Furious

[Loveneedslove]

So the guy I was seeing that told me he was separated from his wife.

Seems he's been seeing another two girls for months and still seeing them now.

So tempted for revenge. 👊🏼

@MortyVicar thank you. That means so much

I'm really hurt, I feel betrayed, stupid and pathetic for believing him.

I feel as I've lost who I am for him and I was willing to give him so much.

I want to hurt him so badly for what he's done to me.

He's been in touch and I told him I knew everything. He denied it all. 🙄

Said he is separated from his wife. There are no other women, this girl is lying and he'd tell her that.

His wife has deleted all her social media as they aren't together anymore.

I still think he's lying. Whats everyone thinking?

I think it doesn't matter whether he's lying or not. The way he treated you before your suspicions is enough reason to wipe him
from your life .

Why would the girl lie? Why would the wife delete all social media because they're not together? These sound the feeblest excuses ever OP

Why on earth are you listening to him, he is a liar fgs!

@DogDayMorning exactly my thinking

He said "out of respect for us".

I think he's made her do it in case I get in touch with her.

Maybe he got his wife to delete all her social media just like he got you to do so..... if he did he's quite clever.... keeps his separate lives secret.

It's hard to know what or who to believe. Only time will tell I suppose

@Donkdonkgoo I don't think he's that clever. But he's proven he's very manipulative

For a bloke to juggle more than one woman then it takes a bit of thought coordination and planning I'd say, if he has been juggling more than two then even more so.

No matter what he says now... end it. You won’t be throwing away a great relationship, or a great bloke because in a great relationship, all this drama and angst won’t be there. The lack of trust (yours), the jealous controlling behaviour (his), the uncertainty, all of it.... is absent in a good relationship with a good person. Someone who lets you be you and encourages you and supports you in being the person you want to be won’t bring all this stress into your life. I hope you take some time to work out why you didn’t see all those red flags waving and set some sturdy boundaries for the future. Good luck

@Donkdonkgoo that's true. He's a vile man

@NormaNameChange you are right.

I've never had this before, this awful feeling of not thinking I'm good enough. Not understanding why he treated me the way he did.

OP. Yes you missed some red flags. Yes he was a controlling ass making you delete your social media and yes please please do the freedom programme.

Please don’t let this one man keep you from finding love, but hopefully it makes you more aware and you’ve learned a valuable lesson.

It is possible to meet someone amazing but right now you need to go and “do you”.

He's the one that acted dreadfully, not you. It's not a question of being good enough. He's just an idiot and I bet he's not separated either. Just block and move on and know you won't be fooled again.

@OurChristmasMiracle I can't do the freedom programme. I've checked and there isn't one in my area at all

OP can you do the online version? I think it's a tenner.

@NotTheFordType I tried and it was asking me to contact my local group and then it said none in my area. Unless I had a child which I don't.

Oh I've found an online version.