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Would you meet this stranger?

162 replies

Beautifulstrangers · 02/01/2019 15:24

I'm 18 months out of a very long marriage and probably naive. I married as a young teen and have never known anything else.
So I'm trying to pick myself up and joined a couple of dating sites.

About a week ago as I'm perusing said dating site my breathe is
literally taken away by the most beautiful man I've ever seen.
This beautiful man is 20 yearsyounger than me - obviously I move on and think no more about it.

Later that day said beautiful stranger messages me on the dating site, tells me I'm beautiful Blush I'm not but I'm ok for my age.
I try to convince this lovely man to find himself a gorgeous younger woman.
He tells me he prefers older women and wants a serious relationship.

Later on we move on to telephone calls and it's apparent this man is not only beautiful but educated,respectfulandgentlemany -he tells me about his job in finance.

Now for my what would you do. He wants to take me to the theatre in London [where he lives]
he will meet me off the train take me to the theatre and then back to my hotel - alone. Then pick me up in the morning and take me to the station
for the train home.
He tells me he wants me in his life.
What would you do?

OP posts:
misskiki69 · 03/01/2019 04:26

How many photos have you seen of him? How do you actually know it's him you're talking to?

You say he's a gentleman. Would a true gentleman honestly allow a much older lady, with CF, to travel alone to central London?

forumdonkey · 03/01/2019 06:43

Where are you travelling from to go to London OP?

MumsyJ · 03/01/2019 06:54

He's a smooth operator. Be careful and don't fall too easily whilst on a dating website. 20 years younger is a massive age gap, you both have nothing in common. He's probably infatuated with older women but for sex as he capitalises on their vulnerabilities.
My advice, cancel the date, tell him you're not feeling it. He knows how to talk the talk. Avoid!

MarieG10 · 03/01/2019 07:02

Take the advice on here. If it seems to good to be true it probably is. I haven't done OLD but he will be pulling the same stunt with loads of women and one will go for it and end up very bruised and hurt

Bluntness100 · 03/01/2019 07:19

Op in all seriousness.

Have you reverse image searched?
Have you searched his name?
Who has paid for hotel and theatre tickets?
How far are you travelling to meet this man?
Why is he not coming to you for the first date?
How did he have a long term relationship with a woman in her sixties? Surely by definition if it was long term they were both younger?

Why don't you ask him to face time? Do the searches. Face time/Skype him. Ask him to come to you first time.

MissLanesAmericanCousin · 03/01/2019 07:34

Listen to Bluntness100!

DameSquashalot · 03/01/2019 07:43

I would definitely start with the reverse image search.

QueenOfTheCroneAge · 03/01/2019 07:47

OP, you have had plenty of advice on here about this scenario. If you are going to ignore it all and blindly carry on anyway - please do let us know how it is all progressing Smile

KatyWhatsit · 03/01/2019 08:04

How old are you ? In your 60's ? How is your health and exercise tolerance ?

How insulting to anyone over 60.

FFS!

KatyWhatsit · 03/01/2019 08:04

What would a 40 year old beautiful man want with a woman in her 60’s

One word.

Macron

GodknowsIwanttobreakfree · 03/01/2019 08:08

You have to ask yourself what’s in it for him? He doesn’t know you so why has he picked you out of the other thousands of women online? That’s not insulting about your age but just an honest question.

And to be fair to Macron, he knew her first.

NameChangeNugget · 03/01/2019 08:39

Tread very carefully. This has scam written all over it

LuckyLou7 · 03/01/2019 08:50

I don't think the OP wants her bubble to be burst. Hence no reverse image search. No googling his name and looking for his social media presence. Much better to pretend there really is a gorgeous 40yo man lusting after her, than the sad reality of a seasoned romance scammer at work.

OrchidInTheSun · 03/01/2019 08:51

Katy. The OP says she has CF - cystic fibrosis. Her health and fitness is not going to be tip top

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InkyAndBinky · 03/01/2019 09:04

Have you done FaceTime with him?

Original poster
BeautifulStrangers · 03/01/2019 09:05

Wow, some of these replies are shocking.

Reverse image result: 0
Some of these ageist/misogynistic comments are shameful.
CF: Chronic fatigue.

No tickets for shows, trains or hotel booked.
No dates made yet.

OP posts:
NoIAmSpartacus · 03/01/2019 09:13

Have you name changed?

AdaColeman · 03/01/2019 09:17

CF = Cystic Fibrosis

GodknowsIwanttobreakfree · 03/01/2019 09:20

I thought CF was cystic fibrosis and CFS was chronic fatigue syndrome.

Original poster
BeautifulStrangers · 03/01/2019 09:21

NC for this.

Thanks to those who gave constructive advice.

OP posts:
AdaColeman · 03/01/2019 09:21

Oh sorry, I see it’s CF = chronic fatigue.

NoIAmSpartacus · 03/01/2019 09:21

@AdaColeman I think the OP commented above that it's Chronic Fatigue

GodknowsIwanttobreakfree · 03/01/2019 09:21

Sorry just seen op clarify chronic fatigue.

NoIAmSpartacus · 03/01/2019 09:22

@AdaColeman X post Grin