Who has worked in escorting?

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I’m a single mum with little support system, I can barely afford to keep the roof over our heads. I’m seriously considering escorting, a high end agency want to meet with me to discuss it further. It’s run by a young female, their booking procedure for new clients is rigorous and these guys are paying hundreds.. so far it seems as safe a way to do this. Until then I want to hear from women who have done this. Not interested in hearing judgement; I’ve scraped by for 4 years, I’ve worked hard, I’ve taken further training, I’ve moved houses, I’ve sold my possessions, I’ve watched my kids have just a card for Christmas. I can NOT get ahead of myself and now I’m in debt. I want to take charge back of my life and if this is the way to go, so be it. So please if any ladies out there who have experience, I’d be very grateful for your insight. Thank you x

No fucking way would I let a randomer get up on me for a few quid
I wouldn't for a couple of quid. However, for a minimum of £150 per hour, I do.

over50andfab Thank you. We have to remain in control of what we do it's a part of the territory. Just sadly some will settle for anything because of their situations. I just have very clear limits about what I will and will not accept, and the day I lower these is the day I hang up my whip.

No experience or advice...just sending you my best. Hope you find the right solution that works for you and your family. Glad to see youve been given some practical advice too

It's not exactly 'outing' though, is it?

I mean the OP is talking about doing it here, the forum has been mentioned and she's posted with the same username.

Nobody has said her real name, address or anything 'outing' just that she posted on the forum that has been recommended on here over and over.

No, it’s not technically outing in the true sense of the word. It’s just pathetic and childish for UpsyDaaaisy to come running back here breathlessly to inform everyone OP posted on another forum and what she said. What did that achieve?

Yes, that I can agree with. But it's actually no more outing then this thread.

"If someone is into having one night stands and NSA sex with others, clearly they’re capable of enjoying sex as a physical pleasurable act and don’t necessarily need an emotional connection to enjoy it."

This is just more internally-focused mental compartmentalizing. You're keen to go on about your own bodily disassociation, however you willfully ignore that men who pay for sex have strong emotions of their own (not romantic ones, angry, resentful, shameful emotions) they're acting out on prostituted women's bodies.

Punters are absolutely having a multitude of emotional responses, as reading the reviews on Punternet makes abundantly clear.

What we all have to remember that this is a crime that is under-reported. Many people don't report rape for various reasons, and this includes prostitutes.

And who can blame them, the way women are often dismissed. And the occurrences in Holbeck strongly suggest that this is even more so when it comes to prostitutes, including 'perceived prostitutes'.

southleedslife.com/holbeck-sex-zone-in-the-spotlight-again/

Quote: 'The second story is Alice’s. A previous victim of domestic abuse, Alice moved into a hostel in Holbeck, where she was repeatedly approached by kerb crawlers. Then in May this year, a gang of men manhandled her into a car, refused to believe she wasn’t a sex worker, and took her to a nearby house, where one of the men raped her. With DNA evidence, the attacker was quickly arrested, but again (supported by the testimonies of his friends) argued for mistaken identity, and was not even prosecuted.'

So, apparently, by the logic of the prosecution, it is ok to abduct and rape a woman if she is a prostitute, or - as in this case - if the rapist mistakes her for a prostitute. (Not that inviting a man home for coffee or not saying 'no' because of being passed out might not also be reason for dismissal.)

Viatnamese I've asked to have that comment removed as I wasn't aware how outing or childish it seemed. It wasn't my intention at all. It was to inform everyone that she had done that so they could either stop going on or stop repeating advice. I apologise for any upset

But upsy surely you are aware that the op wanted to come back and update. This was entirely her choice. For you to come and mention she’s posted elsewhere is no dofferent imo to those that announce births etc on fb that have nothing to do with them.
Yes it was missive of her to use the same name, but you could have sent her a pm here or on the other site.

Missive? Naive

Hello, I had a very close friend who did this. It wasn’t bad and she didn’t tell me any crazy stories. Downsides.... men tried to get her to sexy/send pictures for free and obviously were not going to book her, men tried to knock down money ALOT- agree a price via texting beforehand. Make sure you stay safe x

Deepwatersolo, my god, that's awful. I had never heard of that case, it's absolutely shocking and what it says about all women, be they sex workers or women just standing on the street and a how rape is handled.

