Who has worked in escorting?

[Ely7891]

I’m a single mum with little support system, I can barely afford to keep the roof over our heads. I’m seriously considering escorting, a high end agency want to meet with me to discuss it further. It’s run by a young female, their booking procedure for new clients is rigorous and these guys are paying hundreds.. so far it seems as safe a way to do this. Until then I want to hear from women who have done this. Not interested in hearing judgement; I’ve scraped by for 4 years, I’ve worked hard, I’ve taken further training, I’ve moved houses, I’ve sold my possessions, I’ve watched my kids have just a card for Christmas. I can NOT get ahead of myself and now I’m in debt. I want to take charge back of my life and if this is the way to go, so be it. So please if any ladies out there who have experience, I’d be very grateful for your insight. Thank you x

It is highly unlikely that a man would ever admit that he's used sex workers
@Frosty, I agree it does seem very unlikely, what does this tell us do you think.

I would be interested to know about the costs to you personally if you were prepared to share?
( I mean no disrespect)

@RedPanda, I agree, it is completely possible that I have been with a man who has used sex workers

*UpsyDaaaisy Fri 18-Jan-19 10:21:31

OP made a post on Saafe saying she was definitley going to start*

no one likes a grass

I think in this case grassing her up is doing her a favour
she needs to be much more careful about keeping her identity quiet if she's going to work in that sort of line

theworldistosmall says escorts are more likely to be raped, absolute rubbish, the drunk teenager walking home in skimpy clothes tottering on her heels alone at night after a nightclub is more likely to be raped

On what do you base this piece of nonsense? I'd love to see the evidence. Oh and a nice bit of victim blaming there 'Phil'. It's the skimpy clothes and heels that made me do it...

@word so many but i’ll try and list the main ones:

• having to lie constantly to friends, family, boyfriends etc about what I was doing. It gave me terrible anxiety and paranoia.

• having a couple of unhinged clients who found out my real name and threatened to “out” me on social media.

• it’s an incredibly isolating job as you have to spend so much time alone waiting around for bookings to materialise.

• the uncertainty of the income was really stressful. Some months i’d earn fantastic money and other months I would be lucky to get 1 short booking a week. For anyone considering doing this line of work, never get cocky with the income as you might not be so lucky the following month. Save save save!

• the terrible hygiene issues I had to endure from my clients. I’d say at least 50% of them smelt down below and would expect oral. Telling them to go and wash themselves properly would often put a dampener on the booking and it wasn’t unusual for them to throw their toys out the pram by leaving malicious reviews on ukpunting.

• clients old enough to be my grandad slobbering all over me and i’d have to act like I was loving it in fear of them leaving me a bad review afterwards or turning nasty during the booking. I got more assertive as the years went by but I was very young when first started and I was always afraid to stand up for myself.

• timewasters! I would regularly get bookings on adultwork and the clients would then text me a few minutes before they were due to arrive and cancel. It was infuriating as I would have spent time getting ready and sometimes turned down other booking requests.

There were lots of pros to the job too (otherwise I wouldn’t have stuck it out for a whole decade of my life) but I don’t look back on those years particularly fondly now.

Some of the pros:

• I did meet a lot of really lovely men who would more than make up for the dirty weirdos.
• the money wasn’t always reliable but it was still a lot more than I could have earned in a regular civvy job. It meant that I had loads of spare time to do a degree too.
• being able to pick and choose which days I wanted to work was a god send for my anxiety.
• Being debt free at a young age and being able to afford a mortgage, nice car, holidays etc.

So the men clearly enjoyed it more knowing that you were gagging on the smell of their rotten cocks?

that is interesting thanks @Frosty, it is generous of you to say about such a difficult topic
but it sounds like it could only really work if you could very very thoroughly screen your clients and only have clients who treated you genuinely respectfully?

@word I think a lot of them didn’t care or have respect for the feelings of the escorts. Some seemed totally oblivious to the fact they hadn’t washed under their foreskins too. They would often make claims of how their wives hadn’t had sex with them for years. I’m not bloody surprised when they hadn’t mastered how to wash their genitals by the age of 50

I think to them making yourself clean and fresh for a woman constitutes deferring to a woman and they just won't do it

Upsy it is nobody's business what the OP decides to do. Also, saafe is a forum for sex workers, if you are not a sex worker why are you reading it?

I mean, I wouldn't look on there, but if people wanted it to be so private, why has it been mentioned on here so many times?

And also, if you wanted to give the website to the OP, you could always PM it, I had no idea a site like that even existed, as I'm sure most wouldn't until it was spoken of on here.

