Would you like your husband to do these things?

[ApplesAndPearsStairs]

I'm having some serious relationship problems with DH and am rereading Men are from Mars, Women are from Venus. It's a book that has divided opinion and I think it's old fashioned in places. But generally it seems good to me.

There's a section called 101 ways to score with a woman. They're basically things that a man can do to make the woman feel good/happy. There is a separate and quite different type of list for women.

Anyway, I looked at the list of 101 items and realised that my husband does 17 of these. Probably only 95/101 are relevant to me but that's still a lot missing.

So my questions to you are:

1. Would you like it if your husband did these things?
2. Do you have that kind of relationship already?

I'm just wondering if this is an unrealistic expectation.

Thanks

This list has some patronising and sexist things on it as well as good ones. I think the whole concept of Venus and Mars is outdated and a bit offensive.

As to how many my DH does - quite a few.

I haven't read all of them but "practice listening and asking questions" I can just picture him sitting there, looking intently as he "practiced" the fine art of listening. It would certainly creep me out.

A couple of the other items would probably make me throw holy water on him. I think I like him just the way he is, don't want to be stalked by an man who is spending his every waking hour "pleasing" me. Living for the moment and being spontaneous is far more enjoyable.

So read the lists for both and think the book should be binned. Unless it's one of those Ladybird skit books.