderstand]

Threw DS high chair at me then hit me with a remote. I have a job interview tomorrow I've already rearranged it so that's not an option and I need this job.

I have packed up all our things and hid them I can't have him know we are leaving.

Really worried about this cut being visible tomorrow!

I'm concerned that she hasn't gone to her mum's, or the police.

Please update that you're ok?

OP, are you at your mum's now and are you and your DC safe? Thinking of you

@hebeMNHQ have you heard from OP, is she safe? Not looking for details just reassurance that she is ok.

It really is easier said that done!

Stop presusurisng op to make you feel ok, she has a lot on!?

Sorry haven't updated haven't had the chance we are at mums now police took the statement yesterday haven't heard anything yet.
Think he has left the house and gone to his mums though x

So glad you are safe

Glad to hear you are safe, we were worried about you.

I’m so glad you are safe. Wishing you all he best of luck. And a warning. You think he’s not at the house but don’t go back alone to pick anything up.
Wishing you happy times ahead.

Glad yoù're safe tc

I’m a domestic abuse survivor. I’m worried he’ll sweet talk his way back to you. It becomes really difficult to remember why you left, these men are very clever at confusing us and whitewashing everything. I kept a journal from the day I left, every time I’ve thought about going back I read it. It’s become invaluable. I’d like to say now you’ve left it’ll become easier but unfortunately that’s not true. It take hard work to keep yourself free, make an appointment with women’s aid they are fantastic. You can go and speak to them whenever you want, they understand no one else does that hasn’t been through it. Good luck, keep safe and keep us updated x
You’ve taken a huge step to living a different life. He won’t ever change!

Well done

You can get a police escort to go back and get anything else you need from the house... it may be safer than not knowing if you’re going to bump into him alone or not. He’s obviously not good at controlling himself and now he may well be very angry indeed. You may think you know what he’s capable of or what his temper normally does... but the most dangerous time for a woman is when she leaves her partner and he realises that he’s not in control anymore. That’s when this type of person can just lose it and you don’t want to be around for him to punch when he does x

🌻💐🌺🌼🌸💐🌻 (((((Madd Hugs)))))

Stay strong.

I'm glad you and the children are out of there now but sorry you missed your interview

Well done op

Well done op I stand corrected. Good luck .

Good luck and stay strong OP

Well done op. Thinking of you. So glad you're at your mum's.

Bloody well done OP. Do not ever give him a chance to talk to you.
You can request a number change from your phone provider.
You can set up filters on your email to delete anything from him.
You can easily change the barrel on your lock, Google it. I did it and it was about £15 for the new barrel with 3 keys.

Thank fuck for that!!

Well done op, I know it’s not easy but hand on heart you’ve done the absolute best thing for you and your kids.welcome to freedom, your going to love it.

That's a relief. Thank you for updating us. We know how difficult it is to leave, many of us have done it ourselves.

I'd just like to reiterate what pp said about going back to get your things, take the police with you, don't go alone, even if you think you know he's not there.

Your life will get better, but you will have some hurdles to cross, and times when you wonder if you've done the right thing. You have. Keep a notebook, and write down all the times he's been abusive to you, that you remember. Some you will have forgotten about, but will be reminded of by something, and when that happens, add it to the list. If you think about going back, read it to remind you why you left in the first place.
And remember, he won't change, whatever he "promises". If you go back, it WILL happen again.

Be kind to yourself, and remember how strong you are.

Oh well done, youjust, bloody well done!

Does your mum understand, does she know? I only ask because dv victims often feel ashamed and try to keep quiet about the worst of it. Don't!

This is not your fault.
This is not your doing.
You did not ask for it.
You do not deserve it.

Violence is never the right answer. Thank goodness you can now show your children a better way of living.

Huge respect. Even when you know what needs to happen it’s still so bloody hard to actually leave. Sometimes it has to reach the stage where the thought of staying is more frightening than the thought of going before you can finally escape (well it did for me anyhow).

Now you have some distance to sort things out don’t be talked into returning to the relationship no matter how many promises that things will change or all the apologies given. It won’t. Ever. Change.

As Jux says, try your hardest not to feel ashamed. Part of me still does though 11 years on, even though I know I have nothing to be ashamed of. But work hard on trying to fight any feelings of shame.

I’m so relieved hour away from this sorry excuse for a human being. Keep strong and here’s to the rest of your life free from fear, control and danger.