Who has worked in escorting?

[Ely7891]

I’m a single mum with little support system, I can barely afford to keep the roof over our heads. I’m seriously considering escorting, a high end agency want to meet with me to discuss it further. It’s run by a young female, their booking procedure for new clients is rigorous and these guys are paying hundreds.. so far it seems as safe a way to do this. Until then I want to hear from women who have done this. Not interested in hearing judgement; I’ve scraped by for 4 years, I’ve worked hard, I’ve taken further training, I’ve moved houses, I’ve sold my possessions, I’ve watched my kids have just a card for Christmas. I can NOT get ahead of myself and now I’m in debt. I want to take charge back of my life and if this is the way to go, so be it. So please if any ladies out there who have experience, I’d be very grateful for your insight. Thank you x

And who could resist this?

www.ukadultzone.com/MaleEscort/Hampshire/bazza-big-head/8058.html

My ex friend did it. She was cold hearted woman and thought it was something she could for some extra cash. Her so called " screened " clients will most likely be not. She had guys who stank to high heaven, had leg ulcers, wouldn't pay. It's not a clamorous life and I bet your earning would be swallowed up in no time after drowning your sorrows and buying your kids gits to alleviate your feelings of guilt.
/Why not get a few hours cleaning, cash in hand? Online surveys, some are pretty good.
Just don't even think about going down that road,

Prompted by this thread, I have had a look at the saafe forum and am absolutely fascinated. Do read it op if you haven't already.

"A man putting his penis into me is only meaningful in some deeper way if that’s the way I see sex. "

This is the dictionary definition of unhealthy mental compartmentalizing. It's a way of lying away the pain and telling yourself that reality isn't real if you can't emotionally withstand reality.

Frankly it reminds me of men who suggest that rape is unfairly treated as worse than other violent crimes only because women say it's worse, and if women stopped saying rape was worse than getting punched in the face then that would become the new reality.

There is definitely other options than escorting. Your children will 100% be given absolute grief over it for a start. I don't get this atall... If other people can survive on minimum wage or benefits why can't others? :S escorting is a softer term for prostitution, you might not have to have sex.. but let's face it , most of them will and if not what kind of absolute creep of a man would have to pay for someone to go out for dinner with them 🤔. You have said you've tried everything but you haven't because if everyone done that we'd all be escorts.

Have you considered hostessing?

Years ago a friend asked me to help her out. She ran a modelling, promotions and hostess agency. All I had to do was turn up looking glamorous, eat food, drink wine, laugh at their jokes, and watch caberet.

I spoke to some of the other women, some offered 'extras' and took bookings.

This was twenty years ago. I got paid £300 for three hrs.

Not one of those men would I have considered having sex with, and they all seemed quite average and normal. No amount of money would have made me do it.

However for the girls who did they said they could pick and choose, met clients beforehand to screen them, picked up regulars who were mostly business men, and could set their prices very high.

This is the dictionary definition of unhealthy mental compartmentalizing. It's a way of lying away the pain and telling yourself that reality isn't real if you can't emotionally withstand reality.

Not at all. If someone is into having one night stands and NSA sex with others, clearly they’re capable of enjoying sex as a physical pleasurable act and don’t necessarily need an emotional connection to enjoy it. Doesn’t mean they won’t enjoy sex that IS emotionally involved with someone they love, but that that’s not a necessary component to enjoy and have sex.

Not all sex has to be between two people in love in a committed relationship.

Re whether job centres should compel people to do sex work: personally I don’t think job centres should ‘compel’ or force anyone into any kind of specific work/job, it should be down to the individual to choose from what’s available or accept other options/consequences. But if someone jobseeking decided they’d rather have sex with a few strangers for three hours in a week for the same wage they’d get for stacking shelves for 37.5 hours I certainly wouldn’t see it as my place to judge or tell them it’s not work.

OP made a post on Saafe saying she was definitley going to start

So, Vietnamese are you saying you are against unemployment benefits as a whole (face the consequences), or do you hold unemployment benefits should be paid irrespective whether the claimant rejects jobs (for being not interesting enough and similar reasons you state), or do you think those benefits should be paid only to people willing to accept jobs they may not find particularly appealing, including sex work.

I cannot quite make out from your posts, what your position on unemployment benefits is in this respect.

Bit shitty to purposefully compromise her privacy like that, Up.

I cannot quite make out from your posts, what your position on unemployment benefits is in this respect

Why are you trying to make that out, deepwatersolo?

OP made a post on Saafe saying she was definitley going to start

Upsy it is nobody's business what the OP decides to do. Also, saafe is a forum for sex workers, if you are not a sex worker why are you reading it?

Vietnamese I am trying to make it out in the hope of clarifying whether you are making a consistent argument or not.

Bogling I'm aware, in was mentioning it so people didn't keep going on about the OP doing something else and warning her off it that's why. I'm allowed to be curious aren't I by checking it out? Or are certain websites banned to certain people...

OP: ‘any advice on escorting?’
MN: ‘why don’t you take in some ironing?’

Classic MN.

I would definitely do it too in your situation OP. The sex side absolutely wouldn't bother me if it would change my children and my life for the better. Good luck.

Bogling I'm aware, in was mentioning it so people didn't keep going on about the OP doing something else and warning her off it that's why.

Fair enough, but it won't stop them.

I'm allowed to be curious aren't I by checking it out? Or are certain websites banned to certain people...

Of course you are allowed to be curious - I think my post hit the wrong tone. I am genuinely interested to know, as it seems it is often people who are vehemently opposed to prostitution who look at it, although obviously I don't know your opinion there.

Most men are trash and frankly women aren't safe anywhere. Get that money girl.
Can we please stop looking down on sex workers please.and suggesting they don't have any self respect. Sex work is work and deserves respect.

It's a complex topic
personally I could never be with a man if I knew he had used prostitutes because that would tell me that he was happy to have sex with someone knowing that she probably found him repulsive

I don't think most men are trash, lots of people have the potential to behave in trashy ways
we should expect more from people and encourage and them to treat us better

It is wrong to refer to people as trash, whether they are men or women

Wordthe what makes you think you've never been with a man who has used the services of a sex worker? Guess what, porn stars are sex workers. That stripper that entertains stag parties that have probably been attended by men you've slept with? Sex workers.

@bumblenbean those are just a small sample, and that site hasn't been updated for years as far as I can tell.

Those 'reviews' are why I judge every single man who pays for sex. They have no idea of the woman's circumstances, and it seems that even if they do know she's reluctant they will still have sex because she didn't specifically say 'no' (therefore are confident it isn't rape, even if she cries while they are having sex with her) and because they have paid for her. Many reviews elsewhere the men are angry that the women are 'only in it for the money' and outraged the woman isn't enjoying herself.

That type of man is responsible for slowly destroying my friend and many other women. There's even research showing prostitutes show around the same levels of ptsd as combat veterans, even if they don't feel traumatised at the time.

It is different to meeting someone at a bar and having a ons, those people would be mutually attracted to each other and the motivation is sex, not money for the woman to live on.

I think it’s highly unlikely that a man would ever admit to a partner or friends that he’s used sex workers before anyway. 95% of my clients were all married and their partners clearly had no idea at all what they were getting up to. I remember one of my clients telling me how his wife had been watching a channel 4 documentary about sex work and he had been agreeing with her about how terrible it was whilst slyly browsing through adultwork for his next shag. He thought it was hilarious but my deadpan expression definitely showed him that I wasn’t impressed. I gave up shortly after that as I was getting so fed up with it all. The money was great but it really did come at a cost (for me personally).