If it's a public forum, it's not entirely safe/private anyway.

I think in this case grassing her up is doing her a favour
she needs to be much more careful about keeping her identity quiet if she's going to work in that sort of line

This is actually a good point.

If someone here found the OP with minimum effort, the people who could want to stalk her would put a lot more effort into it, and it runs it's own risks.

The Tumblr reviews are some of the most heartbreaking things I've read.

Those poor women.

"Couldn't bear to look at her miserable face so did it doggy"

"She kept trying to push me away but I persevered and got it fully in after about ten minutes"

"Epitomises everything you hear about Eastern European's - only after a quick buck. Could barely hide the contempt she had for me, even though I'd paid her."

My god.

just a point on the men with smelly cocks remarks, again i can only speak from personal experience, but most of the girls i have met require me to have a shower at the start of the meeting, and i have absolutely no problem with that, some even get in with me

to riotingbananas, my point is that a drunk single girl walking home alone late at night in skimpy clothes and heels is more at risk of coming to harm than an escort/prostitute, if you had a 16 year old daughter would let her walk home like that.

to the person who said, you can tell the type of person i am because i call them girls, well what else should i call them.

and the person who said the OP was not asking for my advice, quite true, but she asked not to be judged either, so 90% of the people on here obviously cant read.

OP, you really should have changed your user name for the other site.

to riotingbananas, my point is that a drunk single girl walking home alone late at night in skimpy clothes and heels is more at risk of coming to harm than an escort/prostitute, if you had a 16 year old daughter would let her walk home like that.

Oh no, no you don't go on talking about what girls wear and that's a bigger risk and asking if you'd allow a daughter to walk home as such. Oh no.

I doubt that poster would allow a daughter to sell her body to sleazy men, so I don't even know why you'd ask something like that.

And a girl/woman may be at risk because there are men out there that would do them harm, no matter what they are wearing, thank you very much.

But there is clearly more likelihood to be raped or violated when men are paying you, as those awful reviews show, the women have pushed them away and they have forced themselves into the women, which is essentially raping an unwilling woman as they have paid and don't want the waste of time.

Compost they are women, not girls

And yes I would rather my 16 year old dd walked home from a club than took up prostitution same as for my younger self. Bloody hell.

Sorry but it is becoming more apparent why you can't get a real girlfriend.

Those reviews are among the most depressing things I’ve ever read. It’s amazing how many complaints there are about the women seeming disengaged/disgusted/bored/only doing it for the money. Why do they think these women are doing it? For the love of it?

OP have you joined an Escorts forum? That way you'll be able to chat with other Escorts, get some hints and tips too. & you might see reviews/info about this agency you want to register with also.

I've not done Escort work, only chatlines. But a couple of friends did Escorting back when we were at Uni. It doesn't sound easy, you have to have the stomach for it.

It'll be rare that men won't want sex. Not impossible I suppose, when I did chatlines some men just wanted a chat, which surprised me.

If it's a public forum, it's not entirely safe/private anyway.

I know that. I wasn't saying that non-workers shouldn't look, I'm just curious as to why.

to the person who said, you can tell the type of person i am because i call them girls, well what else should i call them.

WOMEN.

@compostcorner not only is what your saying about "girls" walking home alone misogynistic, it's also inaccurate. Statistically sex workers are far more likely to be physically and sexually assaulted than women in other professions. Sex workers have a 45-75% chance of being sexually assaulted in their career and a 22-55% chance of being sexually assaulted in a year. Rates of PTSD amongst sex workers are high because of the things men like you make them do to them while kidding yourself they enjoy it

I’ve found this thread really interesting, and as in any discussion it’s good to hear all sides, so thank you to those who have given their experiences, whether it’s someone doing some sort of sex work, or someone who uses their services - ie compostmake (well done for not rising to some of the rude judgy comments).

Out of interest...to anyone in the business - is call girl an inappropriate term? What are the appropriate terms to use for different forms of sex work?

@compost I did get my clients to shower at mine at the start of a booking. But the majority of them would still have stinky dicks and bum holes because they were incapable of cleaning themselves properly. It’s very awkward to say to a stranger that he still stinks and can he go back In the shower for a second time. The older I got the less tolerant I was and would often just give them a portion of their money back and terminate the booking. Utterly repulsive!

@over50 I wasn’t bothered what I was called - whether it was escort, prostitute, call girl, hooker etc.
The only one I took exception to was being called a whore (which the lovely men over on ukpunting seem to use 99% of the time when discussing us)