Thanks for that hugs! 
made me feel better. Older DS had an upsetting and scary incident. DP did do a helpful practical thing, which was great. However he then went on to be quite cold, misjudged and laughed at some of it, it was as if he were commenting on a film, not a scared child in front of him - DS was pretty upset. I did manage to sort much of it, and to be fair DP did heed me a little when I explained. I still feel utterly alone in it though, emotionally.
@moffa that sounds positive, I think the real imagining of a different life can be very motivating. Your needs are important too. Your dream of someone just doing a small but lovely thing for you, unasked, is quite poignant.
@amicrazy you should look after yourself too!