Furious

[Loveneedslove]

So the guy I was seeing that told me he was separated from his wife.

Seems he's been seeing another two girls for months and still seeing them now.

So tempted for revenge. 👊🏼

Tell him you've got an STD 🤔And watch him squirm

He sounds like the worst of the worst, sorry OP you've been treated like this... we all learn from each relationship

Is this other girl continuing to see him?

This is why I'm single ....so many cheating scumbags around

Now I just feel sick that he's done all of this and he's been with other women

THIS is what worries you? Not the fact that you had unprotected sex with him and deleted your social media in order to 'prove' to him how much you 'loved' him and were being faithful??

You URGENTLY need to do The Freedom Programme. Google it, and do it.

You are a walking potential victim for any abusive arsehole. You need to wake up fast.

I know I said never to speak with him again, but it would be interesting if you and the other girl both suspected a pregnancy over the next few days...

@Youbrokemytwatometer I don't know if she is still seeing him, she showed me texts from him today. She said she was ignoring him now.

I'm so angry I want to scream and shout at him. But I don't want to speak to him either.

@Donkdonkgoo the way he was with me at the start was amazing and I just fell for him. I couldn't see what he was like.

But I feel like I've just woken up and seen how bad this has been.

You are a walking potential victim for any abusive arsehole. You need to wake up fast.

This.

Ok, you've woken up to what he's like now and you recognise where you've been sucked in. You've not committed any crime, you've been a bit naive. The question now is what do you do?

Firstly, sti check. Secondly, you don't have to speak to him apart from a short text to say it's over. Thirdly, work on yourself as to why you think he managed to suck you in. You deserve so much better. Forget revenge, it's not healthy. Live well and look after yourself.

@Mabelface im getting checked first thing tomorrow. And then I'm just going to fix myself.

I am actually heartbroken. This wasn't just a one off thing. It's gone on for awhile. So firstly I just want to fix me.

@potatoscone thanks for the support

Op- be kind to yourself. Sometimes, we just want to be loved. It sounds like he made you delete your social media so his wife/other gfs wouldn't find out about you. It's not your fault he is a horrible hymn being, and bullet dodged to find out about him now rather than further down the line.

*human

@Dimsumlosesum thank you

And, revenge isn't worth it. Deep breath...Let it go, carry on with your life, you are better than that, whilst he remains an awful awful person. You will move on, whilst he remains in a horrible, disgusting pit of his own lies and deceit.

@Dimsumlosesum I hope karma gets him. I really do.

I feel sick the more I think of things he's said and done

Don't judge all men like him. Don't be saying no more relationships because of this idiot. Why would you do that.

No... put it down to experience...be glad you found out...and he can get stuffed.

Now I don't know what to do.

Why not?

He led you to believe you were exclusive. He insisted you delete accounts where you might speak to other men.

It's simple.

After what he's done @SandyY2K I don't think I could trust another man again.

You might think I'm not being supportive but what I have posted (which was just an agreement with someone else) is nothing in comparison to what you will experience in the future if you don't get some help.

@Loveneedslove you will be able to trust another man. You just have to learn how to spot the untrustworthy ones a mile off, which this guy absolutely was.

@KirstyAllsoppsFatterTwin I'm just walking away.

@potatoscone where do I go for help.

Do an online course on what, learning the signals?

OP don't beat yourself up.....everyone has fallen for a RAT at some point, some are very convincing and when you have feelings for someone you want to trust them so that's what you do. One of my ex's wasn't as separated as he led me to believe .... he found out one of my ex boyfriends had returned to work for the same company as me which enraged him.... he wanted to pay my ex 20k to leave his job and no longer work with me!! What a knob he was.. anyway I called time and he's still with his wife but very unhappy.

I'm just walking away

With your head held high, knowing you deserve far better than that twat!