Would you meet this stranger?

[Beautifulstrangers]

I'm 18 months out of a very long marriage and probably naive. I married as a young teen and have never known anything else.
So I'm trying to pick myself up and joined a couple of dating sites.

About a week ago as I'm perusing said dating site my breathe is
literally taken away by the most beautiful man I've ever seen.
This beautiful man is 20 yearsyounger than me - obviously I move on and think no more about it.

Later that day said beautiful stranger messages me on the dating site, tells me I'm beautiful I'm not but I'm ok for my age.
I try to convince this lovely man to find himself a gorgeous younger woman.
He tells me he prefers older women and wants a serious relationship.

Later on we move on to telephone calls and it's apparent this man is not only beautiful but educated,respectfulandgentlemany -he tells me about his job in finance.

Now for my what would you do. He wants to take me to the theatre in London [where he lives]
he will meet me off the train take me to the theatre and then back to my hotel - alone. Then pick me up in the morning and take me to the station
for the train home.
He tells me he wants me in his life.
What would you do?

It's very very odd as PPs have said for a man to suggest the theatre as a first date and take her to her hotel and then collect her the next day.

He’s just expecting her to fuck him. Bowled over by his ‘beauty’ and his compliments she won’t be able to resist. And then he’s hoping to get some cash out of her.

luckylou yes unless he’s paying for it all then the point about seeing what she can afford is a good one.

And a first date in a theatre is a weird suggestion. I go to the theatre regularly but would find it an uncomfortable first date. It does sound like this is someone who thinks this is how a date goes and not very experienced.

Any update OP?

Beautiful as an aside, how's the CF? DS 28 has it, he doesn't have much of a life.

Sorry, I see you meant CFS.

But if he only wants sex, there are plenty of women who want to be one night stands or fuck buddies without all the pretence of going to the theatre.

1 Who is paying your train fare @beautifulstrangers
2Who has chosen the play/ show?
3 Who is paying for tickets
4Who is paying for your hotel?

As all of these are HIS ideas, I would assume it is him.

If not, and you are willing to fund all of this, you are not living in the real world.

Genuine men do not expect a woman to go to these lengths for a first date.

They would ask to meet for a coffee, or a drink, or a dog walk, (not a euphemism) or maybe a gallery with a coffee thrown in- now hey, that's an idea for London! National Gallery, Portrait Gallery, Somerset House- V&A, Royal Academy- loads of places where you can meet and have lunch/coffee.

But that's not what he wants.

I would also hate you to be stood up and for all this to be a game.
There you are all dolled up, arriving at the station, you go to your hotel, time comes to meet (unless he's meeting you at the station) and well..the bastard doesn't turn up.

Thought about that scenario?

Were you being disingenuous, typing CF instead of CFS? Or was it a genuine error and you believed CF was the acronym for Chronic Fatigue and not Cystic Fibrosis?

@PhilomenaButterfly best wishes to your son. My nephew has it, he's 25 this year - he's finished uni and is working part-time but his energy levels are low and he's struggling this winter with bacterial chest infections.

That's great Lucky, DS dropped out of uni because he needs someone to tell him to work, he's too ill to work, he sleeps a lot, his sat's very low and he barely eats, so he has no energy. We have to visit him at his flat, he can't travel. He's quite intelligent, and I worry about him getting bored, but he seems OK.

Have you at least done Skype or Face Time to establish that he looks as you expect?

I wouldn't like this. Imagine what he's like in a relationship

@beautifulstrangers @BeautifulStrangers

What are you going to do? Have your plans changed following your thread? How long is the train journey?

This has got red flags all over it. I too thought CF was Cystic Fibrosis.

Yeah I though CF was cystic fibrosis too!