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OH attacked me but I can't leave tonight (pic)

414 replies

youjustdontunderstand · 24/01/2019 21:57

Threw DS high chair at me then hit me with a remote. I have a job interview tomorrow I've already rearranged it so that's not an option and I need this job.

I have packed up all our things and hid them I can't have him know we are leaving.

Really worried about this cut being visible tomorrow! Sad

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SuchAToDo · 24/01/2019 23:22

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Pyotrkrolik · 24/01/2019 23:22

Whatever it takes to keep safe please please do it . If you can’t make it to tomorrow’s interview there will be other job interviews in the future but there’s only one you and the safety of yourself and your DC is the number one priority right now.

OfficeSlave · 24/01/2019 23:22

Yes, just do it, for yourself and your children. Call the police tonight, now. Xx

supersop60 · 24/01/2019 23:22

Please call the police. Tell them what he's done and that he's hidden your keys. Or get someone else to call them if you're scared.

RomanyRoots · 24/01/2019 23:23

he's hidden the keys because he knows you'll make a run for it given the chance.
Call the Police now, how else are you going to get away.
Please don't be the one that never made the call, I'm worried for you.

blessedmummyov5 · 24/01/2019 23:25

Call the police he will be arrested and not let out till at least morning the police won't wake kids u can pack everything tonight while he in cells and b gone in morning by time he's let out this is best way to do it as it gives u more time to get important stuff without him catching u iv been there b4 they will ring u b4 he is let out plz call 999 xx

MonoClue · 24/01/2019 23:25

Please call the police OP. If you’re frightened he will hear you then you have the option of pressing 55 when the operator answers. This will alert them that you aren’t able to speak.
If he’s taken away your keys then he’s preventing you from leaving (keeping you against your will).
Please call the police.

spudlet7 · 24/01/2019 23:26

If you can't call the police, can you text your mum and get her to?

HappyintheHills · 24/01/2019 23:26

Yes the police will encourage him to hand over your keys before taking him away for a night cooling down in their custody suite.

wigglypiggly · 24/01/2019 23:26

After your update please ring the police, if hes hidden the keys how can you leave tomorrow or get DC to school. Do you have neighbours

Calzone · 24/01/2019 23:27

The police will definitely help you.

Call them now.

Wolfiefan · 24/01/2019 23:27

He’s hidden the keys as he knows you want to leave and he will do ANYTHING to stop that. Please don’t stay there tonight. Can you get somewhere safe and call the police?

summersoonplease · 24/01/2019 23:28

If you text register to 999 it will register your phone number you can then text the police xx

OH attacked me but I can't leave tonight (pic)
Islands81 · 24/01/2019 23:29

Op I agree you should ring the police tonight. If you decide not to, make sure you call them tomorrow. I am unaware of your financial situation but further down the line if you need to go to court re contact arrangements for the children, you will get legal aid if you have proof of domestic violence.

jinglejangle21 · 24/01/2019 23:29

Please contact the police or someone who can. Thanks

Gemz1806 · 24/01/2019 23:30

What would you do if it was your best friend?? Remove yourself for a second to actually see what's going on, I'm going to be you now,

So tonight he has punched me, I'm bleeding, my lip is brocken, I'm covered in blood, I'm trapped up stairs he has said sorry but dismissed what he has done. I now cant find the keys as he has hidden them. I feel like he is stopping me from leaving beacuse then people will see what he has done to me. Mum is so far away. Who can help me??

GobAllMighty · 24/01/2019 23:31

Please ring 999 if u can't speak press 55 it will alert the police.

tumpymummy · 24/01/2019 23:33

If he's hidden the keys he knows something is afoot. You won't be able to sleep tonight anyway, so I would phone the Police. We all just want you and the kids to be safe.

feska5 · 24/01/2019 23:35

I know it’s late but if you don’t want to call the police can you call your mum to come for you? Or is there anyone else you could ask to come?Iagree with others here that you really should just call the police. Take care and be safe

GobAllMighty · 24/01/2019 23:35

Ring now before he gets suspicious and takes away your phone. We are all praying for you and your children. Flowers

Rufftumbles · 24/01/2019 23:36

He is trying to trap you. If he’s hidden the keys, he suspects that you intend to leave. Please be safe and just get out of there. Please call the police or text and ask someone else to.

staydazzling · 24/01/2019 23:38

please ring the police now and get you and yourself safe x

Pyotrkrolik · 24/01/2019 23:40

Calling her DM will not guarantee OPs safety (or her DMs). I agree the next escalation could well be to take your phone OP seeing as he’s taken your keys. You really need to get help while you still have it.

CandleConcerto · 24/01/2019 23:40

If you’re worried about him catching you calling, just text all the details to your mum or a close friend and they can take care of it. Ask for any police correspondence to be texted rather than called so you can control when you respond.

DeRigueurMortis · 24/01/2019 23:41

You asked if you can cover your injury up.

Looking at the pictures, the answer is yes.

You can put ice on to reduce the swelling and a good concealer will cover the worst of the damage.

The big question is do you want to?

Keep safe Thanks