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Haven’t heard from my boyfriend since Saturday

470 replies

ihavetogoshoppingnow · 01/01/2019 12:36

We’ve been dating for 6 months we’re not the type that text each other all day long but we always message each other good morning and usually have some kind of text conversation in a day.

I left his house Saturday lunchtime and he was getting ready to meet his friends in town for food then they were going out out later on we talked a little but while he was out then around 9pm I text him saying have a good night and let me know when your home he said he would and text me saying good night. Woke up Sunday morning and he hadn’t text so I text him the usual good morning and asked about his night I didn’t hear anything all day but assumed he was just sleeping/hungover I text him again Sunday night asking if he was alright and the message didn’t deliver I tried to ring him and it went straight to voicemail and has done ever since. I assumed at first he’d just lost his phone in his flat and let it die (this happens a lot he’s not the type who’s always got his phone in his hand) but he was supposed to be going out again last night for New Years and the phone is still dead so I’m starting to get really worried because he wouldn’t have gone out without it.

Not really sure why I’m posting or what help people could be but I just needed to talk to someone, maybe have some reassurance?

OP posts:
BitOutOfPractice · 01/01/2019 23:40

I hope you hear from him tomorrow op

HoneyDoo · 01/01/2019 23:55

Love how the majority err to the negative.

OP, whatever the situation is, I can imagine you're not feeling too good and it must be a very anxious time for you.
I hope it all goes well tomorrow. You sound very level headed and practical and that is far better than jumping to conclusions.

Wait until you have the facts and in the meantime, try and get some rest and focus on other things. Good luck.

SausageSimon · 02/01/2019 00:04

This is really worrying OP, let's hope it's something of nothing and that he'll be emailing you first thing tomorrow!

VanGoghsDog · 02/01/2019 00:24

@ihavetogoshoppingnow

All my contacts are accessible via my Google account on my laptop or indeed any computer with my Google password. I think most phones are either Google/Android or iPhone both of which have this facility.

Luvey · 02/01/2019 00:44

Probably broken phone and massive hangover

No need for all the scaremongering at this stage folks.

Donkdonkgoo · 02/01/2019 00:49

A similar thing happened to me.... after a few days I sent him a text saying that I was really worried about him and that my next step was to contact his manager at work and track down his friends to check he's ok ...... I soon got a call from him basically he was ghosting me ...too and bottom of it was that he had lost interest and was a complete coward and didn't want to tell me he was breaking off.... I laughed down the phone at him called him a spineless coward with a small dick (it was small and he had commented on it previously average) then hung up

Donkdonkgoo · 02/01/2019 00:50

OP please let us know your ok

MovingNextYearHopefully · 02/01/2019 00:51

I do hope you manage to get in contact in the morning OP. Flowers

reesesnlove · 02/01/2019 00:55

I hope he is ok OP. Please take no notice of the nasty and belittling comments. Let us know Thanks

reesesnlove · 02/01/2019 00:56

Also hope you are ok, too Thanks

notsodimwit · 02/01/2019 01:01

How worrying for you op Flowers hope he is safe and well and has only lost or broken his phone xx

Rubydoll · 02/01/2019 01:13

Bet it's a lost phone, you poor thing you must be so worried, hopefully it will all be sorted tomorrow.

chardonm · 02/01/2019 03:02

People on here downright mean. Telling the OP that she is desperate ? What if something had happened to him and she had called just once and then left it? The same people would then call her heartless for not checking on her boyfriend.

Monty27 · 02/01/2019 03:45

Emmerdale music

notsodimwit · 02/01/2019 03:56

Monty ? Emmerdale music Confused

showmewhatyougot · 02/01/2019 05:58

Hope he's ok OP, I too think his phones broke. But this has made me write important numbers down in my diary planner now so ty x

DitzyPrints · 02/01/2019 07:13

Hope all is ok today op

Luvey · 02/01/2019 08:48

Hope you've got some relief today and thst there was a simple explanation x

AlphaJuno · 02/01/2019 09:06

Maybe he's been struck down with flu or something similar? I remember years ago, this was before everyone had mobile phones, I was expecting my ex bf to come and visit me for the weekend at my uni house. It's about 25 miles away. Well, the day came and went and no show. No phone call either. He didn't have a mobile or a home phone in his flat, but would walk to the nearest pay phone usually to call me on my landline. I was beginning to think the worst, ie I'd been dumped etc etc. Turns out on the day he was supposed to come over, he suddenly came down with flu (sweats, fever aches), he had to lie down. It got so bad, he was laid up for about 2-3 days severely ill with no one to help him and unable to get to the phone box. Eventually he managed to drag himself to the phone box despite being very ill. It hadn't even occurred to me he could become that ill he wasn't able to contact me. I actually felt bad I hadn't gone to check he was ok. Not saying you should go over, but illness is a possibility. Hope everything is ok op.

MumsyJ · 02/01/2019 09:10

Dear OP, I hope today brings good news. Take it easy, all the best.

Strugglingonagain · 02/01/2019 09:22

Hope you get some news today OP x

happyjack12 · 02/01/2019 09:25

good luck OP

GinGiminey · 02/01/2019 09:40

Another wishing luck, hope all is okay x

Pfingstrose · 02/01/2019 09:42

Fingers crossed here!

wasthis · 02/01/2019 09:45

What's the betting we never hear what happens! I should never become so invested.