Threesomes!!!

[Bug8]

What's the reality of threesomes? Fantasy am enjoying at the moment, boyfriend wants us to find the third, but am reluctant as to what this would do to our relationship. To be honest, am a heterosexual woman who isn't attracted to women at all, but enjoy a little bit of imagination during sex, & of course boyfriend wants this (MFF) so much, turns him on a great deal. Am happy with just the fantasy & think we risk our relationship if we invite the third into our relationship. Share yo experiences please. Thanks

Alternate MMF MFF, how does he feel about that?

Are you much younger than your boyfriend?

Why has it got to be FMF?

It's considered to be one of the ultimate sex acts for men.

Myotherusernamewastakenagain, he's 45 and am 37.

Well done for putting your foot down! It sounded like he was pushing for a 3 way relationship rather than a 3some (dating , getting to know them etc. Isn't how 3some work ) . He might stay quiet and bring it up again in a few months so keep a firm hand. Alot of non bi women can rave about how hot an actress is, doesn't mean they want to fuck them! X

So, having read this I would be interested to get peoples opinions on a related matter. My boyfriend (of a year) and I are very much in love. We do have the odd conversation about fantasies and girl on girl action, but in a fantasy kind of way. Anyway, on Tuesday out of the blue he texted me to ask if I wanted a lesbian experience with two other women for my birthday as it could be arranged. As I say, this isn't even anything we ever talked about. I was a bit shocked to be honest, and didnt really know what to say, but asked what he would be doing in all of this. He said it was purely about my pleasure, he would sit and watch and film it for us both to enjoy. I said I felt very insecure about it as these girls would be much younger than me (Im of a certain age, no spring chicken) but he said I was his girl, he only loved me and he wasnt interested at all in joining in. He then directed me to a website that he had used in the past where you can choose a 'service' of your choosing. I did know that he had slept with a prostitute, prior to meeting me. I have been single for a very long time, and in every other way he is a great boyfriend, he is kind, considerate, super caring and generous but now I feel let down, and not sure if we are looking for different things in the relationship really. I know I have to talk to him about it, but not really sure what to say, just that I don't want to do it. Also, am now wondering if he is still on these sites talking to other women about his fantasies. I think the reality would be horrible, and pretty sordid.

Confused you just say gosh no you're not interested in that at all. You’d like a Nice bracelet / skydiving experience / anything else for your birthday instead. If he mentions it again dump him.

@Confusedandj what a fucking creep. Sorry, I'd be off if I were you.

@Confusedandj he's offering to hire prostitutes for you? As a present? Sorry, I don't often use this word but- what a cunt!

Nah, cunts are useful.

True!

See if he fancies getting another guy involved, you know, a real man who’d give you a proper seeing-to!!
That would kill the threesome idea stone dead!

Confused tell him you’d rather two lusty men thanks

He sounds awful. I'd bin him...

11 months and he already wants someone else? He has the attention span of a gnat.

Where do you see this going?

Confusedanddj i think your situation hasn't reached the same point that Bug8's has. I think you can nip this in the bud. The fantasy was working for you both, as a fantasy. He has suggested a way of making it a reality, you can make it clear that it is not going to happen and so you can kill off any further discussion on the subject. Bug8's partner has become fixated on it and talked himself into a situation where he expected it to happen.

Confused.. sounds like a present for him, not for you !! Very considerate of him. NOT.

Threesomes only work if ALL are wanting it.

Attention Confusedandj - There is a huge difference between experiencing the softness, feminine touch and taste of another woman of your choosing than having 2 selected for you. That is real no way to discover female intimacy. If you have never been on this new ground with one woman, why would you consider 2?

And he wants to watch and film it? Please! You not only have the potential to become a male entertainment centre. You have the potential to become a porn star.

Girly love can be lovely. But should you ever wish to experiment down that route, your own space and your own privacy.