OH attacked me but I can't leave tonight (pic)

[youjustdontunderstand]

Threw DS high chair at me then hit me with a remote. I have a job interview tomorrow I've already rearranged it so that's not an option and I need this job.

I have packed up all our things and hid them I can't have him know we are leaving.

Really worried about this cut being visible tomorrow!

Forgot to add, it's no coincidence that this has happened to you the day before your interview. He's trying to sabotage it, and keep you at home.

Please call the police & women's aid

Wtf op, you need to get out ASAP. Stay safe

I don't know what to say, but want to give you big hugs. Keep your head and leave as soon as you can.

Don't change your mind. Your kids will thank you for it. Please come back and tell us how it goes tomorrow. I'm wishing you all the luck in the world for your interview. xx

I just really don't want to wake the kids up now and drag them to my mums then have the police come round I'd rather just go ahead with my plan. He's just came up and said sorry again "it was out of order"

I really do hate him I have never felt so much anger inside of me ever. So sick and tired of playing happy families to his family when he's treating me like this.

Thanks everyone really appreciate it xx

💐💐💐stay safe x

Attending the interview sadly won't guarantee the job, calling the police will guarantee your safety tonight!

Stay safe and remind yourself never ever to go back to this man. He will get worse.

Please make sure he doesn't see these messages or catch on to your plans as the consequences won't be good at all.

Photos make me feel sick to the stomach that he has done this to you.

Please take care. X

If I were you I would stick to the plan and just say to him. Ok I accept your apology and go sleep in the kids room and braced the door so your all safe. Alternatively if you feel they will be fine and you can stomach it until tomorrow then just call the interviewer in the morning be say- just to make you aware. I had an accident last night and have been given the all clear by hospital but it looks a lot worse than it is. Then they will be prepared. Good luck for tomorrow

Im so pleased you have your mum to go to, not tonight, it’s late and you have a big day ahead of you.

Nasty man probably thinks he has put a stop to your interview by visibly hurting you, don’t let that happen. Get yourself ready and if they ask (I would never ask and have had people with massive bruises on their forearm and a very obvious, massive bump/bruise on their head) blame an over zealous tennis match or new to yoga session.

Nothing constructive to add but . Good luck with the interview.

Do change your plans please he will kill you next to me he’s a monster. Stay safe

You poor thing.

I used to get a lot of bruises from someone (not the same situation as you) & if I didn’t want to get into it all & someone commented I would just say i’d Fallen off s horse. It was always accepted!

Do whatever it takes to stay safe tonight and good luck getting to your mums.

If you really can’t leave tonight, then play the game. Keep him passive TIL tomorrow. Whatever you do, make sure you report him to the police. Also tell your gp. If further down the line you need the fact that he’s an abusive pathetic poor excuse for s man, you’ll have a record and crime number.

Meant don’t change your plans don’t forgive him

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Whatever decision you make tonight please remember that there is support here and through police and other organisations.

I know it can be massively overwhelming hearing lots of people saying the same thing but that's only because people want you to be safe and many many of us have been there in that same situation that your in now.

I second the timing of this says sabotage your first step to independence.
If that is right and you get this job next time will be worse.
Brace yourself he wont make leaving easy. But staying will be more destructive
Good luck

Nothing to add. Just hope u and the kids are ok op thinking of you x

This is terrible. What a bastard he is.

This is sabotage. I am mentally seeing you get the email telling you that you have got the job. All the luck in the world tomorrow but please please please stay safe.

It would be a good idea if you saw a solicitor and got a residency order asap, just in case he refuses to hand the dc back after his contact time.......though i don't think a violent, abusive man should be allowed anywhere near children.

Wishing you all the very best for the interview OP. Tread carefully and get out safely. Be careful he doesn’t find what you have packed.

Thank you @FlissMumsnet x

I have dd now have just brought her upstairs with me.

Cleaned my lip up a bit can not believe he has actually done this to me.