Who has worked in escorting?

[Ely7891]

I’m a single mum with little support system, I can barely afford to keep the roof over our heads. I’m seriously considering escorting, a high end agency want to meet with me to discuss it further. It’s run by a young female, their booking procedure for new clients is rigorous and these guys are paying hundreds.. so far it seems as safe a way to do this. Until then I want to hear from women who have done this. Not interested in hearing judgement; I’ve scraped by for 4 years, I’ve worked hard, I’ve taken further training, I’ve moved houses, I’ve sold my possessions, I’ve watched my kids have just a card for Christmas. I can NOT get ahead of myself and now I’m in debt. I want to take charge back of my life and if this is the way to go, so be it. So please if any ladies out there who have experience, I’d be very grateful for your insight. Thank you x

Out of interest...to anyone in the business - is call girl an inappropriate term? What are the appropriate terms to use for different forms of sex work?

To be honest I find 'call girl' and 'escort' to be a bit cringey, but that's a personal thing.

I have no objection whatsoever to being called a prostitute, and I tend to refer to myself as a prostitute or sex worker.

When I'm referring to others I usually use sex worker, as some people don't like the term prostitute because a lot of people outside the industry think it only refers to street workers etc.

I find differentiating between different forms of prostitution with different words to be a bit ridiculous, because it is all the same job really. The difference is largely not what we are doing, but often the situation that the worker is in.

@Itrynottobutsonetimesifail why would the police be interested in a hotel prostitute? Prostitution is legal in the U.K., it's just street walking that isn't?

Regarding some PP saying men would not say they bought prostitutes: In the 90s Eastern European Brothels were quite popular among some people in my social circle (average lads, students). In fact there was a firm split among the guys, between those who would go there together for the weekend, and those who were flabbergasted anyone would do that. I remember, once, three of them gushing about the experience the previous weekend. The highlight of the story was one prostitute spitting into the face of one of them, when they left. I never looked at them the same way, and looking back, maybe coincidentally, maybe subconsciously led,our social circle went on to split along those lines - brothel goer: yes or no.

ok, i agree to call them women, thats fair enough and a good point, i still disagree about who is more likely to get raped, and where have i said i cant get a girlfriend, i said the only way i can get sex is to pay for it, and yes there are websites for women who want to pay for sex with men, and wether you want to believe or not they are quite popular ,i still believe the OP is going in to this for the wrong reasons, but if you genuinely like sex and meeting people why not get paid for it, i just want to say that all the women i have met have been very nice people, just because we do things differently to you doesnt make us bad people, i know that most of you think that i am some sort of a monster, thats fine, your entitled to your opinions, i"m enjoying the debate, but mumsnet is notorious for its yummymummys who see anything thats not conventional as morally wrong, so they carry on having sex once a week in the missionary position at 8pm on a friday night just after the kids have gone to bed, mention anal sex, the doggie position, or blow jobs to them and they will think you are the devils child.

Oh dear compostmaker, I thought some other posters were having a bit of an unfair go at you ande en defended youacouple of times...but then you had to go and say this...

mumsnet is notorious for its yummymummys who see anything thats not conventional as morally wrong, so they carry on having sex once a week in the missionary position at 8pm on a friday night just after the kids have gone to bed, mention anal sex, the doggie position, or blow jobs to them and they will think you are the devils child.

I mean, that is just so untrue. You’re on your own now - suggest you nc!

Compost you can disagree all you like. It's still a fact. Stranger rape is actually one of the rarest types of rape. You have google at your fingertip so this is easily verifiable but you choose to believe your own narrative. I wonder why that is

I haven’t read the whole thread but some people seem to be confused about escorting and prostitution, they are 2 different things. There are men out there who just want someone to take out or to be their +1 for an event/party.

I’m not sure why people are talking about brothels

I’m in a similar position to OP and I would be tempted to do it. I once had a older gentleman ask me to be his escort, to eat out with him once a week (I didn’t agree). A good agency should have things in place to make sure their workers are safe.

Oh dear, compostcorner. You know, having to pay for sex doesn't make you edgy and daring. There are other, more accurate words, for men who can't get it any other way.

I think your inability to have healthy sexual relationships has left you with a strange view of women and a deeply dodgy view of why women are raped - the reason for which is that men rape them.

You clearly have not read the whole thread, Lovemusic, or you would have picked up that several women in the business of escorting (formerly and current) confirmed that it is a form of prostitution, and men just paying for company are the rare exception.

I had a friend who was a role playing dominatrix and had her own dungeon in Harrogate. She made good money from that and was into the fetish scene. Apparently its quite hard to find a good dominatrix and she was really that type.
AFAIK, she didn't sleep with them, she used to tie them up and whip them etc.

mumsnet is notorious for its yummymummys who see anything thats not conventional as morally wrong

Because a man treating a woman as a chattel, a hole, a thing that can be picked up and put down as and when it’s convenient, is SO unconventional.

