Threesomes!!!

[Bug8]

What's the reality of threesomes? Fantasy am enjoying at the moment, boyfriend wants us to find the third, but am reluctant as to what this would do to our relationship. To be honest, am a heterosexual woman who isn't attracted to women at all, but enjoy a little bit of imagination during sex, & of course boyfriend wants this (MFF) so much, turns him on a great deal. Am happy with just the fantasy & think we risk our relationship if we invite the third into our relationship. Share yo experiences please. Thanks

How long have you been together? And do you trust him?

So he wants to shag another woman in front of your face?

And they say romance is dead.

I had similar- partner pushed hard for a threesome over period of months. Eventually I said sure and his face lit up. I then said I wanted to choose the other man... Dear reader, for some reason the threesome was never mentioned again.

How about an MMM then, you just go to for a Chinese and a pint and leave them to it.

MMF threesomes happen without the men being intimate with each other so I don't see why a MFF can't if that's what you want.

Well, an MFM can often involve spitroasting, which is totally no contact between the men. Difficult to think of an MFF that doesn't involve the women in some kind of contact... one face sits as the other goes cowgirl I suppose, but from experience, usually the man wants to see some girl/girl action as well as getting to have sex with both of them.

Of course he likes the sound of it. He gets to cheat but with your blessing of sorts.

A compromise could be two couples together. That way it's less about him shagging some other woman but you both having some fun with others and each other

I've had 2 threesomes but never while in a relationship. I have only ever done mmf thought.

I personally wouldn't do it while in a relationship. Especially if you don't even find women attractive. Sounds like your only thinking about it to please him?

Tell him to have an MMM and video it for you to watch later, if he does that, then you'd consider a FMF

I wouldn't commit to a threesome unless both of you can decide on adding a sex you both will enjoy. I wouldn't want to do a MFF with my boyfriend because quite frankly, I'd be jealous and would worry he'd become more attached to that girl.

Keep it in fantasy land- when you add another person into your relationship it's likely to all go to shit.

Apart from the very important point of you not fancying women have you thought how awful awkward and ick it would be in real life. You miggt as well just let him cheat without you there. If he wants to shag another woman with your blessing then suggest getting another couple (you both fancy) and taking it from there. I bet hes not so keen when you are also getting some!

Zennudist has it bang on.

You aren't attracted to women, so would be only doing this for his benefit. I would keep this one as a fantasy you can both enjoy. I have a feeling the reality wouldn't be great.

Another suggestion to your BF - a foursome... So that both of you have someone new to play with...
Seems only fair.
MFMF

Jsku, will try that.

Bug8

Having said that - I have tried both of those and it only works if ALL involved are into it.
If one person feels coerced into it - then the relationship will suffer.
If both want to explore - then it can be fun and bring the couple even closer.

Showmeshoyu, I suggested It but he said MMF doesn't do anything for him, he's only interested in MFF.

But ... isn't that how you feel (but vice versa)? So why do his feelings trump yours?

KaitLinktm, I only suggested MMF to see his reaction & I got it, am happy with the way we are, and fantasy to be honest.

@Bug8 so basically he wants to be able to play with and potentially have sex with someone else but not for you to do the same?... hmmmm

Jsku, thanks for yo advise. We have only been together for 11 months and am just enjoying building this relationship and I find the threesome topic such a distraction. I trust him and i feel the threesome thing is way too soon to introduce. I talked to him abt it, but he said he doesn't want to do it when he's in his 50s or 60s. Even if I have said am not ready for it right now, he comes up with other reasons, in the end, I keep quiet. Also I think what puts me off as well is the way he talks abt it......makes it feel as though we are three pple in this relationship rather than fun with our third. That's too much for me.

HJWT, he keeps saying it's our thing we do together but just MFF not MMF...... not that I really want MMF but he should be willing to try that too if I want it. Lol

Wow, he's persistent. Keep telling him how turned on you'd be by an MMF and it's that thing in your relationship now. Say you'll invite your friend Kev "The Donkey" McHung around and you'd like to watch them go at it to warm you up for his comically oversized truncheon. Hmmm maybe too far.

Bug

Do not let him muscle you into it. You’ll regret it.
And it can’t be ‘your’ thing that you do together it HE is the one dictating the conditions.
Is he controlling in other ways too?

But if it’s a bit of spicing up if your sex life you both want - do something less interactive with others, but still risqué...
Go to a swingers club, or a sex party. You don’t need to engage with others - can be just doing something together. Or even just watching and coming home full of images and excitement.
People do that too...

So basically he wants:

A: to shag another woman with your blessing
B: for you to shag someone you don't want to so he has good wanking memories later

Tell him to fuck right off!

MashedSpud and LazyDuchess are right, too much emotional risk when you are doing this as a couple.

Way way back in the day I was the third woman in a fling with a couple, they used to do it all the time, we did it for a few weeks, it was clear she was doing it to give him what he wanted. And they didn't last very long...

JSKU, he's not controlling in other areas but he's a bit pushy in this area I feel. He says he can't stand sex parties, swingers clubs, that he doesn't want his cock to fall off cos he might catch something there. He just wants we look for a female online that we both like and get to know them, personality, and see if we all get on & are attracted to each other. And seems this is a person we may play with regularly.