Threesomes!!!

[Bug8]

What's the reality of threesomes? Fantasy am enjoying at the moment, boyfriend wants us to find the third, but am reluctant as to what this would do to our relationship. To be honest, am a heterosexual woman who isn't attracted to women at all, but enjoy a little bit of imagination during sex, & of course boyfriend wants this (MFF) so much, turns him on a great deal. Am happy with just the fantasy & think we risk our relationship if we invite the third into our relationship. Share yo experiences please. Thanks

I should add too, that when we find this third, we go on a few dates to get to know each other, gosh I can't see myself running around on dates as a three..........mad & sad.

@Bug8 sounds more like a 3 person relationship to me.... id be running for the hills

I've been in threesomes, and my spidey sense is telling me your boyfriend's expectations are rather one-sided. I wouldn't touch the deal with a bargepole.

HJWT, I once said to him that it feels like a polyamorous relationship not a threesome kind of fun.

He's not a lovely guy.

He's slowly forcing you into a threesome you don't want to have, with a person that you're not interested in; and he wants it to be a regular thing with dates?

And it's only been 11 months...

He's not lovely. He's just being wonderful enough that he stands a chance of getting away with his demands.

@Bug8 I think if I was you I would just be firm and say sorry but it's not going to happen... and that is the end of it & his reaction will tell you all you need to know! Xx

Don't do it, it's fine and exciting at first, you think you can handle it... but your relationship will never be the same again!

Well isn't he a treat. Trying to coerce you sexually. I'd bin him.

What’s a cuckqueen and (apart from the obvious) a cupcake

Give it a go but beware I tried this once and this is what happened:
He suggested MFF

I agreed as long as I could source other F - which I did.
I tried it with the other F alone first (check things out) didn’t involve the M - he agreed to this
12 years later I am now married to the F and the M (who was never involved) is long forgotten.

Thanks everyone for yo advise. I will put an end to it. When it started with the fantasy, told him I wasn't attracted to women in a sexual way. But we carried on with the fantasy which was great but then I started feeling bad as every time we have sex, it's always the threesome fantasy in play. Then he said to me I am bi sexual and I have been suppressing my feelings for way too long. I told him I wasn't, if I enjoyed a bit of threesome fantasy doesn't mean am bisexual. But he insisted I was and that's how he seems me. I shouldn't have gone along with the fantasy perhaps.

he's telling you your sexual preference now? Holy shit. That's a new one on me.

Onemorecupofcoffeefortheroad, that worked out well for u but am so straight and wouldn't date a woman, so am struggling to get my head round this concept. It doesn't come naturally to me.

Yeah he's not a keeper.

I'd be concerned about how much he's pushing you into it.

Thisisthelaststraw

It's spelt Quean rather than Queen as she could never be a Queen.
It's a wife being humiliated and made to watch her partner with another woman. Sometimes she is restricted and verbally humiliated.
Some women really get off on this though.
Others like to just watch their partner without the humiliation.
The Cupcake is the additional woman, usually younger, if the wife is into being humiliated.

Control freak!!!
Telling you that you are bisexual??? I don’t think anyone decides this for someone else. If this is the state of play 11 months in, I think some ground rules might need to be introduced unless you are prepared to lose your identity completely!

Oh god it sounds awful. Ditch him

I think some ground rules might need to be introduced

I think if anybody had the temerity to try to pressure me into changing my sexual preference, the ground rules would be:

1. Stay away from my house
2. Seriously stay away, or I'll slice your hateful little pecker off and make you the second F in that MFF you keep banging on about
3. I get to keep the Kylie CDs

Thanks for the explanation @RomanyRoots.

Each to their own I say

OP, this guy is pressuring you even after you’ve said it’s not for you and then has the cheek to tell you your own sexuality. He’s a dick. Dump. Sorry.

I did it BUT I was the single one... It was good fun but only ever intended as a one-time crazy night. The guy made the mistake of asking the girlfriend when it would be happening again, as henceforth he wasn't sure normal sex could compare. She understandably hit the roof and they broke up shortly after.
I'd never risk a good relationship to pursue a fantasy, especially when it's not even my fantasy! But from what you've said, I'm not even sure this is a good relationship?

Join a swinger site and do couples swap instead of 3 some if u ain't into woman then going down on 1 will freak u out 😂 having a couple swap means u both having fun uz can do it in same room , or better still for starters the swingers site we on has cameras so u can play on there without getting involved u watch them they watch u n chat see how u that makes u feel b4 taking the plunge , if u gonna do it set ground rules stick to them and talk about how it's making u feel x

Blessedmummyv05
Thanks for yo advise, boyfriend isn't interested in swinging, all he wants is MFF. He won't have anything else, listening to all advise, am just going to firmly say NO to a threesome. Tell him we stick with fantasy and see what happens. He has said to me that if am not feeling it and not into it, I should say and we drop the idea. So this weekend, that's what am going to do. We have talked abt rules but without boring u with details, it's a no go area in my opinion......at least after testing the waters. If I have any doubts, he gets concerned and says we don't have to do it but in a way that isn't very supportive or reassuring. Anyway, it won't happen, stopping it this weekend. The little time we have tried to find the third, I have realised it's not going to be good for us.......

Keep as fantasy

It sounds like you really don't want this fantasy to turn into reality, and that has to be your decision.

I don't like the sound of him hounding you about it, and telling you that you're actually bisexual is just outrageous.

For the record as a sex worker I've done a fair few MFFs with couples who want to make sure it stays a physical experience with no possibility of emotional entanglement. I've also turned down quite a lot because when speaking on the phone prior to meeting, it's been obvious that the woman wasn't really into it. I've also done a couple of MMFs with my FWB and a client. Discussing boundaries at the beginning of the session is a must.