Haven’t heard from my boyfriend since Saturday

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We’ve been dating for 6 months we’re not the type that text each other all day long but we always message each other good morning and usually have some kind of text conversation in a day.

I left his house Saturday lunchtime and he was getting ready to meet his friends in town for food then they were going out out later on we talked a little but while he was out then around 9pm I text him saying have a good night and let me know when your home he said he would and text me saying good night. Woke up Sunday morning and he hadn’t text so I text him the usual good morning and asked about his night I didn’t hear anything all day but assumed he was just sleeping/hungover I text him again Sunday night asking if he was alright and the message didn’t deliver I tried to ring him and it went straight to voicemail and has done ever since. I assumed at first he’d just lost his phone in his flat and let it die (this happens a lot he’s not the type who’s always got his phone in his hand) but he was supposed to be going out again last night for New Years and the phone is still dead so I’m starting to get really worried because he wouldn’t have gone out without it.

Not really sure why I’m posting or what help people could be but I just needed to talk to someone, maybe have some reassurance?

TheFormidableMrsC and 2019rubberband, you've both clearly misunderstood my post, but it's ok.

calzone I would put good money on him being in his bedroom being a coward and avoiding the phone/computer. It really pisses me off that these men end up having so much power through this pathetic drama.
Best to ignore them and forget about them as fast as possible.

I think you should concentrate on your children instead off men!! You sound very desperate ......

Wtf? No she doesn't. Bitchy thing to say 😕

TheFormidableMrsC and 2019rubberband, you've both clearly misunderstood my post, but it's ok.

Actually it is not ok. Don't you dare post absolute shite accusing the OP of potentially taking her frustration out on her children and then tell me it's ok because I misunderstood.

I misunderstood fuck all.

He's lost his phone or it was stolen. I'm sure he'll get in touch tomorrow when he has the means to do so.

I hope everything works out for you op, in this relationship and with your Ex.

I hope this has a happy outcome OP, from what you’ve said he sounds like an ok guy, just a bit flaky maybe. I’m reassured by the fact you met him irl rather than online too as that’s where most of the weirdos/ghosters tend to hang out.

With regard to the phone thing I don’t get why people are surprised at that being the only method of contact, it’s how most of us communicate these days - I hardly know anyone with a landline, wouldn’t think to use email for friends and the only number I know off by heart is my DD’s - if I lost my phone I’d be pretty screwed! I guess I’d try to access my synced contacts on a computer/tablet but that depends on having one available.

RedLife hear hear

There are people posting on here who give the impression that they think a single woman with children shouldn't date at all and that any attempt to build any kind of life outside the home/children is an act of "desperation".
You're damned any way you operate: you're not allowed to introduce anyone to your kids for about a year (which by the way I wholeheartedly agree with) but if you don't pretty much have an engagement ring on your finger after six months you are "desperate", don't value yourself highly enough and need to "focus on your children" (whatever that means).
The reality is that the logistics of dating as a single parent are fraught even in the best circumstances, and that's before you get to the behaviour of the men.
It does sound as if the OP picked a rum one but let's cut her a bit of slack -- she obviously is feeling bad enough about it without people piling in to imply that she's a bad mother into the bargain.

My ex did this to me and I genuinely thought he might be dead. Turned out he got really drunk and spent 2 days sleeping it off.

He also left his phone in the pub once and couldn't contact me until he could go back after work once they reopened the next day in the hope someone handed it in (they did).

Hopefully it will be something as daft as this which you can get angry about but at least will be relieved about.

Read the whole thread - also over invested

OP you’re not being ‘desperate’ or unreasonable to be worried. It sounds like his lack of communication is totally out of character and I’d be very anxious too. He might have ghosted you - but I wouldn’t jump to this as the first conclusion, nor do I think it’s the most likely explanation (and I say that as someone who’s been ghosted although not from a seemingly serious relationship). Yes, some men are shits, but there could be all manner of other explanations for this. I think a lost phone is the most likely scenario but I would call his work tomorrow if I were you. If you still haven’t heard from him by the end of the week I don’t think it would be OTT to call the police. I hope it works out for you and he resurfaces safe and sound. Ignore the nasty comments, you’ve got nothing to feel daft about!

Over invested here too

Any news?

Hoping this works out for you OP - it's so hard not to fear the worst.

Hope you get answers soon

Hope you hear from him soon op!

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Good luck OP, as others have said I hope you hear from him tomorrow and there is an understandable explanation

Please update us tomorrow. Hoping you get good news.

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No update, his phone is still going straight to voicemail and I haven’t heard anything.

I will let you all know what has happened when I find out tomorrow one way or another.

Thanks to everyone who’s been supportive

I have read most of this thread and normally I am the first person to shout/think ghosting but, in this case, I genuinely think that he may have just lost or broken his phone. Hope everything works out for you op

Fingers crossed op that there is a god outcome. 🤞

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Hope it works out ok OP 🤞

I hope u get good news and just has been silly and broke or lost his phone, which I think it sounds like.

All the storing numbers else whwre and having his personal email address isn't something u usually do when dating someone, all the info I have is on my phone. If I lost that I would be stumped too.