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Amazing husband.. what’s wrong with me??

110 replies

Jod07 · 02/12/2018 18:32

So my husband is fantastic like really! He’s hot, he does everything for the kids and I. We have been together forever basically, sex life could be better atm but everyone goes through a little drought right? So my dilemma is... Out of curiousity I downloaded an app I heard some younger girls in work talk about and got chatting to a guy... now I have no intentions of ever meeting up with him but it is quite exciting chatting to him... my husband is currently in the kitchen cooking dinner while I’m being a conplete bitch and messaging another guy!... what the fck is wrong with me!? Like I know this sounds crazy but I honestly don’t know why I’m doing it it’s total self sabotage!... any advice?

OP posts:
SoyDora · 02/12/2018 18:33

I don’t know, what the fuck is wrong with you?
Just stop doing it.

Calzone · 02/12/2018 18:34

Seriously

Delete now

So not worth it

Original poster
Jod07 · 02/12/2018 18:34

It seems easy right?

OP posts:
Highginx · 02/12/2018 18:35

It’s not as funny as you think it is. It’s not OMG! It’s just sad. Stop it. You’ll hurt him.

MrsTerryPratcett · 02/12/2018 18:36

Yeah, if there was a big red button marked End of the World - Don't Touch, some idiot would press it before the paint was dry. You're that idiot.

gamerchick · 02/12/2018 18:36

We have been together forever basically, sex life could be better atm but everyone goes through a little drought right?

No not by choice. It's like a health rule in my house.

Delete the app and talk to your husband, a proper talk. You're edging your way down a really slippery tunnel and the fact you've posted says you don't really want to go down it imo.

AnchorDownDeepBreath · 02/12/2018 18:40

Delete the app. Now. There is no other way.

Original poster
Jod07 · 02/12/2018 18:41

I agree I am tht idiot!... and I don’t want to but it jst started as a bit of fun now it’s like I can’t stop! I really don’t know what’s going on in my head atm I’ve never done anything like this before

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Closetbeanmuncher · 02/12/2018 18:41

@MrsTerryPrachett couldn't have put it better myself

Have a word with yourself op you sound like a right dopey bint

SoyDora · 02/12/2018 18:42

You can stop, you just don’t want to.

maximumcarnage · 02/12/2018 18:42

We are not always sensible. Or logical. Our hearts are pretty messed up. Just make sure you do the right thing and not hurt a decent guy.

richdeniro · 02/12/2018 18:44

What if one of your husbands single mates sees you on the app? I'm assuming it's tinder, bumble or something similar.

You're playing with fire. What you're currently doing is starting an emotional affair which will break your husbands heart if and when he finds out.

Orange6904 · 02/12/2018 18:46

Show your husband the messages if it's just a bit of harmless fun.

If you won't then you know you are hurting him by doing this. I'd delete it and take up some exciting hobbies, get out with friends more etc.

SandyY2K · 02/12/2018 18:49

These things can become addictive. There are always way more guys on those apps or sites and women get hit up so quickly.

A client told me about it and I checked just to see....my word..you sign up..log in and it's like piranhas to food.

Delete the app and spice up your love life.

SauvingnonBlanketyBlanc · 02/12/2018 18:50

Stop it now.Imagine he was doing that behind your back

Chocolate123 · 02/12/2018 18:52

If you found out your husband was messaging another woman how would you feel? Delete and concentrate on your husband instead

Snowwontbelong · 02/12/2018 18:53

You need a new hobby starting tomorrow.
Delete the app now and start afresh you tomorrow.
Seriously - you stand to lose everything.

Original poster
Jod07 · 02/12/2018 19:02

Thanks! You are right! I am an idiot but wow no need for the abusive reply’s! I wrote on here because I feel stuck! I don’t want to do it but something keeps pulling me in and then I feel so bad and I know it’s wrong! Going to have a word with myself and hopefully find the courage to delete the app and not re download again!

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Snowwontbelong · 02/12/2018 19:07

Fantasy life is always better than rl but only having your dc 50%of the time is Hell.

Atalune · 02/12/2018 19:08

Wow! Like crazy!

I mean you’re such an idiot! But ok so just stop with the nasty messages.

give your head a wobble, you’re being a duplicitous idiot and you should stop now. Now

And if you cannot trust yourself to behave in a way that is respectful of your partner then at least come clean and face up to the reality that you are unhappy.

tomhazard · 02/12/2018 19:11

I would say it's because you're an attention seeker. Delete the app and stop messaging other men behind your husbands back and then posting on forums for a bit more attention.

Original poster
Jod07 · 02/12/2018 19:13

Wow just wow lol thanks for the advice 🤨

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Thankyounext · 02/12/2018 19:15

What are you playing at? You don’t even know him.

ClaudiaWinklepants · 02/12/2018 19:17

Honestly, delete the app. You have been together forever? Don't take him for granted. You have it there in front of you and nothing will beat that - especially not the excitement of texting a random. But also, don't beat yourself up about it - this is life & stuff crops up that you worth though but a good marriage is worth it...

ClaudiaWinklepants · 02/12/2018 19:18

*work through