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Haven’t heard from my boyfriend since Saturday

470 replies

ihavetogoshoppingnow · 01/01/2019 12:36

We’ve been dating for 6 months we’re not the type that text each other all day long but we always message each other good morning and usually have some kind of text conversation in a day.

I left his house Saturday lunchtime and he was getting ready to meet his friends in town for food then they were going out out later on we talked a little but while he was out then around 9pm I text him saying have a good night and let me know when your home he said he would and text me saying good night. Woke up Sunday morning and he hadn’t text so I text him the usual good morning and asked about his night I didn’t hear anything all day but assumed he was just sleeping/hungover I text him again Sunday night asking if he was alright and the message didn’t deliver I tried to ring him and it went straight to voicemail and has done ever since. I assumed at first he’d just lost his phone in his flat and let it die (this happens a lot he’s not the type who’s always got his phone in his hand) but he was supposed to be going out again last night for New Years and the phone is still dead so I’m starting to get really worried because he wouldn’t have gone out without it.

Not really sure why I’m posting or what help people could be but I just needed to talk to someone, maybe have some reassurance?

OP posts:
PattiStanger · 02/01/2019 12:43

Good news and as expected by a small minority of posters the most likely explanation was in fact the correct one.

Some posters are so jaded they see the worst in everyone.

forumdonkey · 02/01/2019 12:43

You posted as I typed. Happy New year OP

shpoot · 02/01/2019 12:43

Knew it. Shame on you people who jumped to the worst possible conclusions.

Has he tried findmyiphone?

Sallygoroundthemoon · 02/01/2019 12:44

Good to hear it OP.

supersop60 · 02/01/2019 12:45

Hurrah. SO glad we were nearly all wrong! Brew

2019rubberband · 02/01/2019 12:45

So pleased to hear it

stopitandtidyupp · 02/01/2019 12:46

Thanks for coming back and updating.

purplelass · 02/01/2019 12:46

Yay! Happy for you Smile

Magenta46 · 02/01/2019 12:46

Oh what a relief and a happy ending x

Catsandbootsandbootsandcats · 02/01/2019 12:49

It's scary that we all used to memorise phone numbers but don't anymore!

I can tell you my best friends phone number from years ago but not her current number!

I know mine and my ex's and that's it.

I too would be totally lost if the only way I had to contact someone was their phone number and I lost my phone.

AlwaysSomethingThere · 02/01/2019 12:49

I hope this is a lesson to all bitter and negative women on here jumping straight down the OPs throat and saying she's been ghosted, he's a bastard, probably married or fucking someone else etc and she's desperate for not seeing it and judging the relationship blah blah blah. Not every outcome is as miserable as you think it will be and not all men are total wankers 🙄

Glad you kept rational about it OP. He sounds like a decent guy to me x

Passing4Human · 02/01/2019 12:51

That's great news. I'm so pleased for you OP and thanks very much for taking the time to update us.

ReaganSomerset · 02/01/2019 12:54

Yay! Glad it's all OK. The simplest explanation is usually the right one.

AnotherShirtRuined · 02/01/2019 12:58

Just goes to show you have very good instincts, OP.

Magicstar1 · 02/01/2019 13:02

That actually happened to my ex when we were dating....before FB! He used to travel around the country for work, and lost his phone. I didn't hear from him for a few days, until he turned up at my door.

These days people don't memorise numbers - make him remember yours though Wink

LaughingCow99 · 02/01/2019 13:08

Glad to hear all is ok, op.Smile

Suggesting ghosting is not being bitter. I myself put it forward as a possibility. It happens all the time on here so to categorically rule it out is naive.

Im delighted this has been a happy ending. Most, sadly, don't.

BastardGoDarkly · 02/01/2019 13:10

Thank goodness op.

As for some of the posters on this thread? I despair. Horrible lot.

GabsAlot · 02/01/2019 13:13

good ne3ws some people here are suc drama llamas with their hes deinfiitely dumped you bollocks

one thing its done is to make sure people know their partners/friends numbers

AnchorDownDeepBreath · 02/01/2019 13:15

I'm so pleased this had a happy ending Smile.

Must have made the first day back at work a bit better, too!

legolimb · 02/01/2019 13:16

I have just updated my address book on the back of this thread.

katseyes7 · 02/01/2019 13:18

l'm so pleased for you, OP! l haven't posted on here, but l've been following the thread. x

Fluffyears · 02/01/2019 13:19

I have a laminated card I made with DH’s work and mobile and my mums mobile (her landline had been the same number since before I was born) and my best friend and brothers mobile. I keep it in my bag so if i’m out and need to call them but have lost phone or had it stolen I can get in touch. I also never put my phone in my bag in case my bag gets snatched. The numbers are written down at home too.

shpoot · 02/01/2019 13:25

LaughingCow most do if you try and just be a little bit rational. Most people don't wander round ghosting their loved ones. Lots and lots of people have a drink and lose their possessions

huggybear · 02/01/2019 13:28

That's great news OP. I'm really pleased.

cstaff · 02/01/2019 13:30

That's brilliant news. I'm so relieved on your behalf Flowers