Even if a price has been arranged, if a woman says no or tries to stop a man from entering her, it's a rape.
That's why those reviews really disturbed me, a lot of the men were admitting to forcing themselves into a woman who was reluctant, so raping her essentially.

Even if a price has been arranged, if a woman says no or tries to stop a man from entering her, it's a rape.

Yeah, you'd think that should be common knowledge. But obviously not. Not even among public officials.

theworld I guess I have also been naive, my intention wasn't to out the OP or be spiteful or anything like that. I do apologise to the OP and others

Sorry if it's bad form to hijack thread. Is there really a demand for a fifty year old sex worker? I could do with the extra money and have often considered doing it but ruled it out as I was passed my prime. Don't need the money as such, nut could really make some great changes to my circumstances if I did have it. Retire early would be foremost.

to riotingbananas, my point is that a drunk single girl walking home alone late at night in skimpy clothes and heels is more at risk of coming to harm than an escort/prostitute, if you had a 16 year old daughter would let her walk home like that.

I know what your point was, I was asking you to provide evidence for it.

I'd let my daughter wear what she felt most comfortable wearing. I'd bring my sons up to respect women, not sexually assault them, and to never think they could buy consent to sex.

Good luck op. Though I pray to god my daughter never ever turns to this to make ends meet

It's interesting reading from those in the industry.

Not read the whole thread but although these men would be paying a lot of money it doesn’t guarantee your safety OP. I read a case on the news recently about a city trader who murdered a high class escort because she wasn’t paying him enough attention. Also although they are likely to be well off I imagine some of them will be truely gross and total perves. I’m so sorry you feel you have to resort to this though you must be absolutely desperate to make ends meet. It’s disgusting that people have to resort to such measures to keep a roof over their kids head. There should be more support. Sorry I’m sure you’ve thought of everything but make sure you take some kind of id and tell people who you are meeting if you do this. Take care of yourself and I sincerely hope this difficult period doesn’t last long and you did your feet soon

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Those who are comfortably off might want to reflect on this post . Whilst I am no rabid lefty, I really hate the current bunch of smug self satisfied nutters running the country and have bugger all empathy. There are many things that have contributed to this kind of state of affairs (and believe me I heard a Young attractive student discussing similar in Bath last week with a friend) 1. A total lack of decent sensible priced social housing. 2 for those who do have it-- bedroom taxes etc meaning for many there is a big shortfall they either have to make up or move, even in very modest circumstances like a 3 bed house but only a mum and 1 child etc. 3. For those claiming benefits and in the private market rented sector- ludicrously low levels of rent allowed for housing benefit, not related to anything you se on the market, meaning again 'making up difference or finding yourself without somewhere to live'. Huge cuts related to working tax credits meaning very often it really doesn't pay to work, single mum who used to work for me worked out that unless she earnt at least 25k she would be no better off. If you are in a relationship where there are 2 incomes or not really struggling it's very easy to have no idea of the hoops and hassle some people go through just to get by.

Sorry , I should have made that clear, the students were discussing prostitution because after paying their rents up front they had no money to live on and couldn't manage with a bit of a part time job

oh well, looks like i"ve upset everyone now, but if you got fact based figures on who rapes who, then i cant disagree, so i"ve been proved wrong on that one so lets put that one to bed, theres nowhere on this thread that i have said i cant get a girlfriend because i am shy, so where you got that idea from i just dont know, i have had my share of girlfriends, and all been healthy sexual relationships. when i meet sex workers, i would never ask them to anything their not comfortable with, and i would never force myself on anyone, on adult work it clearly states on the womens profiles what they will and wont do, i"m ready for the next part of my character assasination, so do your worst.

@wantmorenow yes there are plenty of women your sort of age on adultwork. When I was doing it there was one in her 50s who worked near me and a lot of my regulars used to see her too and thought she was great

No one needs to do a character assassination on you Compo.

The woman you have to pay to have sex with you love it. No honestly, really, they are having a great time

True Fiddie. Compost also claims to be married elsewhere, so I'm sure his wife is loving it too.