Furious

[Loveneedslove]

So the guy I was seeing that told me he was separated from his wife.

Seems he's been seeing another two girls for months and still seeing them now.

So tempted for revenge. 👊🏼

I can't believe someone can be so vile is what I meant.

I agree you don't need name calling and insults - you are too nice, too trusting, too gullible. You can't believe people can be like this, so things like this - this makes you a vulnerable.

People can and do manipulate young gullible people. It gets them what they wants.

Please read at least some of the Relationship' board

I've been reading the red flags over and over.

I just feel even more pathetic

Can people stop making the OP any worse than she's already feeling. Can anyone of us say we have never fallen for the sweet nothings of a shithead ragbag who deserves to be strung by his goolies from a lamp post?!

OP you need to get even with this slimebag, and you need to carry it out like a ninja, my mind is working overtime now. He needs to be taught a lesson...or he will carry on doing it to other unsuspecting women. Whatever you do, don't let him know that you know what he's up to.

Now everyone get your thinking heads on, and come up with some ideas.

Block him everywhere. Start up your social media again - and never let anybody 'make' you delete it again. Same with condom use.

I hope you've learned some valuable lessons now. That sort of control has no place in your life. This type of man is dangerous to your self esteem, physical and mental health. STI check, then give him no more headspace.

I've been reading the red flags over and over.

I just feel even more pathetic

Yeah but that'll pass. The most important thing is that you'll learn from it.

Revenge !! Yes.
Why should he get away with this.

What are you planning ?

For God sake IcePink this is the OP's life we're talking about, not your personal amusement.

As if this guy's going to give a shit about any petty little revenge she can think up.

OP, seriously, forget about revenge. The best 'revenge' is getting him out of your life.

I mean this very seriously and no cruelty is intended, but you need therapy. Lots and lots of therapy. Your lack of judgement and self-worth is shocking.

Lesson #1 in Spotting an Arsehole:

If they are obsessed with who you're possibly seeing, or who you might run off with if you dare to go on social media / go out without them / have a life - then they are the one who is cheating. Or if they aren't, they soon will be.

I haven't even confronted him yet. I don't want to speak to him

There's no need to confront him. What would it achieve? All your posts read like you'll only come out of any further contact feeling shit and him feeling like he has one over on you again. I would make it my mission to never communicate with him again. He's an absolute horror and you're well rid. Thank your lucky stars.

This made me laugh.

He made me delete my social media as he didn't want any man trying it on with me.

And you agreed to that why?

I hit post too quick there.

The revenge part made me laugh.

I just feel sick that he could go on like this. But I'm MORE angry at myself for being such an idiot. I believed him and that was my first mistake. The rest I've just been a total waste of space.

Get back on social media pront. Let it wind him up.

I'd be so tempted to say nothing and tell him you fancy an open relationship ... you need more satisfaction than he can give you.

Of course you wouldn't touch him again.

As I said @potatoscone it was because I just wanted him to believe I wasn't cheating on him.

@SandyY2K my friend just said the same.

Get back on social media. Don't confront him, don't block him. Just ignore him and pretend you don't care.

@Aquamarine1029 OP doesn't necessarily need therapy - she now seems aware of 'red flags' and how vile this man is. As a pp said, most of us have taken up with twats of one sort or another,especially when young and impressionable, and quickly learn from the experience.

Having said that- OP, if you do feel you have low esteem, take steps to address that, before dating anyone else.

Ignore him
Is there any possibility that you may be pregnant?

Making you delete social media is a red flag. Also I'm sure you know this now but not using condoms because he wasn't sleeping with anyone else is kind of mad early on. You need to know you can trust someone before going without condoms. But I'm sure you feel bad about this so don't want to make it worse. You are well shot of him!

@LovingLola I'm not pregnant. I'm protected by the implant.

But I feel I should get checked out. I know one girl but you just don't know how many others he does this with.

Sorry posted before I'd finished... I don't think revenge is worth it. Put your energy into self care and move on. It's all learning for next time.

But I'm MORE angry at myself for being such an idiot.

Good. Keep that anger and you'll never allow yourself to be treated like that again.

@WorraLiberty I don't think I'll ever go into a relationship again. I feel sick at the thought