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Loveneedslove · 03/01/2019 17:14

So the guy I was seeing that told me he was separated from his wife.

Seems he's been seeing another two girls for months and still seeing them now.

So tempted for revenge. 👊🏼

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magoria · 03/01/2019 17:19

Is he still seeing his wife?

If not, did you have an exclusive conversation?

If you did, yes you can be pissed off, if you didn't then he hasn't really done anything wrong although maybe out of respect he should have let you know he was seeing others.

BeepBeepBop1 · 03/01/2019 17:25

That's terrible! Tell them all, he deserves to be shown for the "man" he is. How did he even have time? I'm amazed

Closetbeanmuncher · 03/01/2019 17:27

Get an STI test and erase him from your life.

People like that really aren't worth the time or energy....Leave him to it and move on with self respect and dignity in tact.

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Loveneedslove · 03/01/2019 17:28

Oh we had the exclusive conversation. He made me delete my social media as he didn't want any man trying it on with me.

Kept accusing me of seeing other men. I was convinced he was still with his wife. But he kept saying he wasn't.

Now I don't know what to do.

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BeepBeepBop1 · 03/01/2019 17:29

@Loveneedslove how did you find out about the wife and other two girlfriends? I'm amazed he could keep everyone happy and feel as if they were in a relationship

looondonn · 03/01/2019 17:29

Run a mile

Sounds like a total loser

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Loveneedslove · 03/01/2019 17:29

I'll need to be checked out 😷 we didn't use anything. He said that proved I wasn't sleeping with others.

I feel physically sick.

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NotANotMan · 03/01/2019 17:31

He 'made' you delete social media?
What the fuck? Why didn't you dump the dickhead when he tried that? No adult can 'make' you do anything like that if you have boundaries!

WorraLiberty · 03/01/2019 17:31

Now I don't know what to do.

Walk away. Forget him and don't ever let another man control you or your social media again.

NotANotMan · 03/01/2019 17:31

we didn't use anything. He said that proved I wasn't sleeping with others

Are you actually serious?

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Loveneedslove · 03/01/2019 17:31

He told me he was separated when we met. So I knew there was a wife. I always had doubt he was separated. But he swore he was.

I've just found it about the other two girls today. One I know and she sent me a message today giving me the heads up and she told me about this other girl.

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Loveneedslove · 03/01/2019 17:33

I don't know how to tag people on the app sorry 😐

Yes he didn't like men commenting on my posts so I deleted them all. I felt I had to prove myself to him. I know really bad.

Now I just feel sick that he's done all of this and he's been with other women

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AnyFucker · 03/01/2019 17:35

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Notcoolmum · 03/01/2019 17:35

Why would you delete your social media in the demands of a man? And why weren’t you using protection. I understand getting carrried away on occasion but regularly? And that proved what exactly?!

GreenFingersWouldBeHandy · 03/01/2019 17:36

we didn't use anything. He said that proved I wasn't sleeping with others

Good God woman! Seriously, up your self respect. Yes, he's a cheating bastard but you need to protect yourself!

giftsonthebrain · 03/01/2019 17:37

He had you delete your social media...red flag. Sorry you have a life, your own life. Most likely he had you delete stuff so you couldn’t catch him out! How could you fall for this bs.
Next....you don’t know what to do?? Get an STI check and move on, dump the cheating creep.

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Loveneedslove · 03/01/2019 17:37

I don't want to be insulted here, I'm hurt enough.

I know I made a mistake. But I honestly believed him and thought I was proving I was telling the truth. I didn't see it as control at the time

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BeepBeepBop1 · 03/01/2019 17:37

What an absolute tosser but well done to the other girl for telling you. I personally would tell the other one and the wife then block and move on. I'm so sorry that this has happened, it's just a total lack of respect and morals.

WorraLiberty · 03/01/2019 17:39

He's an utter dick but as an adult, you need to take some responsibility too.

You knew he was married and still living with is wife. Yes I know he convinced you they lived 'separate lives', but it's never wise to start dating married people who share a home is it?

As for unprotected sex, well words fail me.

Before anyone accuses me of 'victim blaming', I'm not. But the OP has to take some adult responsibility for herself.

QueenOfTheCroneAge · 03/01/2019 17:40

I didn't see it as control at the time

But you do now, yes?

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Loveneedslove · 03/01/2019 17:40

I just feel sick to my stomach. I've been controlled and taken for an absolute idiot.

I haven't even confronted him yet. I don't want to speak to him

Can't believe somebody would go that low to be like that with another person.

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Loveneedslove · 03/01/2019 17:42

I see now it's all been on big control game for him

Yes I know I am to blame for this, I'm not looking for sympathy for my mistake. I'm looking for advice and a bit of moral support

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WorraLiberty · 03/01/2019 17:42

You can't believe a married man would cheat on his wife with multiple women?

Yeah, it happens.

Lemoneeza · 03/01/2019 17:43

Best revenge is living well. Move on and learn from it.

WorraLiberty · 03/01/2019 17:43

You've been given advice.

Just leave him alone now

Learn from this.

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