@Amicrazyornot I've done counselling with DH. I'd be very careful unless the counsellor is acutely aware of how Aspergers manifests in intimate relationships, as Salitae's seems to be. If not the process can be very damaging to you.
The therapist views you both equally. This is as it should be. However, if they're not acutely aware of how Aspergers impacts things, the questions they ask the Aspergers partner and how they view the interactions between you both will essentially serve to reinforce the problem you face.
An example: in therapy DH talked earnestly about how I'm his top priority, about how much he loves me, about how hard he's trying to make our relationship work. Very clear that he wants a physically intimate relationship with me, about how hard he's trying to achieve that.
Then the therapist would ask how I feel about any of that (I'm squashing this into a couple of paragraphs, the actual conversation was more protracted!). I would say that I have no idea that he wants anything physical, because he never touches me, I've never seen any signs he's working on our relationship and I don't understand how I can be his top priority, when he rarely notices I'm there.
DH would respond along the lines of "See, nothing I do is ever good enough for her." and "Look at how she's always negative."
We would get exercises to do before the next session, which was often 3 weeks apart because DH refused to meet more frequently. Part of the homework would be specifically that DH initiate them. DH would do NOTHING the entire 2.75 weeks, then just before we went back, sometimes the night before, would initiate them. Then we get back in the session. Therapist asks one of us (didn't matter which) how it went. DH: (soundings very positive) great, I did the exercises, it went well, it was good. Me: he did nothing until last night/night before last. DH: That's not true. See how negative she is.
DH genuinely believed what he said. I guess that, for the exercises, he was stressed about them, so in his head he was doing them the whole three weeks, but in reality, it would be once. Every single time.
In short, in order to investigate why he felt what he felt, why he only did the exercises once, the the sessions spent a lot for time focussing on him and how he felt. That really just perpetuated, albeit in a microcosm, the energy that was spent in the relationship by me on trying to get some understanding about the situation.
Eventually, after a long time, Aspergers came up. The therapist helped him understand it was very, very likely he has it. He looked into it and found a lot of his life explained about it (which was heartbreaking for me to watch), so it was useful for that.
Interestingly, after two years of not seeing the therapist, I went back on my own to discuss something else with him. In that session he asked something about the two of us going to another therapist. I told him I'd never do it again with DH. And he commented, "No, you never want to go through that cycle again.".
So I'd say go to someone who knows about Aspergers in intimate relationships, or at least has an awareness of it (or is willing to learn), and be clear about what you want out of it before you start.