Please. Your horrible opinions have been sanctioned for centuries, by other men who think the same way.

I haven’t read the whole thread but some people seem to be confused about escorting and prostitution, they are 2 different things.

No, they are not, and I say that as someone who does it for a living (mainly).

There are men out there who just want someone to take out or to be their +1 for an event/party.

Any agency that tries to convince you that social only escorting is a thing is probably trying to scam you.

A good agency should have things in place to make sure their workers are safe.

Whilst prostitution/escorting is legal in the UK, pimping is not, and any agency or brothel who is arranging bookings and taking a cut of your earnings are pimps (even if they have a fancy website).

There are agencies and brothels which are well run, but the fact that they are run by people willing to break the law means a huge amount of them are not. This is one of the reasons why I generally advise people new to the industry to work independently.

Lovemusic33 perhaps you should RTFT if you are interested in doing this as the points you have brought up have already been addressed by women with experience of them.

i still disagree about who is more likely to get raped

You're going to disagree with fact based numbers? That's an interesting take.

And as a PP pointed out, the overwhelming majority of rapes are done by someone who is known to the victim of it already, not a stranger while walking home at night wearing a skimpy outfit.

Also, the outfit you wear has no bearing. Nuns are raped, women in hijabs are raped, husbands rape their wives and women wearing jeans and a shirt are raped.

Insulting the majority of this forum isn't really great, especially as it's women you are again insulting, although that's no surprise, you believe women are for sale to you, so of course you wouldn't show them some common courtesy and instead insult their sex lives.

Wikipedia has an entry about ‚Factors associated with the risk of being a victim of sexual violence‘. Beside other factors (being female, being poor, having been victimized before, being young...) being a sex worker is listed as a risk factor. (Skimpy clothes: not listed as a risk factor.) It is very easy to google this info, if one actually wants to know.

nordicmodelnow.org/2016/10/27/a-review-of-i-daniel-blakes-portrayal-of-prostitution/

This is an interesting article.

Haha, escort and prostitution two separate things. That's made my day.
@Lovemusic33 - Mine like thousands of others all mention escort on our profiles. We are hookers, sex providers, prostitutes etc. Although it's legal there are laws around how we word things. We cannot say -
Hi mine name is small and I'm a hooker. My hourly rate is £150 and I offer - oral, fucking, fetish, etc.

Some mention the girlfriend experience (gfe) doesn't mean we treat them like your typical boyfriend.

Yes, sometimes we go for meals etc. But at the end of the night, it's back to their hotel and fuck.

As for cheesy cock. I insist that they are clean. I visit them so there is no excuse for them not to be clean. Any smelly cock I am clear what happens - I walk with their cash and leave a review to warn others about their lack of hygiene. The fear of the shame from this is enough to be greeted with a very clean body.

Compost, you said you couldn't get a relationship or have sex without paying because you were shy.

Show us evidence that women paying for sex with men is popular please.

You are aware that there is something in between prostitution and having bored sex once a week with children in bed right? If that's what you think of women who don't work in the sex industry then it is becoming obvious why you frequent it. Women who are having bored sex are the ones whose partner is rubbish at it.

And it was in really bad form for the op to be outed on here.
She said she would let us know herself.

Gummy - woman do pay for sex. A quick look on adultwork shows straight males having lots of FB. This is just from bookings made through the site. Lots of bookings happen directly. There are over 11,000 straight males listed on the site offering their body.

I know links have shown zero feedback for another site. But again, bookings are made direct (I also use the site)

Yes agencies exploit these guys. But they also exploit females hence a lot of us don't use them because we don't believe in having a pimp.

theworldistoosmall have to say I love your attitude and the way you maintain control over what you do.

And thanks for answering the question re if women pay for it too

How does that compare to the numbers of men using women? I'm not saying it doesn't happen, but it is not as popular as compost is saying it is. From a quick Google it says almost 30,000 women (32 million women in uk) but close to 1 in 10 men in the UK (31 million men in UK). The numbers aren't even close to being comparable really.

Shame on those outing the OP under the guise of, well, she needs herself to protect her identity and this underscores the risks of being outed she taking up this line of eork

No fucking way would I let a randomer get up on me for a few quid

OP ptobably agrees - difference being that it will be significantly more than a few quid she gets for escorting!

With regards to rape statistics.
What we all have to remember that this is a crime that is under-reported. Many people don't report rape for various reasons, and this includes prostitutes. There's always that element of being publicly outed although we do have resources to help report all crimes. Just look at some of the judgemental posts on this and other threads and you can understand why they don't want that added stress.
Many don't report because they believe that rumours that what we do is illegal. Pimped prostitutes because of their pimps. The list is endless not just in our world but in the civvy world.

As well as access to specialist services we also have Union membership available. We pay taxes. We buy houses through prostitution. We invest in our futures and that of our kids.