Would you find this suspicious? And what would you do?

[ThePeachPit]

I’m pregnant and not feeling well so not really thinking straight. My partner finished work at lunch and went straight out with his colleagues. He got in about 30 mins ago, quite drunk (he’s not a massive drinker but drunk for him). He got a glass of water and said he was going to bed. He was quite and even drunk coming in and going straight to bed is a bit weird for him.
He’d left his jacket in the kitchen and his phone was in the pocket, I heard it pinging from the room and then it ringing. I went to go turn the sound off and take it up to him because honestly it was annoying me. He’s got messages, WhatsApps and calls all from the same person a female name, not someone I know or have heard him mention.
I haven’t looked at the messages but saw the banners, a few of them were just ‘?’ Or ‘.’ but she’s sent a message and WhatsApp and then tried to call him.

We have a good relationship, unplanned pregnancy but he’s been fantastic about it. He’s not weird with his phone, I know the pass code.
My ex cheated and I wouldn’t have seen that coming at the time, so I’m not naive now. But I really don’t think he’d do anything like that. But then I’m sat looking at his phone wondering if I should just read the messages to check. I don’t want that kind of relationship though, but equally I’m thinking am I stupid not to make sure I’ve nothing to worry about.

I need a reason not to do so incase she asks bf at work why I haven’t.
Have you ever met her? If not then I would say that's a valid and normal reason in itself not to add her.

That is a really weird thing to do. I would just ignore the request. Accepting it almost seems to make her significant in some way and she's not.

Also I don't think you need to give your bf a reason why you didn't add her. It suggests you're having lengthy conversations about this person who is just not important.

If she asks (which I would cringe at!) then he can just say he doesn't know, that you've not mentioned the Facebook request to him and probably didn't accept it as you don't know each other. Simples.

I'd accept.

My gut feeling is, that she likes your bf and wants to know more about you .

Keep your friends close and your enemies closer....

She may have been looking you up and pressed friend request by accident....?!
I think she fancies your DP. But don't worry, he clearly doesn't feel the same. Ignore the request and try to forget about it.

I wonder if it might have been a accident, I’ve done that before
We’ve got four mutual friends obviously bf and his two work friends but then someone I work with, don’t know the connection between them.

I guess a tiny part of me is still worried the messages meant more and she’s either wanting to tell me or wanting to keep tabs on me because somethings going on with my bf. I know I’m being silly and I do believe him and trust him.
But she’s very pretty and similar in looks to me, build hair colour etc. They teach the same subject so they obviously have things in common. He said when I first asked, that they used to be really good friends when they first started work together. Went out a lot and stuff, he swears nothing more happened though and then they both got relationships (not his with me) and didn’t spend as much time together.

Watch out for her OP you have what she wants.

Do not add her to your Facebook your partner has been open and honest.

Oh, I think she was just being genuinely friendly and I need to stop being a suspicious cow!

It’s crazy how you think you’re absolutely fine and over it. But what your ex’s do to you when they cheat as a lasting effect. I’d never be this suspicious or paranoid before my ex cheated. I’ll always hate him a bit for that!

Posted before I finished.
She’s set up a Facebook group inviting us and other colleagues/friends to a house/flag warming. I’m guessing that’s why she’d requested me so she could have added me.

My bf did say he didn’t see her doing anything to be sneaky. That she’s a nice person so I should really trust his judgement.

I think I feel a bit bad at the thought of not adding her and I need a reason not to do so in case she asks bf at work why I haven’t
In future, if you feel like this then you could do what i do - confirm their friend request but put them on the Restricted list so they still only have access to your public-only profile.

I agree with those that said she fancies your OH and she's a bit obsessed and wants to know more about you. As they said though, doesn't seem mutual he clearly doesn't feel the same. Thinking about it really you're best to ignore the request and forget her. No need to explain. You don't actually know her.

I’m not sure now @limpbizkit. He did say she was only really asking him about the baby, me and my dd. Now with the invite for the two of us, I’m not thinking it’s anything suspicious.
My bf quite jokingly said, just because I find him such a catch, I’ve to remember not everyone will.

Remember OP men are majority of the time clueless about this until ow has her tongue halfway down their throat. Then they tend to come running home frightened and not knowing what they have done to give someone the wrong impression. Just be careful of her.

Don’t accept her op - she is not your friend.

Ha! He is a bit clueless @Beaverhausen. I’ll be going to her flat/house warming in a couple of weeks so I think meeting her will be good. I’m not going to add her, but after we’ve met if we get on and she seems genuine I’ll add her then.

Now what to wear to house party that also says “stay the fuck away from my man” (that’s a joke of course)